Every College Student Should Consider Being In A Committed Relationship

Every College Student Should Consider Being In A Committed Relationship

Because life is better with a plus-one.
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As college students, we are all encouraged to have fun and enjoy the college lifestyle while we still have it. However, can the college lifestyle involve a committed relationship? From my personal experience, I believe so. Having someone to cuddle up next to after a long day of classes is such a relief. You can throw on a pair of sweats and just spend quality time laughing and enjoying time with your significant other. Even if your day was horrible and you are overwhelmed, you can always count on your loved one to make things just a little less stressful. This kind of love though and commitment is not easy to come by though and I wouldn’t encourage anyone to desperately search for that special someone. In fact, it WILL come to you when you least expect it and that is the honest truth.

Now to talk about the small but significant perks of being in this kind of relationship.

NO worrying what to wear to school or in public because who are you trying to impress?

This is a big one for me especially when I see so many girls trying hard to look their best each morning for school. As I do enjoy doing some nice makeup looks some days, I choose to dress comfortably and casually in oversized hoodies and Uggs. Also, when you do choose to dress up you will have your biggest supporter hyping you up and making you feel beautiful.

Study Dates

Study dates are CRUCIAL to college relationships and it can actually be fun when working alongside someone you love. For me, my boyfriend goes to a different college than me but we are both majoring in History so we often proofread each other’s work and bounce ideas off of each other. Mutually encouraging each other in a relationship to work towards goals such as internships, degrees, and first real jobs is really important to any college-age relationship.

A Plus-One to Everything

From birthday parties, concerts, nights out with friends, and even sadly the occasionally funeral; you will have a date to every event no matter what it may be. In college, there are constantly plans and events either through the school or set up by friends to attend. However, it is much better to establish a group of mutual friends. Then you can spend time with not only your friends but your significant other and not have to choose between them.

As for family events, I suggest depending on circumstances that you try to be part of each other’s holidays and celebrations. Even if you are from different ethnic, racial, or religious background you may be surprised to see how much you may enjoy their customs and traditions. This can also give you some insight into what traditions you may want to carry down one day to your family in the future.

Final Thoughts

In all honesty, I wouldn’t want my college experience any other way. My relationship has continued to propel me forward in all aspects of my life. Making the adjustment into early adulthood is never easy, but having someone by your side who is not only experiencing all the same emotions as you but is also supportive is fortifying. I hope every college student ultimately finds love and the type of partner they most righteously deserve.

Cover Image Credit: Allison Gass

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
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Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

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When You're With The Right Guy, He'll Take The Time To Learn About Your Mental Illness, Trust Me

If he wants to make it work and really loves you, he'll learn all of your ins and outs.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. The journey we've been on to get to where we are now has been one of the scariest and most fun roller coasters I've ever been on.

My mental health has come in the way of a lot of relationships, both romantic and platonic. I've never quite been able to find a way to master explaining it to people. And I still haven't. Explaining what can happen in your head, when you can barely explain it to yourself is a very difficult and often heart wrenching task.

When I had started dating my boyfriend, I was scared to tell him about my mental health. While I have gained a lot of confidence and it isn't nearly as severe as it was years ago, I know how it can get when "one of those days" comes. I know how scary I can get when I fall into a panic attack. I know how hard it can be to look at someone you love while they have a tear stained face unable to tell you what's wrong.

In the past I've tried two different things. One being that I wouldn't tell them at all and I would try to go day by day like I didn't have this cloud above my head. Once they'd see what I can get like, they'd leave. They "couldn't handle the amount of work I needed" or they felt burdened by being with me. Some would even say they "love me too much to put themselves through seeing me like that."

The other option I tried was putting it all out on the table. I had tried that once. I had told my most recent ex boyfriend everything. I laid it all out on the line, hoping that it would be different. At first, it was. He was comforting and understanding. Until it got to a point where he was using what I told him against me.

He knew my weak points. He knew what would hit the hardest and he was good at what he was doing.

It wasn't until my current boyfriend that I realized that isn't how love should be.

He could tell from the beginning that there were missing puzzle pieces. There were walls that I had build around me that I wasn't about to let just anyone knock down. At first, I found his pestering quite rude. Until he proved his point. He had come to me one night and said he wanted me to tell him everything. No details left behind.

I kind of sat there with my mouth open. I actually tried to pretend as if I didn't know what he was talking about. Within minutes, I was spilling everything. Every crevice I could have touched base on, I did. While I thought he was going to look shocked, scared, or bored even.

He didn't.

He was looking deep into my eyes the whole time. He never broke eye contact with me. He was focused and didn't say anything, just nodded his head. After I was finished and the tears were falling, he held me in an embrace and the only words he could mutter was, "You are so beautiful and one of the strongest people I know. You will get stronger. I promise."

He's taken the time to learn everything. He's watched psychologist's lectures, he's read articles. He's done everything in his power to learn what I need on my dark times. He honestly has gotten to know me so well, I think he knows me better than I know myself.

Not only has it helped our relationship as a whole, but it's helped me learn about myself in a way that I couldn't quite do on my own. He's offered me a kind of love that I've never had before. One where I don't have to fear rejection or getting left behind.

Ladies, if he's the right guy, he'll do whatever it takes to make sure that you have exactly what you need. Not just physically but mentally as well. My guy knows the days where, I could just really use a good cry and being held for 20 minutes. He also knows when I need reassurance.

A guy that truly loves you will learn these things about you. He won't ignore you, he won't brush it off and say "you'll be fine."

Take my word on it, that's the guy you'll want to marry someday.

I know I do.

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