Stressed Out? It's OK, You Got This!

Stressed Out? It's OK, You Got This!

College is hard and it will make you question everything.

All of the college movies I have ever seen are lies. The movies showed freedom and exciting new adventures with the struggle of finding love or proving themselves to someone. Don’t get me wrong, college is amazing. You do have the freedom and exciting new adventures. However, what movies struggle to depict is the stress, the essays, the exams, that inundates a student’s life. There might be a line here and there that shows a student has homework. There may be fleeting scenes where a student is stressed out and pulls an all-nighter. However, it rarely shows the gravity of a typical college student’s struggles. To clearly do so, half of the movie would have to be in the library showing students, some crying, with multiple thoughts of dropping out, papers everywhere and stacks of empty coffee cups.

Before college I heard that if sleep, social life, and academics are on the points of a triangle, most of the time, a student will fail to balance the three points to create an equilateral triangle. It is more common to see a student failing to put effort into a specific point. When I heard this, I scoffed and said I could handle it – but boy I was wrong. Trying to motivate oneself to go to the library to study everyday instead of going out to lunch with friends is a constant struggle. With assignments due far in the future makes it easier to push it aside and ignore it. When the midterms and finals creep up like ominous storm clouds, it honestly makes life hard and suffocating.

However, something I realize was that everyone is going through the same thing. We all are stressed and have a lot on our plates. There are different issues everyone may face, but we all have a lot to deal with. We are all in this together. If you are stressed out studying for an exam, just take a deep breath. Go and talk to your friend over a nice cup of coffee. If your mind is at ease, it will be easier to concentrate and work harder. Don’t be afraid to turn to one another to ask for help. College is, I hear, the best four years of our lives. The work load, projects, and stress is hard to deal with; however, the friendships and memories that are made are that much more awarding. The laughs you have with your friends whispering a funny story over the quiet library table or the deep, honest conversations you have at 4am after a break down are the memories you cherish and carry with you out of college. So yes, college is hard. College will make you question everything. However, college is fun. College is where you meet your lifetime friends. So take a deep breath, think happy thoughts, and get to work. You got this.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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