Studying Is Important, But So Is Having A Social Life

I Wasn't In The Best Mental State To Focus On School Work Until I Began Having Fun With My Friends

This chapter of my life also is where I can be reckless and sometimes make dumb decisions and frankly just have fun.


In high school, I never saw the appeal of partying. Sure, I hung out with friends on the weekends and went through a so-called "rebellious teenage" phase. However, my academics have always been important to me.

I came to college to get an education, so I can get my degree and make a change in the world. I know I have big ambitions, but I also believe I have the drive to achieve them. I mean, I chose to go to a school that would give me the best opportunities to be the best version of myself and accomplishing everything I want to in life.

Yet, because of how focused I was on school my first semester, I was absolutely miserable. Sure, I made Dean's List, but at what cost? I wasn't happy.

I was staying in my room, maybe going out every now and then, and occasionally studying at the Tech Center. I had a perspective of what my life at college would look like, and I just wasn't living up to that standard I set for myself. I wanted so much more than what I was doing.

It took until my second semester when I was beginning to push myself more to be more social that I felt like I was finally in college. Going out on a Friday night with my friends put into perspective that I deserved to have fun.

I understand that I am at college to graduate and enter the "real world," but what about the memories along the way? Do I really want to look back at my college experience without having any memories other than studying and networking.

Don't get me wrong. College has so many opportunities to make connections between future careers and employers and can take you so far in life. However, this chapter of my life also is where I can be reckless and sometimes make dumb decisions and frankly just have fun.

I can be serious. I mean, I have an internship, taking 17 credits, have a 3.7 GPA, an active part of my student organizations, go to the gym, and cook my own meals. I know how to time manage and ask for help when I need it. Not to brag, I think I'm doing pretty great.

For most of my life so far, I have been trying hard to get good grades and get out of my hometown. I've made it. Now, it's time to still work hard, but also allow myself to enjoy life the way I'm supposed to. This is the life I always dreamed of having, so I need to start embracing it.

I just know for me, I wasn't in the best mental state to even focus on my school work until I began going out and having fun with friends.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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How To Stay Mentally Healthy In College

Our mental health is just as important as our physical health.


Staying healthy in college seems really, really hard to do. Classes, friends, clubs, and the whole fact of living by yourself can create a lot of stress and anxiety. Most students, and people in general, don't really know how to deal with stress or how to take care of themselves mentally, leading to unhealthy behaviors physically and mentally. If you don't take care of your mental health, your physical health will suffer eventually. Here are a few tips and tricks to help take care of your mental health:

1. Eat a well-balanced diet

Eating fruits, vegetables, grains, and other healthy foods will help you feel more energized and motivated. Most people associate eating a balanced diet as beneficial for your physical health, but it is just as important for your mental health.

2. Keep a journal and write in it daily

Writing can be one of the most relaxing and stress-relieving things you can do for yourself. Writing down the issues you are struggling with or the problems you are encountering in your life on a piece of paper can help you relax and take a step back from that stress.

3. Do something that brings you joy

Take some time to do something that brings you joy and happiness! It can be really easy to forget about this when you are running around with your busy schedule but make some time to do something you enjoy. Whether it be dancing, writing, coloring, or even running, make some time for yourself.

4. Give thanks

Keeping a gratitude log — writing what brings you joy and happiness — helps to keep you positively minded, which leads to you becoming mentally healthy. Try to write down three things that brought you joy or made you smile from your day.

5. Smile and laugh

Experts say that smiling and laughing help improve your mental health. Not only is it fun to laugh, but laughing also helps you burn calories! There's a reason why smiling and laughing are often associated with happiness and joyful thoughts.

6. Exercise

Staying active and doing exercises that energize your body will help release endorphins and serotonin, which both act as a natural antidepressant. Keeping an active lifestyle will help you stay happy!

7. Talk out your problems

All of us deal with stress and have problems from time to time. The easiest and probably most beneficial way to deal with this stress and anxiety is to talk it out with a close friend, family member, or even a counselor.

8. See a counselor, peer mentor, or psychologist

Just like it was stated in the previous point, it is beneficial to talk out your problems with a counselor. We all have issues, and it is OK to ask for help.

Keeping up your mental health in college can be a struggle, and it may be hard to even admit you are not mentally healthy. This is OK; you are not alone. If you want to see a psychologist or would like to learn more about mental health, there are resources. You can also take a self-assessment of your mental health. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

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