For The Jesus-Loving Hearts That Now Step Into The Name Of 'A College Student'

For The Jesus-Loving Hearts That Now Step Into The Name Of 'A College Student'

You think once you turn the tassel, once you get handed your diploma everything will stay the same...but no.


As I sat there reflecting back, I said to myself "Well Ally, you made it through the hardest part of college and you took that jump." But let's be honest here it wasn't easy to jump. It wasn't easy to make a change. It's not supposed to be easy, that's what we always have to remember. There are so many people in this situation. You are not alone.

Here are my words, my input, my advice, my little messages to myself, and now I want to send it off to you.

​​1. Losing the friends you had for 12+ years of your life may be the hardest lesson, but biggest life lesson.​​​

You think once you turn the tassel, once you get handed your diploma everything will stay the same. . . but no, the real world hits you like a semi truck. You think your "best friends forever" will stay with your best friends. Now don't get me wrong, some people are lucky and they have lifelong friends. You can have those friends from elementary school through college and even into adulthood.

For me, I wish that was the case. It wasn't easy, and on top of that having a fear of losing people and just stop caring was the hardest thing that I had to face. I'm sure you are in the same predicament. You may not understand why this is happening. I can tell you that I spent so many nights during the first-semester questioning. Questioning "why it had to happen this way". I prayed to find people here, but as time went on prayer went down the drain and I stopped having hope. But my friends, NEVER LOOSE HOPE, BELIEVE AND TRUST WHAT THE LORD IS DOING, HE WILL SHOW YOU…JUST BE PATIENT AND PRAY. Yes, it may hurt, it may break your heart, but your heart is being broken for a reason. With the unconditional love that Jesus has for you he will open your eyes, and by the healing power, he will mend your heart back by showing you WHO YOU NEED in your life to grow closer to not only him, but the person you are called to be. When you find these friendships it will have something the other friendships didn't have. . . Christ. He will place people in your path who you know it was all his plan. Because at the end of the day those people he wanted you to cross paths with, he wanted you to see true, authentic friendship for what it really was. (THE PEOPLE HE PUTS IN YOUR LIFE WILL FOREVER CHANGE YOU.)

​2. You will learn a lot about yourself that you never thought you would.​

If you would have told me that Jesus would break into my heart more when I came to college I would of flat out told you "there's no way." But to whoever is reading this, it's so true. Here's how I can best explain it:

Jesus placed in front of me an option (college) and I accepted it. Even if the world screamed it in my ear. However, the closer it came I wanted to turn around and go back. When it came I fully wanted to go back. I wanted to go back to my comfort. But, I allowed myself to take Jesus hand in hand and surrender.

I questioned him, (like we all do sometimes) and I didn't know what he was doing. I flat out had no direction in my life and that terrified me. But, to think he already had a door opened and I did not see it. He was willing to take me by the hand and take me step by step each day.

It just may take a while and he kept on saying "Come my child, don't let go, just a few more things I have to show you and just a few more things I have to put you through so I can show you where you need to be, just trust me. I am the way, I will lead you, I won't leave you, I'm with you." By changing you get to see what you dive into, what you dig and grow from. You get to learn from the fall because without it you wouldn't know new things about who you are.

3. You will miss it.

You may not think it, but as the semester comes to a close, you might miss the moments that made your heart truly come alive. I never thought I would ever reach a point that I would say I miss my first year. It was a FIRST that I am never going to do again. You may miss the journey it took to get to this point. You might miss being "little Miss. or Mr. independent" and having something to do. And, you may realize that you miss the people you have met, the plans you made with them, and the professors you have created bonds with. I did!

Yeah, you may say "you'll be back" but it's not the same, you can't redo your first college experience (as I mentioned). There is a joy in saying "I can't believe I made it, I never thought I would of". "I'm so proud of myself and this is something I'll always brag on and on about because I never thought this was possible". "I'm going to miss just being here, it went by too fast".

Sometimes planting a seed in a place we were thrown into we finally see it growing and at the end we don't want go back home because we got so comfortable to the things we have seen what was first the unknown. We want to watch ourselves grow more. But, sometimes leaving and coming back is a way to grow also.

​4. It's okay not to know what the heck you are doing.

So many people tell you, and it's now the daily question each year of your senior year in high school "What do you want to be?" Like at 17-18 years old they want you to know everything you want to do for the rest of your life and have this huge plan? When did those numbers equal to the point where we have to know what we want to do forever?

Trust me, I got criticized because I didn't know what I wanted to do and I felt like I was doing something wrong by not knowing. But the truth is, IT IS OKAY NOT TO KNOW, DON'T STRESS. It will all come in the right time, Jesus will let you know.

5. You can make it, you're not alone in this.​

I did, so can you. Believe in all that you were put here on this Earth to do. Go change the world, go spread the light Jesus put in you to spread joy onto others. College is a scary yet a beautiful experience.

6. Never be afraid to put yourself out there.

Go meet people like you (well, there's not really people exactly like you) but find people who share the same beliefs as you. Don't be afraid to speak up, go out of your comfort zone because that's when you can learn a humongous amount of things. Never be afraid to be yourself.


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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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Dance Marathon Helped Me Understand What It Is That I Stand For

What do you stand for?


The weekend of March 1, 2019, I stood for over 20 hours for the kids. Yep, I am not lying.

Dance Marathon at FSU is a 40-hour event split into two shifts of 20 hours. My freshman year, I earned sit times throughout the marathon, which I was incredibly thankful for, but this year was something totally different. I was on the internal team this year, which means, I worked behind the scenes of Dance Marathon since September. Since I was on the internal team, I did not get the opportunity to get the set times that I did the year prior. I was worried about this because I was not sure if I would be able to do it.

Spoiler Alert! I did it.

There were many times during the marathon where I thought that I could not stand much longer, but then some thoughts came into my mind. Who was I standing for? I was standing for the kids who had to get their leg amputated because they had osteosarcoma and could no longer stand on both legs. I was standing for the kids who are bound to their hospital beds right at this very moment because they are not strong enough to walk on their own. I was standing for the children who needed me to help them win their fight.

This is what kept me standing. This motivated me so much that I did not complain once because I knew who I was doing it for, and I was not going to let them down.

There were multiple people who kept complaining. Every word out of their mouth was about how their feet hurt, or how they were so tired. A large part of me wanted to turn to them and tell them, "Do you know how tired Grayson was when he had to have his many rounds of chemotherapy when he was just one-year-old?" I did not say that to them because I realized something. I knew what and who I was standing for, but maybe they didn't. My goal this year is to help all of those people understand WHY they are doing it.

20 hours on your feet may seem like a long time, but to watch $2,210,165.21 go up at the end, nothing compares.

Like the musical group Fun. once sang, "What do I stand? What do I stand for?" To that, I say, "I stand for the kids."

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