College Is More Than Textbooks

College Is More Than Textbooks

I've learned more outside of the books than inside

If you've ever asked an undergrad or new freshman how college is going, somewhere in their response you'll hear, "I love it so far, especially living in the dorms!" or "Oh, it's alright but the campus life kind of blows." Somewhere in there, they'll probably mention that classes are going alright or that classes are a struggle. Typically, that isn't what they'll mention first though. Once I started college, I realized that although classes are a priority, they're just a fraction of what college entails.

I'm not talking about enduring the same ole' cafe food, day in and day out. College starts with those friends you hang in their room with that make you feel not as insignificant to the big university life. In college, you'll find yourself growing in more areas than just in the books.

In high school, peer pressure made it hard to figure out who I wanted to be, what I actually wanted to wear or venture off of what my friends thought was 'interesting'. College made it easier though. I've joined clubs that I find as a hobby, not just a meeting to attend biweekly. I've started to do things that actually interest me and found a few of my talents that have hidden and ones that I will never have. I've begun to develop my own style and changed my major a time or two because I'm ACTUALLY figuring out what I LIKE TO DO. (Sidenote: For those undecided majors out there, you're listening to someone who has changed their major eight times and I figured it out. Stress less.)

College also made me figure out my downfalls. Truth is, I get way too stressed out way too fast. I also hate living alone or just being alone. When my roommate goes home for the weekend, I'm staying down the hall with a friend. Although realizing that you're not perfect isn't exactly what you want to find out, there's no reason why I wouldn't want to know myself better. I have a few quirks that I've been able to work on like actually being on time for class(still working on that one...hehe).

Before I started college, visiting the counselor's office for transcripts or financial aid office were the last things on my to-do list. Even though we all still hate to make those annoying businessy stops, we bite the bullet and make it at least somewhat of a priority, because we know we have to. College has made me prioritize and want to be successful because although college can be one big party, it can also be pretty professional.

And the dorm life couldn't come at a better/worse time. Your twenties, as everyone's heard, are hard. Since my freshman year, a lot of aspects of my worldview has changed, I've opened up a savings account, and I've realized that meaningful relationships are hard to keep up with. Then it seems like everyone you graduated with is either getting married or having kids? Once you have your high school diploma, the world expects you to be an adult which most of us aren't prepared for.

I escape the mixed up world and comfort comes in pursuing my interests and friends that like the same things I do. All in all, people change in college, including yourself. As important as classes are and should remain a priority, don't forget to work on yourself and do what makes you happy. Pursing yourself in college makes more sense than studying a subject that you hate and waiting to like it someday (sounds weird but it happens).

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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Chocolate Chip Cookies Are Always The Answer, And 9 Other Things All Twenty-Something Women Know To Be True

We might not have learned these things in school, but they're definitely facts.


Being a twenty-something woman you learn a lot of things, especially out of the classroom. There are some universal knowledge and girl code that makes the world go round. Here are 10 things all twenty-something women know to be true.

1. The buddy system is still a thing 

Buddy System

Going out with friends or going to the bathroom, having a buddy (or two) can always make things more fun and safe. Having someone there to watch your back is always a necessity. Holding hands and an elastic band are not required.

2. Naps aren't just for kids 

Afternoon Nap

Look, you can keep your hot yoga and kale smoothies, a real way to energize yourself is to take a power nap to help beat the midday slump. We may have hated nap time when we were younger, but we are much wiser now.

3. Dressing room mirrors aren't your friends

Dressing Room

With the mixture of the horrible lighting, the lady working at the store asking if you're okay, and the fact that everything is literally a crop top now makes shopping for clothes a nightmare. If you are on the fence about the clothes, buy them and try them on in the comfort of your own home. Most stores have return policies, and you won't have to feel claustrophobic while squeezing yourself into jeans.

4. So you need to bring an honest friend with you when shopping 

Get In Loser

If you decide to face the dressing room mirror, don't go alone. Bringing a trusted friend, whether your mom or your college BFF, will bring honesty about what looks nice on you without making you turn into a pile of puddles.

5. You don't need to spend an arm and a leg to look good 

Looking Good

You can splurge from time to time, but clothes will fade, stain, and rip whether they are $10 or $10,000. You need to decide what is worth the bigger price tag and what is something you can find at Target that looks just as great for the fraction of the price. The designer name doesn't always make it worth it.

6. Chocolate chip cookies are always the answer 

Cookie Monster

It doesn't depend on the type of cookie, sugar, Oreo, chocolate chip, or any other kind, cookies can solve your problems no matter how big or small. They can soothe a broken heart, a rough day at work, or you're just not feeling the day.

7. Everyone is at different stages in their lives, and it is okay if you're not at the same one 

Everything Will Be Okay

In your twenties, there is this awkward period where it seems like everyone is getting engaged or having babies or landing their dream job right out of college. On the flip side, there are people are still partying like they're teenagers and living at home with their parents. No matter what stage you're in, it's okay. It is YOUR life and YOUR story, and we all take life at a different pace.

8. The right people in your life will stand out, and those are the ones you keep 

Group Hug

This can be tricky, but getting older means finding the people who make you better each day. They bring you joy and strength because you can't do life all on your own. Your value is worth the price of gold and then some, so don't waste your time on mediocre people who make you feel lesser than.

9. Most of the time, we don't know what we're doing 

Help Me

A comforting but also terrifying reality is that literally no one seems to know what they're doing. We're all flying by the seat of our pants and hope it all works out in the end. Ask for help and learn from your mistakes because that's what life is all about.

10.  Dance like no one is watching 

That's My Jam

On the dance floor or just speaking figuratively, enjoy yourself and have fun. Life is too short to be scared of being yourself. Do the sprinkler and live with no regrets, you're older self will thank you.

Being in your twenties is a fun, exciting, and terrifying time, but the thing is that we are all in this together. Embrace the curveballs that life will throw at you, and if you strike out, eat a cookie and try again later. Our twenties is the time to make mistakes, grow up even more, and find out who we truly are every chance we get.

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