How Separate Colleges Can Make Or Break High School Sweethearts

How Separate Colleges Can Make Or Break High School Sweethearts

Why long distance relationships in college are hard but not impossible
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A long distance relationship can be an experience that you'll never forget and be thankful for the lessons that came out of it. It's also something you NEVER want to experience again and be grateful that it's over. To add to the many miles apart, high school sweethearts may suffer the most.

After being so close with your best friend, it can be terrifying walking into a new chapter of your life without them by your side. You realize just how fast weekends and breaks go by, you make your conversations more meaningful, and you truly appreciate who they are as a person.

There are so many benefits, but it doesn't come easily. It's easy to over think situations so you have to confidently trust your significant other. You also have to be flexible with your time because you have a slim chance of your schedules being similar (along with so many other challenges). Again, easier said then done... but if you believe they're the one, then enjoy the journey together and celebrate when you both have your degrees!

1. People change in college

You've grown with and trusted the same person for at least 1-4 years. In some cases, you might even be ready to settle down with them but you still have this huge college journey for the next 4+ years AND your'e miles apart. In college, you're not defined by who you were, so joining new clubs or hanging out with different kinds of people isn't uncommon.

So you or your other half may try a new trend, diet, acquire new hobbies or even dress a little different. This is where you need to show how supportive you can be and just embrace the change together. Deep down they're still the person that loves classic rock and snores way too loud at night (and only you're lucky enough to know that ;)


2. You're not used to NOT seeing each other

In high school you saw each other every day, you walked to class together, and you probably went to each others house throughout the week nights (not to mention most weekends too). Now you rely on phone calls and Facetime dates and it's just not the same.

You're counting down the weekends until your next 48 hour visit and spring break can't come soon enough. And that's IF your spring breaks are the same week. But, you've never made so much out of those 48 hours together.

You're creative about your date ideas more than ever and even the days when you stay in and watch movies because college kids are broke and dates cost a lot of money. You've never cherished Friday Night Lights (for the 5th time) so much.


3. You're more likely to overthink things

"You're with Austin, Jake, and...MORGAN...??? Oh, at the library.. studying.. got it." Okay, when you're on the phone and random girls' names pop up and you have no clue who they are or how short they wear their shorts, it's hard not to overthink.

I mean, you already think your man is the most drop dead gorgeous man you've met or he has something that you'll never find in anyone else. So why would anyone else think different. Truth is, trust him when he's "what if's" ruin your relationship. In the end, long distance may be the most rewarding because you truly have to trust your partner.


4. Fake ID's, fraternities, and parties exist

If he's a part of a brotherhood, no doubt that at some point he'll want to head out to the bar with the guys for a few drinks. Chances are, he won't get back in (or text you) until 1 a.m. Oh, and And don't forget that "Saturday is for the boys."

Or her and her girlfriends might have a 'Girl's Night Out' at the bar downtown on Thursday nights. This new organization that they're a part of is going to take patience, trust, and constant communication. Depending on which frat or sorority they joined, some of them are pretty selective about who they let in, and it can lead to life-changing job opportunities.

You have to unshakably know that they are still the person you fell in love with and you CAN trust what they say. Otherwise, don't waste your time on the unnecessary heartache. Enjoy this new chapter with them and totally take advantage of the fancy food and wine at their formals.

5. You'll probably miss some special occasions

Sadly birthdays, anniversaries, or even Valentines Day isn't limited to weekends.

6. You want to be there for their accomplishments and support them (and have pics to post for the gram)

Whether they're apart of an award ceremony, they just passed a crucial test, they earned their white coat going into a medical program, or they just got 1st in Fortnite, you want to be there and support them and their big achievements.

If you're not there for there recognition, you're 'not supporting them' but that not true! You're the only one that was telling them how much you believed in them while they studied at 2 a.m. and that is what's important.

7. Sundays are R-O-U-G-H

Weekends in your significant other's college town always come to an end.. and its pretty devastating when you realize that its not your windshield wipers that quit working, those are tears honey.

8. Colleges with separated guys/girls dorms can make things awkward

If you're both still in dorms and either one of your campuses has strict, separated dorms, it can get awkward. There's not a good place to keep your suitcase or overnight bag other than in your car and finding stuff to do in town all day that doesn't cost a lot of money can be hard.

Usually those are good hiking days or days to figure out what places offer College discounts! But then you have to find a hotel.. If you're lucky, maybe you have a friend that has an apartment nearby and they'll let you crash there! Bottom line, separated dorms require a lot of planning for one weekend.


9. You're surrounded by other long-distance couples that break-up

It's easy to follow the crowd and tell yourself that if they can't make it, then your relationship probably won't either.

But that's depressing so why even bother? Only you know what you're expecting out your partner and your relationship. If you and your partner have a strong relationship, trust that the distance between you will only be a journey, not a sad ending.


10. You have to be truly committed to working things out

It's so easy to hang up the phone or go to sleep mad and ignore them. When you're in high school, chances are you'll see each other or hear their name at some point the next day.

So in college, while you're miles apart, you have to make the effort to either apologize within a timely manner or accept their apology and know that they truly mean it. Effective communication is essential in a long distance relationship, as well as, patience, and trust.


Cover Image Credit: Aimee Metcalf

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Acts 1:8 Ministry Explains How To Teach Your Child To Be Charitable And Compassionate

Acts 1:8 Ministry, a non-profit organization based out of Wisconsin, believes in building strong community foundations with integrity and humility.

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There have been many natural disasters that have wreaked havoc in the United States and around the world such as tornadoes, hurricanes, earthquakes, floods, tsunamis, and volcanic eruptions. Over the last few decades, the generosity of Americans has become well-known, and it's vital to inspire this charitable and compassionate concern for others down to future generations.

Acts 1:8 Ministry has helped enrich the lives of others around the globe through the support of generous donors and volunteers who want to help spread kindness, strengthen their faith, grow the Christian church, and improve communities. To pay it forward, Acts 1:8 Ministry explains below how parents can instill charitable and compassionate qualities in their children through word, action and leading by example.

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If you have more than one child, you know there are those times they don't want to share toys, snacks, or even friends. Teaching siblings to share is less complicated when you teach your children why the love for each other is so important. In a family unit, each member depends on all the others. Parents provide shelter, food, clothing, and different needs. Children contribute by helping with chores, obeying house rules, and doing their homework. Mutual love and respect are what strengthens the family unit. Working and giving together teaches invaluable lessons to children and builds a secure family unit.

Working Together For Others

Donating time at a food pantry, shelter, or meal distribution center for low-income families or homeless folks in your local area teaches your children the importance of caring for those who are less fortunate. Explain why it is wrong to judge people who need free services to survive. Your children may encounter people who are dirty and wearing smelly clothes, and they need to know not to say anything that would hurt their feelings or embarrass them.

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If your state has a beverage deposit on soda, juice, and alcoholic beverages, you and your children can collect discarded cans and bottles. The money you receive from their redemption can be donated to a variety of charitable causes including animal shelters, food banks, clothing distribution centers, or a local charity you support. There is always a need for cash at all of these facilities. Plan annual family fundraisers, such as yard, craft, bake, and plant sales. Donate the money earned to one or more charitable projects the family chooses together.

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Establish habits and family routines to encourage charitable acts. Choose things that fit your family's lifestyle. Keep a large "charity" jar and place a dollar amount in it every time the family does something special such as going to the movies, spending a day at a water park, eating out, or taking a vacation. Whenever the family spends money on a fun adventure or outing, setting a little money aside to be used for those who don't have the same opportunities helps children understand the need for caring about other people. Other things you can do as a family include:

• Reduce the amount of clothing in your closets, and donate clean and undamaged items to a charity that distributes clothing to low-income families.

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Home For The Summer

Home sweet home.

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Now that school is finally over, I packed up all my stuff and finally got to go home and be with my family again. More specifically, I got to see my dog.

Moving out was a hassle. I didn't realize how much crap I actually had. Sure, it started off not too bad when I moved in, but over the course of the year, more and more stuff came into my possession. By the time I was supposed to move out, it was like I had twice the amount of stuff from when I started. It took two days to officially move all of my belongings back home.

Since being home, I've noticed a couple of things.

First of all, my mom missed me a lot. Hi, Mom. :)

It's not like when I went to college, I completely disappeared from my mom's life or anything like that. We talked on the phone often, and she would visit me sometimes to take me and my sister out to dinner or something with our dad. Also, with the number of times I had gotten sick throughout the entire year, it was like every other week I came home.

The first day I came home, she made a run to the store and called me asking if there was anything I needed, and I said not to my knowledge. She came home with a crap ton of my favorite ice cream and snacks, just because.

Another thing she's been doing is cooking every night. My mom works during the week, so understandably when she gets home, she doesn't always feel like slaving away in front of the stove to make dinner. However, for whatever reason, my mom has made it her sole mission to make me gain 20 pounds by the time the fall semester comes around.

She knows I hated the food at school, so whenever she cooks dinner, she mentions that I love being home because I get to have real food. I mean, I'm not complaining. Who doesn't love a homecooked meal?

I can tell my dad is pretty happy about me being home with the new change in the menu.

Second of all, for the time being, I have A LOT of free time.

Now, this will change once I get my summer job, but as of right now, I have nothing to do. Both of my parents work during the week, and I didn't really keep in touch with the majority of my high school peers, so I have no one to hang out with. I mean, I could see some of my college buddies and sorority sisters, but everyone lives far as hell away.

This is kind of difficult for me. Not because I can't just spend time alone; I have no problem with that. However, I'm used to having a full schedule. Aside from just being used to it, I like it. I'm one of those people who likes to keep busy.

When I'm out and about or have a lot of things to do, I feel productive. Now, I just feel lazy because I literally have nothing to do. To try and counteract this, I've resorted to doing a personal project throughout the summer.

I just need something to occupy my time. Boredom sucks.

I'm glad to be home, though. Living at college is great, sure, and you have all this freedom to do whatever you want and you won't get in trouble or whatever, but I don't really care about all of that. Family is very important to me.

My mom, as crazy as she is, is my best friend, I tell her everything. Living away from that can really stink. Makes me wonder if that is why I kept getting sick so much. Like it was my body's way of forcing me to go home and be with my family.

This summer is going to be a much-needed break from school. I'm excited to see where things go.

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