I'm The Girl Who Wants A Career AND Kids By 35, And That's OK

I'm The Girl Who Wants A Career AND Kids By 35, And That's OK

I have every right to heavily focus my $30,000/year education and personal life.
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In life, I feel as if we are always choosing between two things.

Chocolate or vanilla? Cats or dogs? Cash or credit? Everyday decisions are the easiest to make, but what about the life-altering ones?

Let’s say, a future career versus a future family?

Society places this huge pressure on millennials to either work your ass off, or have a family by your mid-thirties. Despite those who choose both, oftentimes people feel the need to pick between the two, as if it's impossible to have it both ways.

This dilemma is too ‘black and white’ for my likings. Personally, I want both of these things.

And yes, I would like to have my life figured out by 35 -- rough deadlines are perfectly OK to have, regardless of everyone who says not to rush. And they are right. It’s important to take your time, but equally as crucial to keep your eyes on the prize.

As fun as college can be, I am here to make something of myself -- not to settle for things that I do not want.

If I want to pursue a six figure-salary job and start a family sometime after grad school (while I can), I should be able to do so without criticism -- just as some people solely focus on their career versus having children, or vice versa. You know what? Any of those paths are OK. I want others to know that it’s OK to want both at the same time, because before you know it, your time has passed.

Sure, maybe I do take myself a little too seriously sometimes. But, you know what? That’s OK.

I have every right to heavily focus my $30,000/year education AND personal life.

I’ve had my fair share of fun, and I am ready to put work into my aspirations, values, and wellbeing. If that includes grad school, an amazing relationship, eventual high-paying job and family of my own, that’s what it shall be. That’s what’s going to make me happy someday, so why not go for it?

Don’t get me wrong, you can still catch me watching football every Sunday, going to tailgates, having lazy Netflix days, and living it up on the weekends. Just because I want to stop f*cking around, does not mean I am selling myself short -- by any means. I have to grow up someday, so might as well try to sooner than later.

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14 Fraternity Guy Gifts Ideas, Since He Already Has Enough Beer

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What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

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Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

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3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

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4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

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5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

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6. Condom case

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7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

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8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

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Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

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13. Frat House Dr. Sign

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Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

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Please note that prices are accurate and items in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

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Toughing It

A few words about overcoming a rough patch.

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Nobody's perfect. Things can be going beautifully, and all of a sudden become very messy. Not everything is going to go over smoothly, but that's expected. People get stressed, and they overreact. How you handle these situations is what truly matters.

I've seen it all. I've seen people leave these occurrences behind them and move on with their lives as normal, picking up right where they'd left off. I've seen people bottle their emotions in, and not communicate their feelings. I've seen people communicate their feelings to others, but not reach out to the person they're actually upset with in order to resolve a problem. I've seen people be outright nasty for no reason. I've seen people act quite maturely, but I've also seen people act in ways I thought only occurred in middle school.

I'm the type of person who faces things head-on. If I'm upset about something involving someone, he/she will hear it directly from me. I don't like leaving issues to brew, so I tend to directly confront people. That's not exactly everyone's prerogative, but hey - they're not me. Everyone handles their situations differently... some haven't exactly made the choices I would make, but hey - I'm not them.

Some find success in being more passive. But this has two different outcomes - either it gets dropped completely, or it brews. The first is an easy way for everyone to move on. The latter is a disaster waiting to happen. If you feel like something is only gaining steam, then ignoring the issue may not be the best idea. That balloon will eventually burst, and the result will not be pretty. At all.

In resolving an issue, you may just have to take a second and think about whether or not it's actually worth drawing out. If the issue doesn't actually pertain to you, drop it. I cannot stress that enough. If you were not directly involved in something, you have absolutely no place to judge. The best idea, in this case, would be to just accept the fact that things don't always go the way you want them to.

They don't always go as planned, either. If this involves a friend, think about how important that friendship is to you, and whether or not drawing things out that don't involve you is worth risking that friendship. Honestly, actually drawing it out will not only make you look immature but may also come across as you questioning your friend's character... and believe me - that is not worth it. You choose who you surround yourself with, and you chose these people for a reason. Remember that.

These things are going to happen. There are going to be rough patches. There are going to be things that people do that you don't always like and/or agree with. There are going to be things that happen that you can't wrap your head around. But at the end of the day, it's the way you handle it that people will remember.

If you messed up, own up to it. I know - much easier said than done. But taking responsibility will maintain the respect others have for you and will keep your maturity and integrity intact. If someone takes responsibility, don't draw it out. Trust me - it's not worth it. That will only dig the hole deeper, and then you're in an even rougher patch that will be even more difficult to work through.

Not everyone operates the same way. This is to be taken into account for not only what you're handling, but also the way things are handled. People aren't always going to do things you would necessarily do, and they won't always handle it the way you might've chosen to. It takes a lot of acceptance, open-mindedness, forgiveness, and patience. Much easier said than done, but definitely more worthwhile in the end.

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