I'm The Girl Who Wants A Career AND Kids By 35, And That's OK

I'm The Girl Who Wants A Career AND Kids By 35, And That's OK

I have every right to heavily focus my $30,000/year education and personal life.

In life, I feel as if we are always choosing between two things.

Chocolate or vanilla? Cats or dogs? Cash or credit? Everyday decisions are the easiest to make, but what about the life-altering ones?

Let’s say, a future career versus a future family?

Society places this huge pressure on millennials to either work your ass off, or have a family by your mid-thirties. Despite those who choose both, oftentimes people feel the need to pick between the two, as if it's impossible to have it both ways.

This dilemma is too ‘black and white’ for my likings. Personally, I want both of these things.

And yes, I would like to have my life figured out by 35 -- rough deadlines are perfectly OK to have, regardless of everyone who says not to rush. And they are right. It’s important to take your time, but equally as crucial to keep your eyes on the prize.

As fun as college can be, I am here to make something of myself -- not to settle for things that I do not want.

If I want to pursue a six figure-salary job and start a family sometime after grad school (while I can), I should be able to do so without criticism -- just as some people solely focus on their career versus having children, or vice versa. You know what? Any of those paths are OK. I want others to know that it’s OK to want both at the same time, because before you know it, your time has passed.

Sure, maybe I do take myself a little too seriously sometimes. But, you know what? That’s OK.

I have every right to heavily focus my $30,000/year education AND personal life.

I’ve had my fair share of fun, and I am ready to put work into my aspirations, values, and wellbeing. If that includes grad school, an amazing relationship, eventual high-paying job and family of my own, that’s what it shall be. That’s what’s going to make me happy someday, so why not go for it?

Don’t get me wrong, you can still catch me watching football every Sunday, going to tailgates, having lazy Netflix days, and living it up on the weekends. Just because I want to stop f*cking around, does not mean I am selling myself short -- by any means. I have to grow up someday, so might as well try to sooner than later.

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You Are What You Eat, You Are What You Read

“Would many choices be better than limited choices?”

Every day, choosing what to wear and what to eat are hard tasks. And if there is no satisfactory clothing and location that bump into mind, we may feel uncomfortable with the clothing we wear for the day, and there is a possibility for us to skip the meal, though sometimes the hunger holds.

Once I saw a friend posting “When would our hesitation of deciding what to wear and what to eat come to an end?”, a normal and typical complain of our mundane life. For no reason, I started thinking, when and how would this “problem” resolve itself? Sure, I was very curious about the answer as well.

Later, I have arrived at two answers. The positive one would be that we know exactly what we want to wear and eat, though there are many choices ahead, we would directly choose the one that is in mind, without hesitation. While the negative one would be, there is only one choice hanging, that we have no other choice.

I was terrified of the answers immediately.

Washington D.C. is a small city geographically, but as the capital, D.C. provides us multiple choices over many spectrums of our lives – internships, sightseeing sights, museums, National Mall, etc. Just like the difficulty posted earlier, we have too many choices.

“Would many choices be better than limited choices?” I guess this is the real question behind my friend's complains.

Normally, we believe more options are better than less, then the core of the question comes into the person:

What do you want?

Who do you want to be?

And all I can think of are:

You are what you eat.

You are what you read.

We probably arrived at this philosophical question about what is contained in our bodies? Physically, the food we eat largely determines our health conditions. As most of us pursue our lives to be healthy, we have created a healthy diet, which introduced the better eating styles with a certain percentage of specific kinds of food. In this case, "eating" not only represents a mere action, it also determines our lifestyles and the physical appearance of ourselves.

Outside of physical health, mental health is the other very important category for people in this time era to take good care of. And the easiest way to build up our mental stability is to read, so we can learn more about the world and then to understand ourselves.

Eating and reading are the two inseparable parts of our daily lives, and to be more alive, continuing the two actions and trying to do our best in the two categories should be our goal of living. Because we know, they are the paths to the future we desire.

We are what we eat, and we are what we read.

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