How To Navigate Friendships In College

How To Navigate Friendships In College

"Why can't we be friends?"


Who doesn't love their friends? They make life more fun, they make the mundane days extraordinary, and they are always there to cheer us up. However, among juggling classes, club meetings, and extracurriculars in college, it can be tough to maintain good relationships with your friends and make time to hang out with each other. On top of that, going to a university with thousands of people makes it even harder to see your friends on a regular basis. So, here's some advice and things to remember while navigating your friendships in college.

1. Not everyone that you meet right away will remain your friend, and that's totally normal

When I got to college I met hundreds of different people within the first couple of days. Some people I really clicked with and enjoyed being around. However, with busy schedules, our differing residential buildings, and opposite interests, many of the people that I met at the beginning, I hardly saw and therefore were not the people that I would become close to. On the bright side, now I know lots of familiar faces and have acquaintances in almost all of my classes, which is really comforting.

2. You might grow apart from some friends and that's ok

Going to a giant university means that sometimes you are close to certain people then all of a sudden your schedules change and you don't see each other anymore. Or you join different clubs and make stronger relationships there. This is totally ok! College is a time to branch out and meet new people. Even though you and your friends might not see each other as often as you did, you can look back and appreciate the good times that you had. Learn to be content with having friends even if it's only for a short season in your life. They were meant to be there for a reason.

3. Be open to unexpected friendships

In my case, I made lots of friends through happenstance. These are the best because you will always have good memories of how you met. Always be ready to make new friends and seek to broaden your horizons, you never know what great relationships are ahead of you.

4. Be intentional about keeping in touch and meeting up with people

This is so important! At a big college, it's so easy to get caught up in school work, and other activities that you can lose sight of your friends. So please be intentional with checking up on your friends, making the time to get dinner, or hang out. Cultivating strong relationships is one of the key things to surviving the stressful college life. Stand by each other and show each other that you care.

5. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there and be the first to suggest hanging out

Many times, I wanted the other person to reach out to me and ask to hang out because I was worried about bothering them or being rejected. More often than not the other person is thinking this exact same thing! So, break the ice and put yourself out there! You have nothing to lose and a possibly great relationship to gain!

Friends are the BEST part about college! You have the unique chance to meet people from all over the world, with different backgrounds, and experiences. So just keep an open mind and be yourself!

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11 Ways You Found The Cristina To Your Meredith

"We're friends, real friends, and that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally decide to look back, I'll still be here."

The term "my person" describes the relationship between two people who have reached the highest level of friendship. They're people who have ridden the roller coaster of life together for so long that their lives would be boring without each other. In "Grey's Anatomy," the characters of Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang describe each other as each other's "person." They have a perfect friendship. Everyone (including myself) strives to achieve a friendship like theirs. What is it like to have "your person?"

1. Your person will tell it like it is.

If you think that your new haircut looks bad or if that dress makes you look fat, your person is always there to reassure you that nobody cares.

2. Your person is always on your team.

Whether it's an argument between you and your parents or you and your boyfriend/girlfriend, your person will always be there. They will go to bat for you 10/10 times and they will always be there to have your back.

3. Your person will celebrate the small victories with you.

Did you go an entire day without crying? Awesome, let's celebrate! Did you eat something other than chocolate chip cookies for breakfast? That's wonderful! The small victories count the most.

4. They will listen to you, even when you are ranting about the craziest things.

Let's face it, we have all been there. When it's late at night and we're laying in bed, thinking of the world's hardest questions, and you start to think about crazy scenarios, your person is always there to listen.

5. People instantly think that you and your person are a couple.

You aren't a couple, you just understand each other on a much higher level, so people think that you guys are in a relationship. Just go with it.

6. Your person isn't afraid to tell you that they are embarrassed by you.

Everyone gets embarrassed about each other at one point or another. Most people just pretend that it doesn't happen. Your person is going to flat out tell you that your actions and the things that you say embarrass the crap out of them.

7. Your person isn't afraid to knock you down a few notches.

Just when you think that you are on top of the world, your person will come and pop the growing balloon known as your head. They aren't afraid to snap you back into reality.

8. They will build you up faster than they will tear you down.

Yes, they will bring you back to reality and tell you like it is, but they will also be the first one to encourage you and to tell you how wonderful you are.

9. Your person is not afraid to call your bluff.

They will call you out on your BS and make you tell them how you really feel, so they can help fix you.

10. You stick together no matter what.

Even though you get mad at each other, or don't speak for a few days, you will always stick together.

11. In the end, no matter what, no matter who comes in and out of your life, your person will always be your person.

Your person is there no matter what. They care when no one else does and they are always there to hold your hand.

Find your person and never let them go. They are your best friend, your worst enemy, and your biggest critic, but they know you better than you know yourself sometimes.

As for my "person," you know who you are. I love you and couldn't do life without you.

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To My Best Friend At A Rival University

No amount of school rivalry could ever change our friendship.


In high school, we were practically inseparable- you and I and all of our friends. Even though we saw each other every day during the week (when both of us decided to actually go to school, at least; senioritis was real and it was rough), we usually saw each other at least once over the weekend, whether it be a coffee date at Starbucks, a sleepover, or a trip to the movies.

We would go on spontaneous trips to the local ice cream shop (for us, it was Twistee Treat) far too often for our own good. We spent so many summer days at theme parks, followed by sleepovers that consisted of painting each other's nails, baking break-and-bake cookies, and falling asleep in the middle of 'Men in Black.'

Now, we attend rival universities. The stories we share involve names and places foreign to the other. We each have friends that know us apart from one another. Some days, we hardly get a moment to talk, other than sending funny memes back and forth through Instagram.

Though it may seem like being away at rival schools would hurt our friendship, I think it's only made us closer.

When I come to visit you (or you visit me), we always make the most of our time, knowing that it's limited. We often do the same things we would've done at home, but in new locations, which makes it even more fun. Sometimes, I wish we would've chosen the same school- because having your best friend with you, sharing new experiences is always better than not- but I know we're each happy where we are. We're making new friends and new memories, which makes for new stories to share with one another.

I know that I can share anything with you without fear of judgment, and I think you know the same.

Even though we can't just stop by unannounced anymore, planning weekend trips to visit one another is still really fun.

Sure, we go to rival universities and we will never agree on whose school is superior, but in the grand scheme, it doesn't even matter. Your school is extremely lucky to have you and in my eyes, you are what makes it great.

No matter the distance, no matter how strong the rivalry between our schools, you will always be my best friend and the memories we've cultivated throughout our friendship will never be forgotten. I can't promise I'll wear your school colors again (that was a one-time thing and does not diminish my love and respect for my school!), but I can promise that you'll always have a friend in me.

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