What you’re good at and what you like is not always the same thing. For 18 years, our only indication of whether a subject was “for us” or not, is a red letter grade at the top of the paper. After 18 years of that, in classes we usually didn’t even get to pick ourselves, how is anyone supposed to know what they want to do for the next 50 years? A lot of people go into college undecided on their major, and hope that gen-ed classes will help them figure it out. While that can be helpful for some, others are still unsure. There are some people who have always known, and some of us probably always will be a little bit unsure.

This uncertainty isn’t a new phenomenon for college students, but there is something about this generation that adds a particular form of uncertainty that is unique to this unstable economy and job market. Not only are we unsure of what job we want, we are unsure of what job we can even get and if it will be able to sustain us. These worries are not discipline-specific either, from Art and English to Accounting and Biology—we are all a little bit worried.

But more than the stress of finding a job, this uncertainty creates a certain attitude towards some majors. Maybe it’s out of fear, or some psychological reassurance that you are on the right path, but shaming other people’s major has become a huge trend on many campuses—and a huge problem. On a long list of reasons why no one should be shamed for picking a major they are actually interested in and actually enjoy, the first is that most of the time, no one knows what they are really talking about. “An English major? What are you gonna do with that, write a book?” Well, maybe. I could. But I could also be an editor, a publisher, a copywriter, a journalist, or anything else, really. There are a lot of things every major can do, but most of us are still going to have the same problem: The real world is full, and there are a lot of us waiting to get in.

So, in order to cope with the gloomy outlook of “the real world,” a lot of this generation has reprioritized—success doesn’t mean a good job, a lot of money, and a big house. For many of us, success is doing meaningful, fulfilling work: Happiness is a bigger part of success than ever. While that may seem like we’ve lowered our standards, I think it’s safe to say that the economy and job market kind of did that for us. Since a college education no longer guarantees certain things like it did for our parents, we have slowly re-defined what college is all about. Sure, it is still for getting an education, but it is also for finding things we are passionate about and things that will contribute to our future happiness, not our future pocket books.

If you think you are better or smarter than someone because of their major, remember that you both got into the same school and that if it was that easy, they wouldn’t be spending $40,000 a year to learn how to do it. And also remember that it is none of your business how someone else tries to make his or her life more fulfilling. The real world kind of sucks. So if someone is trying to make it a little less terrible by NOT choosing a profession they already can’t wait to retire from, let them, encourage them, and by all means do not shame them for not wanting to be happy.