Rejection From College Doesn't Make You Not Worth It

Please Don't Let College Acceptance Letters Determine Your Self Worth

You're so much more than a college acceptance letter.



A notification on your phone pops up, and you slide it across your screen, ignoring the email from the college you've dreamed of attending since you were ten years old. You take a deep breath, and turn on computer. Your shaking fingers quiver over the keyboard, typing in the URL for the admissions portal, hovering over each key before they click the right combination to your username and password.


A bar races across the screen with those exact words, your heart beating faster than it ever has before. Your sweaty finger traces itself down the trackpad, and you hit the "View Now" button.

This is it.

We are sorry to inform you...

Oh no. Your heart sinks. The Champion sweatshirt you had so eagerly bought on a college visit last summer clings to your skin, the logo on its front seems to detach and burn.

Your eyes scan the letter rapidly. Maybe you'll be waitlisted, or offered a conditional acceptance? Your brain tries to console you as you search for the golden words. But alas, all you see is...

We wish you all the best for your future.

It's over. All those years of cramming and pulling all-nighters, and playing tennis through rain or shine were for nothing. All those C2 tutoring classes for that 50 point SAT score increase were worthless. All those summers spent volunteering, all those clubs you joined and paid dues for, were for naught. If the college you wanted to attend doesn't see value in them, what's the point of it anyway?

Holistic admission reviews are a blessing and a curse. On one hand, Nina with the 36 ACT won't get in just because of her perfect score. But on the other hand, when you do get rejected from your top choice, it feels like you weren't chosen, because they didn't like you.

As a seasoned senior who may not have gotten into every college she applied to, I'm here to tell you that you're going to be okay.

"Of course," you say, "I'm going to be okay. But will I be good?"

While the pains of being rejected from your dream school may not ever go away, you should not take this rejection to mean that you, as an individual, aren't good enough.

College admissions are random and unpredictable. Even valedictorians playing varsity sports with perfect standardized testing scores and essays that would make a grown man cry get rejected from Ivy Leagues. Nobody truly understands what goes on in the minds of an admissions council, even though if you search online, you'll find about a hundred different websites that try.

All you can really do when you apply to colleges is be your best, most authentic self. That's what colleges want to see when they look at your application. And yes, if you get rejected, it's easy to take that to mean they didn't like you.

But being rejected from a college only means what you let it. If you let that make you a discouraged individual that feels like they need to change who they are because they're not attending a specific college, that's what you'll become. Instead, if you let that drive you forward and accomplish things that you never thought you could before at the university you do go on to attend, that's what will happen as well.

Even if you do go to a university that wasn't your top choice for undergraduate school, there's nothing saying you can't transfer into the school you'd wanted to go to in the first place, or even pursue a graduate program there.

You have too much potential to let yourself be devalued by a group of admissions officers. Yes, they are esteemed, respectable, and doing their job, but you are also growing, and changing, and evolving into becoming an individual with a unique purpose and role in our world. Don't let a rejection stop you from reaching your full potential.

Life has many setbacks. College rejections are just one of them. They are difficult to handle, may lead to some tears, and may crush some hopes, but are not invincible. Instead of letting it overpower you, bounce back and prove that you can succeed in any setting, at any university that you go to.

To all of my disappointed senior brethren, you are not alone. Believe me, you'll make ten-year-old you proud in ways you don't even know right now. Trust the universe, and keep pushing through.

The future is yours.

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Summer In College Is For More Than Just Working

No, you're never to hold to have fun in the summer.


There should never be an age where you stop having fun in the summer. The weather is nice, there are always things to do, and everyone is just naturally happier. So, regardless of whether you're 7 or 21, I'm talking to you.

During the year it can be hard to find a routine unless you are a very put together person. Sadly, I am not. Even when I tell myself I'm going to eat healthily, work out, and stop procrastinating, I usually don't follow through with that. At school, I find myself in somewhat of a constant catch-up mode. When I feel like I'm ahead on my homework or studying, that usually means I'm behind on being healthy in other aspects of my life. That is why I love summer. It's a chance to reset the clock for a second and catch your breath.

I get that having an internship or working is important for your post-graduation life, but having fun is important for your college years too. When you get a job in the real world, summer is going to look a lot different for you. That is why it's best to take advantage of the time now. This doesn't mean turning down that work experience, it means doing things other than just working.

First things first is finding a hobby you enjoy that you don't do at school. Pick it up for a little over the summer. Why not? For me, this is yoga. For whatever reason, I find myself too nervous to attend yoga classes at school. I have absolutely no reason to be anxious about doing something I like, but I am so I take the time to attend a few classes a week in the summer.

Secondly, try reading. Before you make that look of disgust on your face, think about the last time you read a book of your choosing. If it was recently, then kudos to you for managing your time well enough to do that. If you are not that person, then hello! I am talking to you. I am not a fan of reading because I usually associate it with homework. However, I find that when I have the time to browse the book section of a store for a few seconds, I find multiple books that jump out at me. During the summer I take the opportunity to read a little here and there. The nice part of leisure reading over school reading is that there's no deadline. You can read what you want when you want to.

Finally, learn something new. Again I usually associate learning with things that I am required to learn for my major. Learning something new that interests you is a different kind of rush. When I'm bored in class, I make bucket lists of little things I want to learn about. They can be big or small. One time I wanted to learn how to knit. Don't ask me why my 19-year-old self thought it would be sweet to sit on my porch in the summer knitting, but I did, and I'm kind of sad I didn't pursue that interest. When might I ever have time to learn how to knit again?

These might sound like quirky things to do, but you're young. Make a bucket list and try to cross one thing off each weekend. If you're like me, then you're a little scared of growing up. Scared you won't be able to accomplish all the things you want to. But, the fact of the matter is no one is going to make you accomplish them but you. So, take some initiative and do them. Summer is for more than just working; it's time to live a little and reset the clock.

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The Movie Watchers

The Types Of People That Watch Movies


This past weekend I saw the movie of the life time, Avengers Endgame. It was the culmination of 10 years in the making and no there will not be any spoilers in this piece of writing. I however noticed the same trends that occurred each time I went to the movies. The I saw the same people, however they were just in different bodily forms. When my eyes were not glued to the screen out of sheer anxiety and thrill, I managed to catch a quick glance at the type of people that plague our good theaters.

To start off, there are always those people that are good people and don't disturb the movie experiences of others. These are the quiet people, the ones who keep their eyes on the movie and focus on nothing else. These are the people we should all aspire to be, with their bloodshot eyes from not blinking as to not miss a single moment of the movie. While I am not always the Eyes Glued To The Screen movie watcher, I can say with assurance that I am a somewhat follower of this rule. I think everyone should learn from these people.

Next comes the traditional On My Phone Like A Idiot in the movie movie watcher. This is by far the most annoying of all the people that come to a movie. Like I came to be entertained and I paid good money for this, I didn't pay 14 dollars and 31 cents to hear some girl gossip on her phone to her friend about how her boyfriend didn't bring her flowers or some middle aged man attempt to close a business deal while his kids were watching the movie. Either leave your business at home or for the courtesy of others, at least leave it outside the theater. No one brings me more anger than these people just because they don't know any common courtesy or manners.

If your at the movie, you might get hungry or thirsty so its normal for people to bring in some food, most typically being popcorn. This is fine and all but don't chew so loudly that it sounds like Jurassic Park to the person next to you. Or don't sip up your drink in such a way that it makes the people around you wonder how your mother raised you. I call this person, the Slurper. Just, be chill and watch the movie. At least your not like the On My Phone Like An Idiot where you're an inconvenience to the whole theater.

Movies are a great way to get distracted from the horrors that are our personal lives. They are solace for some people, giving us a place to escape from reality. So please, don't disturb the kind movie goers who just need a break from that relentless school, job, or even family. Just give them their peace. So sit down, turn off your cellphone, and enjoy the movie.

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