To The One Who Has Closed Off Their Heart
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To The One Who Has Closed Off Their Heart

A genuine letter to my friend who has built walls around his heart.

Anna Jones
Nov 07, 2016
Lakewood, Colorado
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To The One Who Has Closed Off Their Heart
Anna Jones

Dear Friend,

I am writing this letter because I am concerned about the condition of your heart. I have known you for a little bit of time now and feel that I have gotten a good sense of your character and desires. In seeing that and personally experiencing life with you, I am concerned.

On the surface level you are a great guy, you have lots of friends, and you’re likeable. You enjoy life and try to live it to the fullest, which is great. I appreciate and admire your curiosity and adventure in life. But on a deeper level, I worry.

As people we desire love. Everyone wants to feel loved by those close to them. It is amazing to see and experience a deeper connection with people through giving and receiving love. That is such a beautiful thing. What an amazing feeling and connection God has given us as people!

However, the more I get to know you, the more I see your repulsion to love. You love your family, especially your sweet, sweet mother. But when it comes to friends and relationships you keep your distance. You let people in, to a certain point, then it seems as if warning signals start going off in your head. You have built a wall around your heart, and not in a good way.

I understand that you have been hurt in the past. I understand why you have scars and want to prevent reopening wounds and feelings. Maybe part of that is because you are a guy and naturally hide feelings (am I right ladies?) or maybe it’s just how you have trained yourself. Either way, it’s not healthy and its frustrating for those who want to love and care for you.

Please for you own sake, stretch your boundaries. Allow others to care for you and in return be intentional with them. Know what you want out of friendships and relationships and learn how to love people well. I promise it will amaze you what joy you will find if you open up your heart and be a little vulnerable with people. There is so much more value in people than in material things. Ultimately, understand everyone makes mistakes and allow grace for that.

Sincerely,

Your Caring Friend


John 15:13 "Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends."

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