Christian Boys Vs. Godly Men

Christian Boys Vs. Godly Men

It is time to stop settling for the lesser of the two.

Ladies, there is a huge difference between a Christian boy and a Godly man; therefore, it is time to stop settling for the lesser of the two.

So many times I hear girls saying:

“Well, he’s a Christian.”

“He goes to church with me.”

“He listens to Christian music.”

“He went to church camp.”

“He has a favorite bible verse.”

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Well, all of those things are just peachy and there is nothing wrong with doing those things. I mean, they’re all good things to do. But how is his personal relationship with God? How is his prayer life? Does he talk about his relationship with God, with you? Is he truly a follower of the one true God in all aspects of his life? These are some of the characteristics you should be looking for that makes a Godly man.

Ladies, a man will love you great when he loves God greater.

A Godly man will pursue an honest relationship with you. He will be clear of his intentions. A Godly man will worship, pray and passionately praise God with you. Whereas, a Christian boy might open the door for you, a Godly man will open his bible and explore God’s word with you so that you both may grow spiritually, together. While a Christian boy may put on an outward show, a Godly man will live out the love of Jesus daily.

So ladies, are you catching on to this ongoing trend? A Godly man does more because you deserve more.

A Godly man will be a leader. Trust me, I know that in today’s society Godly men are few and far between while Christian boys come in plenty. But you deserve a man who is after God’s heart not just a boy who goes to church. And I know that this Christian boy may seem great and have some really stellar qualities at the time but money and looks fade, whereas, an ongoing love for our savior will not.

The greatest thing a man can do for a woman is to lead her closer to God than himself. (Yes, yes, yes).

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So I beg of you, do not settle. Do not settle just because you’re tired of being single, it’s convenient or because you want the relationship your friend has. Single does not equal available and a relationship status does not define you. God uses your season of singleness to prepare you for what is to come. And if you’re dating a Christian boy, he needs to step it up or you need to move on. Wait for a Godly man who is ready to lead you. God’s timing is always better, always. No matter the circumstance. So, do not rush God. (I mean, He is, after all, pretty good at His job). Therefore, turn your full focus to Him and He will direct your path.

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

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Do College Kids Have To Tithe Too?

How I learned to see the Lord's faithfulness (even to broke college kids)

For years of my life, I watched my parents drop checks in the offering plate every month to give back to God a portion of what he gave to them. I understood the general idea behind tithing, but I always wondered to myself, "Do I have to do that?"

I continuously tried to figure out where in the Bible it tells you the age at which you are supposed to start putting money in the offering plate, but time and time again, I failed.

Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians that "God loves a cheerful giver", but I could not seem to fathom the idea of giving with a cheerful heart. I did not find satisfaction in giving away my money.

However, after over a year of tithing "reluctantly and under compulsion", I realized the error in my reasoning. It isn't MY money at all.

James 1 explains that all of the good we have in our lives is given to us by God. I had to come to the realization that God, in His abundant grace, was providing me with this money, and just as we are told in Luke, our abundance is not found in our possessions.

I was placing so much worth on money, that I become obsessed and greedy with something that wasn't even mine to begin with.

I began to pray to God, asking Him to make my heart cheerful because it wasn't. Once I comprehended the fact that God was providing this for me, my attitude shifted greatly.

I gave with a sense of gratitude for what I was blessed with, and viewed tithing as an act of worship, thanking God for His faithfulness in taking care of me.

Don't get me wrong, I still struggle sometimes when my paycheck is thin or I'm running low on funds for the month (which is basically every month when you're a broke college kid), but I have seen that when I give God my "first fruits" rather than whatever I can scrounge up once I'M done spending, He proves Himself faithful time and time again.

So rather than obeying a rule, or doing it out of obligation, tithe because you WANT to give back to God. Ask him to change your heart to see His faithfulness in your life.


"Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver." 2 Corinthians 9:7

"Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change." James 1:17

"Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness for one's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions." Luke 12:17

"The best of the first fruits of your ground you shall bring to the house of the Lord your God." Exodus 34:26

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We Are Weak - And That's Okay

Leaning into God and community when we struggle

There are three types of people in this world – people that have gotten help (and may need it again), people who need help now, and people who pretend they don’t need help at all.

That’s a bit of a generalization, of course, but there’s some truth to it. I’ve been in all three categories on my walk with God, sometimes in more than one at a time. I’ve probably spent the most time, however, in the latter category, hiding from my struggles or acting like I've got them on my own. And while I don’t necessarily take comfort in it, I think it’s true that many believers are or have been in the same boat.

There are many reasons, I think, that people don’t seek help from others. For some, it’s an issue of trust – they’ve been burned so often that they assume everyone they meet has bad intentions. For others, it’s an issue of shame, a trauma or even a mistake from the past that weighs them down and leads them to believe that they don’t deserve help. Some struggle with the feeling that their problems aren’t worth the time of God or others. And there’s also the issue of pride, feeling as though having or being unable to solve your problems means that you’re less than others.

I’m sure there are plenty of reasons I didn’t name, but I can say that I’ve hidden my struggles for all of those I’ve listed here. Keeping them to myself, trying even to ignore them before God, was probably one of the biggest misjudgments I’ve made.

The truth is that even if, as I did with varying success, you are able to project a persona that is okay, we are prone to neglect our weaknesses.

We’re all weak sometimes. We stumble, we fall, we can’t do this on our own. God created us for community, and a major part of community is lifting up one another.

Consider the example set by the early Church. In his letters, Paul frequently asked for prayer from other believers. He also stated often that he was praying for them. He would share information about the current predicaments faced by both himself and fellow believers.

Indeed, Paul didn’t find weakness to be something of which to be ashamed; quite the contrary.

“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)

The grace of God through Christ has reached out to us despite our weakness – as the old children’s church song says, “we are weak, but He is strong.” It’s hard to begin fathoming how much God loves us until we realize that we are infinitesimally small, fragile, and ultimately not necessary for Him. We can own our weakness because God loves us anyways, without condition – Christ died to fulfill the conditions and save us from our violations of them, our sin.

It is paramount to learn to bring our weakness to God, something that I’m still getting used to. It is also important, however, to be able to confess our weaknesses to one another – to other believers especially, and at times to those who are trained to help.

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” – Galatians 6:2 (NIV)

I’m still learning in this area. As hard as it can be to be real with ourselves and God, it can be harder still to open up to others. This is important, however, for a few reasons.

First, when we open up to one another, we allow ourselves to grow closer as individuals and community. This isn’t to say that we should open up to everyone, but rather that when we develop close friendships or need help from a professional, it can be beneficial. A significant part of closeness comes from vulnerability – you can’t walk through a locked gate.

The other reason, just as significant if not more so, is that we are not God. When we as Christians present ourselves as perfect, we misrepresent the Gospel. God didn’t save us because we were enough, but rather because we never could be enough on our own. As 2 Corinthians 4:7 (NIV) says, “we have this treasure in jars of clay” – jars that break easily, that have cracks in them, that are held together by Jesus."

There is no shame in needing help, in asking for it. The Gospel speaks to people who realize that they can’t do this on their own. It’s not easy – I have plenty of learning to do myself on how to be vulnerable – but God calls us to it with Him and one another.

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