I was recently asked if happiness is a choice. While the answer to this question isn't black and white, it seems simple enough until you start to think of the vast grey area that can sway ones decision. For starters, happiness has different meanings to different people. What I deem happy may be someone else's idea of a lesser feeling.
When asking some friends if they believed happiness to be a choice, I got different answers that all seemed to led to your point of view. That is what determines it all. If you have an optimistic point of view, you can see the happy in just about everything. For the times you can't, you just have to remind yourself that something good has got to come out of this.
I believe some are naturally wired to see the good in things. It comes easy and natural. While others, are often faced with the unpleasantness of it all right away. As much as we would love to say happiness is a choice, there is always the circumstances that jeopardize our smiles.
Happiness not only can show up in instant gratification situations, it can also grow slowly and quietly. It will surprise you when it finally appears and at that point you're able to look back and see that sometimes unfortunate events were blessings in disguise that just hadn't got the chance to bloom yet.
I think too that it can show up in ways you would believe no light could ever shine again. In loss, death, sickness, emotional fights, words you wished were left unspoken, and in days you wish you could take back. Sometimes, even in the midst of all that, you can find happiness when choosing to forgive and move forward.
My question for you is, which is harder choosing to be happy, or choosing to be unhappy?