Parents, Your Children Are Listening To You, Whether You Want That Or Not

Parents, Your Children Are Listening To you, Whether you Want That Or Not

The little ears hear you whether you want them to or not

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This has been a year and a half, if not more, of complete and utter political warfare. No matter who you support or how you feel, that statement holds true. To be entirely honest, I've never been a confrontational person. I am not one to get heated and say things I don't mean (usually) but this year has been a bit of an exception. I feel like every time I turn on the news a wealth of emotions and thoughts fill my brain, and in turn, fill my mouth. To be entirely transparent, most times, I haven't even taken the time I need to do the research and find out what's really going on in the first place before I speak. In that confession, I know I am not alone.

This season has brought out the worst in us as a nation. Name calling, insults, nasty social media posts, and the unfriending of once great friends. The worst part of it all is that you think you're being quiet. You think that only adults are the one watching you and hearing you. You think standing up for something you believe in is a great lesson for young ones to learn, and in some ways you're right. Teaching kids to stand strong and fight for their passions is a great lesson, but in other ways, you are so very wrong. The little ears hear you, they hear the nasty things you say when you think they're sleeping, they hear the venom in your voice as you talk about others, they read the Facebook comments that pop up on your phone as they're playing games sitting in the back of the car. The little ears hear you whether you want them to or not.

I've spent the greater part of almost every single day for the last seven years babysitting. There are few things I love more than spending time with nuggets (as I like to call them). Kids' wit and range of knowledge at such a young age blows me away without fail every single day. I honestly don't think I could sit here and list every child I've spent time with over the last seven years. Even if I could, it would take forever. What you don't realize though, is that even after meeting me just a few hours before as you and your husband back out the driveway, they trust me. They open up to me, and I hear what they hear.

In a perfect world, kids would be able to understand political debate. They would be able to see that even the best people get heated and angry and say things they don't mean. Sadly the world is not that kind. In their little developing minds, all they see and hear are bad words and mean statements about other people. They hear you lump entire political parties into characteristics like "stupid idiots" or "insensitive assholes", just to name two of the many I've heard kids repeat. They struggle trying to decipher which one of their friends fit into these categories that you've created. They think that all of the sudden if you disagree you can name call and bully your way to the top. They are taking in every single thing you're doing and saying, even when you think they aren't.

Nearly every single day, usually buried in a political opinion news article, I see the words "what example is _____ setting for our kids". You can pretty much fill in that space with any political leader or influencer on either side. And once again, the writer of that article may be right in a lot of ways. The actions of those in power on both sides have not been great examples to young ones but what you're forgetting is that they know that those men and woman are people on TV. Most kids could care less about the nighttime news. What they DO hear though, the influence that IS being made, is the way you respond.

So please, the next time you take to Facebook calling your colleague or friend a name, you have a side conversation with your significant other at dinner, or you rant on the phone to your college roommate, remember who's in the back seat. The little ears hear you and trust me, they're taking in and repeating way more than you think they are.

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We Need To Stop Telling Women What To Do With Their Bodies

Not your body, not your concern.
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Any social media user is probably aware of the recent controversy involving Kim Kardashian and the revealing photos of herself she posted on her Twitter. Of course, the Twitter community lashed out at it and made it into quite a large deal. Why? Why is the world so concerned over what celebrities do with their bodies? Why is the world so bothered by what ANY woman does with her body? Kim of course, being a huge personality on a social media platform made sure everyone knew that she doesn't care what the world thinks. Kim has a large fan base and is a very successful businesswoman, she should be able to express her body and sexuality without the negative feedback she receives.

I don't understand the issue with women needing to have certain limits when it comes to expressing their bodies or sexuality. Whereas men could be shirtless almost everywhere and it is rarely, almost never frowned upon. What is the difference between men and women and their ability to express and love their bodies? Who cares if Kim Kardashian wants to flaunt her fantastic body? I'll never appreciate the fact that women get ridiculed for how they choose to express their bodies way more than any man ever will. Why do people choose to be offended by the female body? Why do those think it's appropriate to tell a woman what is or what isn't acceptable for her to do with her body?

Let's stop telling women what to do with their bodies. Let's stop being bothered or offended by how a woman chooses her express or love herself, as a matter of fact, let's celebrate it. Let's celebrate the beauty of the human body and let's celebrate self-love and appreciation. If a woman chooses to show her body and express it, love and appreciate that. If a woman chooses to cover up her body, love and appreciate that. It isn't a difficult task

Stop belittling women and their bodies, stop sexualizing and dehumanizing the female body as if it is nothing but an object. Love and respect every woman individually, whether she chooses to post a nude picture or post nothing at all. Self-respect means to love yourself, to have pride and confidence in yourself. Self respect does NOT correlate with how someone chooses to express and love their body. Let's stop telling women what to do with their bodies, let's stop telling everyone what to do with their bodies. Let's learn to appreciate and respect the way people choose to love themselves!

F*ck the haters — let us love our bodies with no boundaries.

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The 5 Types of Retail Customers

A run-down on the many forms of customers you either encounter as a retail employee or are guilty of being.

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We all get summer jobs or seasonal jobs at some place to get that extra cash when we find ourselves broke after spending $300+ on Ubers/Lyfts in under a month (possibly speaking from personal experience). This in turn led me to broaden my job searching horizons and led me to work at a fast food chain that goes by the name of 'Salsaritas' (ironic since my nickname is Salsa, also was not intentional) and currently a retail store at a local mall. So, I guess it's safe to say that I have come across a lot of different people with a whole lot of personality. Working in these types of industries, it can sometimes be really hard and pretty interesting. So voila, here we go:

1. The Always Angry Customer

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This is the customer that is constantly angry. They walk in pissed off and they want everyone else to know that they are pissed off. This type of customer also uses at least one of these following sentences: "Let me talk to your manager. Who's your manager?" or the "How long have you been working here for?" Honestly, there's not much you can do to help them other than try to just do what they ask for and get them the hell out of there as quickly as possible.

2. The Messy Customer

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Easily one of the most annoying types of customers (sorry). This person will walk and run their hands through an entire counter or rack full of perfectly folded clothes, unfold them, and then just leave them on the counter or on the floor. They also have the "it's fine, it's their job to fold them" mentality. Honestly though, how hard is it to put a jacket or shirt back on a hanger? And if you're this type of customer please, please, please, put what you found back where it came from. Sincerely, every retail employee ever.

3. The Super Nice Customer

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This customer is god-send and thank god that they exist. They are the ones who you can just tell are genuinely good people. New at work and don't know how the hell to ring up a customer at a register? No worries, they'll wait there patiently, smile at you, and occasionally tell you that "you're doing great sweetie." They treat you like you're not just a retail employee and at the end of the day, you just wanna give them a hug for making your day feel less shitty.

4. The Talkative Customer

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There's two parts to this one. This type of customer is either talking on the phone while you're ringing them up at the register or is just trying to get to know literally everything there is to know about you. If they're on the phone, it's impossible to know if they're responding to you or to the person who they're on the phone with. The worst part is when they hold up one finger to signal to you that they'll be just a minute and leave you to just awkwardly stand in front of them while trying not to listen to their entire conversation. The other part is when they just want to get to know you which is cute and all until they're just trying to analyze your entire background, where you're from, what you're studying, etc. Luckily if you're like me who wasn't born in the U.S. with a very ethnic name, you just scored yourself a talkative customer. Well done and good luck getting out of the conversation!

5. The Last Minute Customer

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Imagine that you just did an 8 hour shift and right when you're about to clock out and head out to go home, you see a customer walking in literally a minute or two before the whole mall is about to close. They'll probably ask you if you're about to close even though they can see that there's not a single person inside there other than you. They'll also probably tell you that they know exactly what they're looking for. It's never true and get ready for that OT. But hey, on the bright-side, you'll get a fat pay-check.


So, the next time you find yourself at a mall...Remind yourself to pick up something you might've accidentally dropped, keep in mind that workers are human beings too, and kindness goes a long way because at the end of the day, that employee could be one of your loved ones.

Until next time,

Salsa.


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