"He doesn't love me." I offer my all, I give my heart and attention, and I am continuously told I am not good enough. Not good enough to be taken seriously, loved or dated. How does one not lose hope, how does one not become cold and unwilling to try? This is not me being crazy, and this is not me being heartbroken because I am not; this is just me being honest.
Some may wonder "who hurt you?" Who hurt you that much to lose hope? The answer is society. We've done this to ourselves. Everyone gets divorced, everyone breaks up, and no one takes relationships seriously because it becomes too much of a risk. We can't be happy with what we have because it's too much and too much pressure. We live in a hook-up culture. We give ourselves physically, and we turn off our feelings emotionally because we continuously get torn down when we do open up. This is because we are all scared. We give our all to people to get told we aren't good enough, or to lose all trust, which continues to build onto this fear. This just makes one wonder, how am I supposed to ever love again? How do we better ourselves as a whole? Where does the commitment come in? Where are the promises to forever? When do we stop being scared?
People need to remember that being in love is fun. Everyone should dive in, instead of hanging around the pool side. Judging by the media, our families' divorces, and personal experience, society gets scared that if you are too vulnerable it is bound to fail miserably, though that isn't true. We are dancing around a big white elephant of the truth: this lasts forever, or we break up. But breaking up does not mean failing miserably; it just means that things happen -- and that's OK. Many people will not chance that scary thought, so we start this idea of not committing.
Once everyone accepts the fact that commitment, trust, and fun can all intertwine, we will see dating again. We will see real relationships successfully happening, and we will see that taking a chance is worth it. We will see what love really is, and honestly, we will see a lot less people complaining on social media (sad, but true). So take a chance. Be vulnerable. You're good enough, and you are strong enough. Make love happen so that we don't lose love forever.
