How You Can Stop Sexual Assault

How You Can Stop Sexual Assault

The importance of bystander intervention.
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We've all seen it.

It may seem like they're flirting at first, but then you look closer and sense something sinister. Maybe the two people are under the influence of alcohol, and aren't in the right state of mind to make these kinds of decisions. You're ticked off by it one way or another, and you wonder if you should step in, maybe say something to the person in the couple whose sex you identify with.

For me, I wondered if I should pull the girl aside and ask her if she was okay. It was obvious she was drunk, and I had a bad feeling something was going to happen between her and this male stranger who had obviously taken a liking to her.

If you get this feeling, perhaps when you see one or two drunk people acting inappropriately, take that feeling as a sign and step in. You just might save someone from sexual assault.

When going out with friends, they're supposed to stick by you. But when distractions and alcohol get involved, friend groups get separated, and you may find yourself alone with someone you just met. Be a good friend, and watch out for your friends.

And even if you're not a friend, you're a bystander. You notice something suspicious going on between a drunk girl and a strange man. Girls, watch out for your fellow girls. We need to stand up for each other and protect each other. In a world where 1 in 4 college students experience attempted or completed sexual assault and/or rape during their college career, it's better to step in than to let it happen.

This doesn't mean all men are rapists. But when you see something that may look like it may become non-consensual at some point in the night, don't hesitate to step in and say something.

I grabbed the girl by the arm to get her attention, and leaned in close to her so we could hear each other talk over the loud music.

"Are you OK?" I asked.

And that's all it took.

Accept your responsibility as a bystander, and as a fellow human. As the saying goes: "if you see something, say something." It's better to check in on the two parties and make sure everything is alright than to ignore it, saying "it's not my problem," and then find out one of them was given a date rape drug or sexually assaulted later that night.

Of course, responsibility for rape falls on rapists. Need I remind you of the Brock Turner case? Obviously it was his fault that poor young woman was raped. But, do you remember the bikers who biked by and saw the rape occurring? They immediately stepped in, stopped the rape, and saved the girl.

This is an extreme example of the importance of bystander intervention. Most of you in your lives will not see a rape occurring. But, more often than you may think, you may be seeing an interaction that will later end in rape or sexual assault, especially if alcohol is involved.

You're not a "snitch" or a "cockblock" if you politely intrude and ask the girl if she is OK. Wouldn't you better be safe than sorry?

Watch out for your fellow girls, watch out for your friends, and watch out for yourself. It's a dangerous world out there, especially for young women. If we all take some responsibility and take a moment to step in, we can all prevent sexual assault.

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10 Facts Every Woman Should Know, And Love, About Her Vagina

Because health class just didn't cut it.
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Basically, the only things you learn in health are one—don't have sex, two—it bleeds, and three—yes, you can carry a baby. That’s it.

For some reason, vaginas are a pretty taboo conversation in most cases, but as women (and men and human beings) it’s important to know about our bodies and all the cool things they can do (besides grow life, which is cool, but you know that).

1. Your vagina self-cleans

That’s right ladies, no need to use soap up in there, or a douche. Most doctors recommend that you don’t use any soaps or anything with fragrance, even if they’re labeled for vaginal use.

Harsh soaps can disrupt the natural pH balance of your vagina and cause more harm than good. To clean itself, women experience discharge which can occur before or after a period and is normally clear, whitish, sticky, thick and odorless. If your discharge is yellow, green, has an odor or is itchy, call your doctor ASAP, it could be a sign of an infection!

2. Your vagina is smart—it will let you know if something is wrong.

Look out for itching, irritation, bloody discharge any funky smells or anything that seems or feels different. But this is not an excuse to skip out on your annuals (bummer, I know) just because you aren’t actively having symptoms of something, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get routine care and check-ups!

3. Other than abstinence, implants and IUDs are the most effective forms of reversible birth control.

Both implants and IUDs are long-term and reversible forms of contraception, and both are over 99% effective at preventing pregnancy. That's why the American Academy of Pediatrics recently recommended both options as the best choices for teenagers as a way to prevent pregnancy.

The implant is a matchstick-sized rod that a doctor has to insert into your arm. It releases the hormone progestin, which prevents ovulation and thickens your cervical mucus, making it less hospitable to sperm. It can last up to three years.

The IUD is a T-shaped device that a doctor inserts directly into your uterus. There are hormonal IUDs, and there is a non-hormonal copper version. IUDs can last for 3 to 12 years, depending on the type.

Worth noting: The implant and IUD do not protect against any STDs.

4. The vagina is tilted at roughly a 130-degree angle, this is why you have to insert tampons by aiming them at your back.

It’s pretty interesting to know why we do things, but any healthy provider will tell you that this can change with time, causing women to change the angles in which they insert tampons.

5. People get stuff stuck in their Vaginas, actually often… BUT you can’t actually lose anything up there (phew).


Statistically, women get tampons and condoms stuck up there and they can be hard to retrieve. So, if you get something stuck up there and you can’t retrieve…whatever it is…from the lady parts you can absolutely go to the doctor. And you should, in gynecology, they’ve seen it all and they won’t judge. Plus, getting help is better than getting hurt!

6. Your fallopian tubes are 4-5 inches long.


And only about .5 cm in diameter. Inside them, are papillae or little hairs that help move eggs through them.

7. A doctor once removed a potato that started sprouting vines out of a patient’s vagina.


The patient told the doctor her mother said it would prevent pregnancy. In that case, mother didn't always know best.

Apparently, you can grow a potato in your vagina, I wouldn’t recommend it though (obvious reasons).

8. Vaginas (and vulvas) come in all shapes, sizes, and colors.

There's no such thing as a "normal" vagina in terms of appearance so you just embrace your lady parts because they are just as unique as you are!

9. Your menstrual blood could help patients suffering from heart failure.

An ERC (endometrial regenerative cells) congestive heart failure phase II clinical trial is currently testing the safety of the ERC, or "stem cells," to treat congestive heart failure patients. Stem cells are extracted from the blood and then grown in culture to generate different types of cells in the body.

In this case, the stem cells are made into muscle cells of the heart, for reparative purposes in these patients. This is an experimental foreign study and is not something that is being done routinely, but yes, it could help patients suffering from heart failure.

10. Vaginas are epic (duh!)



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Having a Bad Day? Read This.

One bad day means many more good days.
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We've all had bad days. Then sometimes, "bad" isn't even the word that covers the day. Some days we'd rather use words like terrible, or horrible. Some days we're angry, while other days we're upset. Either way, on a bad day it could seem like the world is crashing down. We could just wait until the full day is over, but who has time for that? Welcome to my list of things to do when you're having a bad day!

1. Write your thoughts on paper and throw it in the trash

Writing helps you release your feelings and negative energy. What better way to end the process then to throw it in the trash?

2. Vent to your parents

Because no one know you better then mom or dad.

3. Facetime your best friend

If you can't hang out then facetime is best face-to-face contact you can get. It's much better seeing someone than just hearing their voice.

4. Listen to music

Either put it on full blast, or listen quietly through headphones. This is an old trick guaranteed to work.

5. Workout

Working out really does clear your mind, while releasing negative energy from your body. Give it a try.

6. Spend time with animals

It's proven that time with animals helps relieve stress. I mean, have you seen how cute they are?

7. Spend time in nature

Nature has many benefits. One of the benefits would be how calm nature can be. Use the fresh air to relax your soul.

8. Go to church

This may not be for everyone. However, if you do hold religious beliefs then church could be one of the best places to find peace.

9. Pamper yourself

This could mean getting your nails done, or spending a day with your beloved netflix. Whatever it is, make sure you're doing something you love. You deserve time for yourself.

10. Clean

Sometimes organizing your room, changing sheets, or even doing dishes could lift a person up. Having clean surroundings equals a clean mind set.

11. Take a hot shower or jump in a hot bath

Not only are you getting clean, you're also going to feel much more refreshed afterwards. A shower or a bath is the perfect place to clear your mind. Maybe add a bathbomb or soothing music into the mix.

12. Set goals for the next week

This could give you a sense of organization, while being productive. Setting goals and then reaching them make you feel empowered. Try it and then keep up the good work.

13. Write down what your thankful for

Remember that it's only a bad day. One bad day means they're are plenty of good ones. Instead of throwing this list away, this time hang it up.

14. Get Creative

Creativity creates happiness and self expression.

15. Use your bad day as motivation

On a bad day you may feel terrible, but that feeling won't last forever. Do what you can in preparation to make the next day the best day yet. Nobody has time for two bad days.

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