I watched this BuzzFeed video and wanted to try it out myself. Here's what happened.
On May 5, 2018, I decided to keep track of how many times I said "sorry." I already knew I said it quite frequently, but I didn't realize how much that "quite frequently" really was.
I arose from a deep slumber due to college being stressful as heck.
I said sorry to my dog because I forgot to give him food. :(
I opened the door while someone else was coming out, and felt bad (or something) and said "sorry." Why did I do that? I do not know.
I said it again.
Why have I said this word so many times already? I said it when I closed a door "too hard."
I caught myself, but I almost said sorry because I forgot to get something and apologized for forgetting something so minuscule.
Solid. I've gone awhile without saying "that word." Until someone asked for my name and out came the word. I said sorry for not saying my name. What?
Ok, this time I said "that word" because I felt bad about something, but I must document it. Still, this word has been said far too many times.
I'm doing better at this point. That was until a friend texted me asking me if I can hang out and out rolled "that word." I said sorry because I couldn't hang out. I don't understand either.
I said sorry to my dog, again. He's just so cute. And those eyes, they will get you.
I left a jar of peanut butter out, and again I said sorry. I could have just said, "I'll put it away." NOPE. I said "that word."
Ten times. I said "Sorry" ten times in less than 13 hours. I have a multitude of feeling about this.
First, why do I say this word so much? I'm not "mad" at myself. I'm more frustrated. "Sorry" is becoming one of those things that we just say. It's like asking "How are you?"
My second response to all of my "Sorrys" is a large question mark. I opened a door. Why am I sorry? I didn't say my name. Why am I sorry? It makes me wonder if my "true" sorrys, are actual sorrys.
My third response to the "Sorrys" is if people still hear that word. Does it fly over our heads as if it is no big deal or do we genuinely hear it and respect it.
My fourth, and final response to "that word" was telling myself to only say "sorry" when I mean it. I wouldn't want someone to say "sorry" to me and not mean it, so why am I doing it?
No matter what you identify as it is time to stop saying "that word" unless we mean it. I hear it all the time, and I know 50% of the time they're not sorry. They are simply saying it to feel better.
Let's reserve "I'm sorry" for when it really needs to be said.