"Bullies" Never Go Away

"Bullies" Never Go Away

Some people may change, but there is always someone else to fill their shoes.

Flashback to middle school, remember those days? All the different styles, different clubs, different languages; it was certainly an interesting phase in everyone's life. Flashback even further in time to elementary school. Again, a time in life where there are very memorable instances. With each of these parts of life, we all thought that some things would just be phases. But the one thing we all thought would be just another phase turned out not to be. You know that one thing that everyone hated all throughout school? From elementary school, through middle school, to high school, and apparently even in college. You know what I'm talking about, the mean people who just don't go away.

Oh they're just jealous, or maybe they have a background you don't know about. Well that may be the case in the younger years, but progress through life and that can't be the excuse anymore. There are always going to be those people who feel the need to talk. Whether it pertains to them or not, they have an opinion and they will voice it, don't you doubt that. That boy who pushed you around in elementary school, the girls who snickered at you in middle school, the people who talked behind your back and left you out at every possible thing, they never end. Those people may grow up and become better people, but there will always be another person to fill there shoes.

My mother always said if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all. Where were there mothers or fathers to tell them that? The worse part is that these people who participate in such acts of hate don't even care that they are. They know you will hear or see, and it doesn't phase them. Since when did being two faced or sinister become an evident trait? You think that as you get into college people will grow up, everyone will accept everyone for who they are and just leave it at that. Well here I am squashing your dreams because that's not the case. Of course everyone has opinions and judgements about everybody they meet, but its what you do with those that matter.

I hate to use the word bully because that seems so second grade. But the sad thing is, there are bullies everywhere in every corner of the Earth. It doesn't matter how many good people there are out there, how many good acts are being done, it will never outnumber or affect those who need it. No matter how many things you try to do to stop the mean people out there, it won't matter. Because people are people and they will do as they please. The best you can do is just take their talk in stride, and know that you are above it. People will talk, people will be mean, but there is nothing you can do about it. Some change, but not unless they want to. But know that you are in control, you have choices. You can stand up for yourself, or you can also realize it isn't worth your time or effort. Whatever you do, even if you don't feel better, you will be, because you are the bigger person and can rise above people that try to take you down.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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13 Quotes For All Of Us Empowered Female-Identifying People Out There

For the days when you need to be reminded that you are really doing the dang thing and doing it well.


For the days when you need to be reminded that you are really doing the dang thing and doing it well.

1. Do you really need someone else's permission, acceptance, wink, or nod, or are you ready to give these to yourself? -The Universe

I get notes from the Universe everyday and all of them are so amazing and inspiring. There might be a few of them on this list. You can sign up for your own notes from the universe here.

2. The princess saves herself in this one. -Amanda Lovelace

The quote is based off a book called The Princess Saves Herself In This One, which is a collection of poetry about resilience, you can get the book here.

3. I'm made of more than you think. -Snow White, Mirror, Mirror

4. Other people's perception of you ain't none of your business. -Lisa Nichols


5. Do you realize how many events and choices that had to occur since the birth of the universe leading to the making of just exactly the way you are? -Mrs. Which, A Wrinkle In Time

I love this because it really hits home how so many right and wrong decisions led to the creation of you and how you should appreciate the good and the bad because without either of them you wouldn't be exactly who you were supposed to be.

6. You can't stop what's done to you. You can only survive it. -Rachel, Georgia Rule 

This brings up an important theme of my life that I'm still trying to figure out. The only thing you can control in your life is how you react to what happens to you.

7. Don't let anyone ever make you feel like you don't deserve what you want. -Patrick Verona, 10 Things I Hate About You

8. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. -Queen Clarisse, The Princess Diaries

9. No trifling of the past, no matter how great, can tarnish the brilliance of eternity. -The Universe

10. People who are insignificant to your future shouldn't have an impact on your present.

Someone once told me this, and although I can't remember the person, this quote has always stuck with me.

11. Talented, brilliant, incredible, amazing, show stopping, spectacular, never the same, totally unique, completely not ever been done before. -Lady Gaga

You know what... I think she was talking about you.

12. Tell yourself it's easy. Tell yourself often. Make it an affirmation. Eat, sleep, breathe it, and you life shall be transformed. -The Universe

13. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. -Mark Twain 

Go on then, be empowered and trust your instincts, you've got big things coming... I can tell.

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