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There Is Plenty You Can Do To Take The 'Ugh Not Tonight' Out Of Sex

Why don't 20 somethings know how to spice up the bedroom?

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There Is Plenty You Can Do To Take The 'Ugh Not Tonight' Out Of Sex

I know what you are thinking. What a forward way to tell me I don't know what I'm doing. And You're totally right, but someone needed to say it. I'm confused nowadays by the time some people reach the ripe ages of 20-30, that sex is still totally confusing, and how do you make it more fun? Some people just never learned! A new trend has shown that most millennials are stuck in one position because it's easy comfortable and it all ends the same way right? WRONG. Here are some ways to take you and your partner to the next level.

1. RESEARCH!

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I know it sounds blah, but the best thing you can do for your partner is to utilize your best-friend internet. There are so many places you can visit to learn about sex, how you SHOULD be doing. it, and what's going to feel good for both of you. No one took a sex class before they lost their virginity, it's like school, to get that A you have to study.

2. Games Are Necessary.

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We all hate when our girlfriends and boyfriends play games with us, but there are super steamy games you can play in order to make things more interesting. Cosmopolitan magazine has their own sexy version of Truth Or Dare you have to check out! Things like, "Truth: Describe my in-bed personality in three words." or "Dare: Drag me to the closet for an adult round of seven minutes in heaven." Playing games with your partner will make things fun and interesting.

3. Try A Toy.

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There's not much to explain here, pick your poison.

4. Learn Your Body.

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Did we all really pay attention in health class all those years ago? It's important to understand each other's bodies, that way everyone is getting the same experience or an elevated experience. One thing I can suggest is to get an anatomical diagram and LEARN IT. Everyone does better when they know what they are working with.

5. Don't Be Afraid To Try New Things.

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Have a laugh while you're intimate. No one is perfect, but trying new things is a good way to find out what works and what doesn't. Maybe you'll discover something new you've never tried before and end up liking it. Sex is trial and error, but practicing certainly does make perfect

6. Communicate!

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It might weird to talk during or even talk about it in general, but you have to tell your partner what works for and what doesn't. Your partner can't read your mind and none of us want to make our partners feel bad. But, you have to speak up about what makes you feel good. This way both of you can be satisfied and no ones just going with the flow for the hell of it.

7. A Longer Build Up

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One of the hottest things you can do is make them wait. Building up chemistry is an easy way to easily elevate your experience tenfold. It's the build-up that makes the actual thing so great. The longer you wait the more the tension will burn.

8. Have Fun

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Sex can get really serious but there's nothing wrong with a little laugh. Having a good time will being intimate can bring you and your partner closer. If you're both feeling kind of awkward for funny, laughing can break the tension and might even make it more fun and sexy.

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