"break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored" Promotes Girl-On-Girl Hate

Ariana Grande's "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored" May Disguise Itself As A Female Empowering Melody, But Instead Unabashedly Glorifies Girl-On-Girl Hate

Come on Ariana, this isn't 'Grande' Theft Boyfriend, you can't go around stealing some girl's man.


If you've been following pop culture for the past few weeks, you might have noticed the release of pop queen Ariana Grande's new album, "thank u, next". One of the songs on the album, "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored", was released as the third official single, with a YouTube video that premiered on February 7th, 2019.

The lyrics of the song, "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored" describe Ariana's boredom with single life and her desire to date a man who's already taken. As the song progresses, Grande coaxes him to leave his girlfriend for her, saying that she "can't compare" and it "isn't fair" that he isn't choosing Grande over his current beau.

Ariana Grande has been vocally feminist in the past, shutting down sexist statements by her interviewers and expressing the need for gender equality over her social media. She has claimed time and again that women should not feel afraid to express their sexuality and should be considered equal to men in all that they do.

While "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored" does portray a different perspective wherein the woman is pursuing the man and choosing a partner she desires, it still lacks due to its bashing of some women (a.k.a. the girlfriend mentioned) while empowering others.

One of Ariana's many statements of equality states that women are not a "piece of meat" that men get to use for their pleasure. But the lyrics of "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored" seems to strip away all of that, when Ariana tries to tempt a man with sexual favors in return for him calling it quits with his girlfriend. In the song, she repeatedly says "you can hit it in the morning, like it's yours", promising him sexual gratification if he does as she says. Not only is this manipulative, it is incredibly toxic and disrespectful to another woman's relationship.

The first thought that occured to me while hearing the song was, "But what if I was the girlfriend?". How would it make me feel if my significant other was being tempted and manipulated by another woman who had taken a liking to him, who even agreed that her intentions were not right but still didn't care? In any relationship, there are always insecurities and soft spots, and there is always a more attractive woman or man out there. How would I feel knowing a woman like Ariana Grande was trying to take my man?

Ariana's glorification of disrespectful behavior towards other women is soaked in by her fanbase of young tweens and teenagers, some of whom may begin to believe that this behavior is normal and that it is indeed alright to break a couple up if you are interested in one of the individuals, so long as you are attractive and are able to tempt him or her into being with you.

Moreover, the song justifies hating on another woman for no reason other than desiring her man. "I only hate on her cause I want you" says Ariana, once again making even her emotions towards another female the result of a man. This lyric promotes girl-on-girl hate and girl fights over men, saying that it is alright to hate on a woman because you want her boyfriend to be your boyfriend.

While the music video of the song has an empowering twist, wherein it shows Ariana wanting to break up with her boyfriend to find herself, the lyrics of the song itself are not self-empowering but rather tearing down of other women. I adore Ariana's voice and the catchy tune, but the meaning of the song and the manner in which it devalues the bonds in relationships makes it a track I will push to the far depths of my Spotify playlist.

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14 Stages Of Buying Jonas Brothers Concert Tickets As A 20-Something In 2019

"Alexa, play "Burnin' Up" by the Jonas Brothers."


In case you missed it, the Jonas Brothers are back together and, let me tell you, they're giving us some major jams. For those of us who were there when it all began back in 2007 with their first album, It's About Time, this has been one of the most important events of the year. But nothing, and I mean nothing can rival the excitement every twenty-something felt as the Jonas Brothers announced their Happiness Begins tour. I, for one, put my name in for ticket presale, have been following every single social media site related to the tour/group, and, of course, listening to the Jonas Brothers on repeat. And if you did manage to snag tickets, then you know that this is how your brain has been ever since they announced the tour.

1. Finding out that they're going on tour

2. Hopefully entering your name into the lottery to get presale tickets

3. Finding out that you actually get to buy presale tickets

4. Impatiently waiting for your presale tickets by listening to their songs on repeat

5. And remembering how obsessed you used to be (definitely still are) with them

6. Trying to coordinate the squad to go to the concert with you

7. Waiting in the Ticketmaster waiting room...

8. ...And feeling super frantic/frustrated because there are about 2000 people in line in front of you

9. Actually getting into the site to buy the tickets

10. Frantically trying to find seats you can actually pay for because, let's be real, you're twenty-something and poor

11. Managing to actually get the seats you want

12. Joyfully letting your squad know that you've done it

13. Crying a little because all of the dreams you've had since 2007 are coming true

14. Listening to every single Jonas Brothers song on repeat (again)

If you, like me, have finally fulfilled one of your dreams since childhood, then congrats, my friend! We've made it! Honestly, of all the things I've done in my adult life, this might be the one that child me is the most proud of.

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I Know I'm Late, But I'm Now Obsessed With David Dobrik

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After coming home from the end of my first year of college, instead of unpacking like my parents would've loved for me to do, I turned to YouTube. I've always watched YouTube but I was never one of those teens that watched it so avidly that I would want to go to Playlist Live or VidCon.

Throughout the year, I received many recommendations to watch David Dobrik. Like most people I know, the recommendation went through one ear and out the other. Was he really worth the hype? Well, if you take a look back at the title of this article, you know the answer to that question.

One day, I decided to subscribe to David Dobrik's YouTube channel because I knew that if I saw a video created by him pop up with the rest of subscriptions, one of these days I would end up clicking on a video. That is exactly what happened. I ended up watching maybe two or three videos in total, but I didn't really become a fan. It's not like I didn't enjoy the videos I watched- because I did. I just didn't keep up with them. It wasn't until I came home from school and decided to go all in that I truly hopped on the David Dobrik-bandwagon.

Now, I truly understand what everyone was talking about. Not only is he hilarious, but his vlogs are super short (four minutes and 20 seconds to be exact). In a competition, I'd probably be named the "World's Worst Watcher" of TV shows and movies because I'm so impatient that I skip through the bad or boring parts that I don't want to watch. Contrary to this statement, I can safely say that I have only skipped through a video once only because someone was about to puke. He and his friends are always on the go, which is much more fun to watch than someone just sitting in front of the camera explaining what they are about to do instead of footage of them in action.

Most of the YouTubers I watch create lifestyle videos, like makeup tutorials, clothing hauls, vlogs of college students, etc. David Dobrik's videos are completely different from any of the others that I subscribe to. All of his videos are vlogs that show him doing the most ridiculous, yet entertaining things, whether it be buying his best friends expensive cars, paying them $100 so he can shoot them with a paintball gun, or going on spontaneous trips to Las Vegas. There's not a single moment through any of his videos that don't leave me with a smile on my face.

It's not just that his videos are short and entertaining. It's also that he seems like the sweetest and most down-to-earth human being. He cares so much about his friends so much that the focus isn't entirely on him but on them, which is something that you don't see very often.

I highly recommend that everyone watch at least one of his videos. It may be four minutes of your life that you will never get back but after watching it, you won't want them back.

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