How To Handle A Nosebleed With Dignity and Grace

How To Handle A Nosebleed With Dignity and Grace

Sometimes, you can't pick your battles.

The things I miss most about freshman year are the ease of conversation initiation and all of the forced icebreakers. It's like platonic speed dating—you are able to freely ask and answer personal questions that you wouldn't ask your coworkers or academic advisors. For example, one of my favorite questions was, "What was your most embarrassing moment?"

It was my first grade Halloween, and all of the first graders were asked to wear a costume. That year, I was King Ben. I had a purple cloak and a gold felt crown.

My costume was pretty lame compared to my classmates’ – I was essentially wearing a big dress, and my crown was big and flimsy so it wouldn't stay on my head. I don’t even like purple, and my Velcro shoes didn't seem majestic enough. I knew I should have fought for the Power Rangers outfit.

In the last hour of school, all of the first graders were to gather in a parade and march around the classrooms, showing their our costumes to all of the older students around the school. Little did I know, my cloak would not be the most interesting part of my costume. Just as we were about to leave the gym, my nose started to bleed.

This was my worst nightmare. Did this mean I was going to miss out on all of the free candy? Instead of going to the nurse, I chose to join the parade. But as anyone who has ever gotten a bloody nose knows, the most frustrating part about a bloody nose is not the nose bleed itself, but everyone else’s reaction to it.

Every single time we walked into a new classroom, this happened:

"Oh my gosh! Oh my gosh! Are you all right?”

Hi, it's a nose bleed, teacher. I'm pretty small but I don’t think I’m going to bleed out. These tears are from the embarrassment.

"Make sure you keep your head back. You should pinch the bridge of your nose, or else you can't breathe. Hold the tissue like this. Don't swallow the blood. And don't let go!"

What if I pinch your nose bridge? I can breathe out of my mouth, too, you know.

“Do you need more tissues? Here are some more tissues!”

Do you not see this monstrous ball of napkins I have plastered to my face? This could easily be fixed by putting a piece of tissue up my nose... but people would think I'm weird.

The worst was when the other students named all the costumes. "Princess, witch, bunny... King of Bloody Noses, haha!”

So, that day, I learned an important lesson: the universe is not always on your side. Luckily, my mom picked me up right after the parade, and I had a nice bag of candy to replace my dignity. I made sure to throw away my costume as soon as the day was over. If I could visit my 6 year old self, I would tell myself this:

1. All nose bleeds come to an end. No matter how bad you are bleeding, always keep your head up – it will get better.

2. Take all the tissues you can get. Appreciate everyone’s concern and attention, even if you think you are fine on your own. Life is better when you can depend on other people.

3. You are not the only bleeder of noses. We all have our own moments and our own problems. Anyone who claims to be perfect is just a fool.

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The Relief Of Forgiveness

Saying goodbye to grudges and moving on takes strength.


Time heals everything. We hear that saying whenever we are mad or sad about something that happened to us or to someone we love. Have you ever felt relief from holding a grudge? No? I didn't think so, and that's because the power of forgiveness is stronger than hate.

Growing up I have seen lots of arguments and feelings get hurt. From someone calling another person a name and then the whole class is on it all the way till graduation; to just simply saying I can't be your friend anymore and no explanation for it. Then we all know what comes after those situations or ones like them.

A hatred that lasts for so long we honestly can't remember a reason why we hate that person. Or if we do, we question it because it has been so long.

There are good and dumb reasons to stay mad at someone, but to hold that against the person 10 years down the road is a little much. No matter what happens, holding on to all of that hate puts yourself in a very unhealthy mental state. It could take one person, one grudge and next thing you know its years down the road and you can't remember yourself ever feeling so free and happy.

The pain stays with us longer than happiness, and I wish I could understand why. That is why when people say one negative thing to a person and then a ton of positive ones, the only thing that person is going to remember is the one negative comment. People are mean, and we all know that. I think a big reason is that everyone is holding onto at least one grudge. You may try your best not to, and you may swear you don't, but it could be a tiny one you just don't realize it.

Try and find something that irritates you, that annoys the heck out of you. Now can you tell me why? There are people in this world that walk around mad at everyone they see happy? Why is that? Is it because something bad happened to them? Multiple things maybe?

I've seen and heard stories of people growing up in the worst environment and still finding a positive outlook on life and where they want to be. Even people that are blessed with big and expensive things often fail out on having the correct attention and love a person needs. Even those people can turn around and make sure whoever they impact feels the love they didn't get.

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Holding onto a grudge and being mad all the time doesn't make sense to me. If anything I end up feeling sorry for that person. They will never understand the relief they could get from forgiveness. The feeling of letting all of that tension and sadness go is one of the greatest feelings in the world. It is a weight lifted off of your shoulders. You can smile and laugh at the smallest things again.

So let go of whatever is holding you back from experiencing pure happiness. Talk to the person who abandoned you when you needed them most. Let them know how that impacted you and move on.

Let the person who broke your heart realize the way they treated you, and pray they treat every person after you better. Join a group that has the same passion as you and let them uplift you when no one else would.

It's the little things that make us happy. Making one decision to let go of the hatred that makes you feel so bleh inside will make you see everything you missed out on. It will make you realize how much a grudge can take away from you.

I'm not saying you have to speak to that person again or do that situation over. I'm saying you will realize how bright the world can be if you start sharing some of your happiness with the people around you vs. the negativity. We have enough of that in this world.

The relief of forgiveness is strong. It's the power to decide if you're going to be happy today and every day or just wallow in the fact that a person called you a name. Stand up and be strong. That one person has no control over you so why would you let a grudge have the same power you give someone's words or actions. Everyone is strong in their own ways, and with the power of forgiveness, anything is possible.

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