to the Girl Who NEEDS To be In a Relationship

to the Girl Who NEEDS To be In a Relationship

Spoiler Alert: Boys aren't everything.


Dear Girl Who Needs to Be in a Relationship,

Out of all the people who could be writing this letter to you, I think I am the one who is the most credible to write it. Why you may ask? Simply because I've been there and I was there for way too long.

As I write this, I am currently single, but I am in no need or rush to get into a relationship. The real question that I debate a lot is whether or not I want one. One thing I've learned through watching my friends that are in relationships and watching relationships on TV form, is that relationships are a lot of work and are not always pretty.

Relationships take up a lot of time and effort and will most likely lead to heartbreak. Personally, I don't have the time or effort to get into a relationship right now, and I don't want a heartbreak like that in my life. That's me though, and I know that you may be different.

If you're anything like me, you might have gone on what feels like hundreds of dates and you may have gotten close to getting into a relationship. Trust me, I have and it's frustrating when something doesn't work out. It feels like you've wasted time, and time is something that none of us have to waste.

I am someone that believes in soulmates and that everlasting love. I am someone who believes in the most epic love story of all time. I think and hope that it's out there not only for me, but for everyone else.

With that being said, I have been on way too many bad dates and I have talked to way too many jerks to say that most boys suck and that they aren't everything. While in college, I have learned that most boys only sex and flings. There's nothing wrong with that, but it doesn't quite line up with what relationship-oriented girls want.

If you say that you want a relationship, you might believe in the three-date rule, and you probably don't do the one-night stand thing. You may not even kiss on the first date. That's totally okay, but most guys that around 16-22 don't think like that.

Now I know there are the exceptions but finding a guy that's the exception to this "principle" of life is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. It's semi-near impossible, but it happens, and I've seen it happen first hand. I've said this before; a lot of my friends have had boyfriends and have been in relationships.

They were lucky, and their perspective might be different, but I am coming from a place where I haven't found that boyfriend. I have never had a boyfriend, and it's the most aggravating thing in the world where it takes me a long time to even get close to being in a relationship, and then I see my friends get a boyfriend in the snap of their fingers. It's the craziest thing in the world.

The things that I've learned through all of this is that boys aren't everything. I've been rejected and hurt by guys so many times, but I don't let it get to me. I text a few of my friends, write in my journal, take a nap, and it's like it never happened.

I don't want to be wasting my time pawning over a boy that's not interested in me and doesn't want a relationship with me, and nor should you. This is your time just as much as it is theirs, and you should be living your best life. Your best life doesn't need to include a boy.

I am not going to lie, it would be an added bonus if I had a boyfriend. However, if I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't be able to spend all of my time doing other things. I would want to prioritize him in some way, and right now I have way too many better things to prioritize. You might not realize it now, but so do you.

I don't even know you, but I can tell that you are a strong, amazing, and intelligent woman. I know that most guys aren't worth your time. Live your life, and just go about it.

Everything happens for a reason, and right now the reason why you're single isn't that you're not worthy of a guy, it's because boys aren't worthy of you. Just live life, and someday, you'll meet your Prince Charming. Trust me, I know it for a fact.

Don't live vicariously through your friends in relationships, it won't help, it might make it worse. Just be you because that's all the world needs, you.

Hope this helped, but I get it if it doesn't, I was once in your shoes for the longest time.


Girl Who No Longer Needs to Be in a Relationship

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44 Lyrics For When You Need An Instagram Caption

Your caption is just as important as the filter.

Choosing the caption for your Instagram can be almost as challenging as deciding on a filter. So, if you’re ready to post that Insta, but don’t know what to say, here are 44 lyrics for when you need an Instagram caption.

1. “Be young, be dope, be proud.” - Lana Del Rey, "American"

2. “I can’t really see another squad tryna cross us.” - Drake, "No Tellin’"

3. “Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.” - Taylor Swift, "Blank Space"

4. “I’m throwin' shade like it’s sunny.” - Nicki Minaj, "Want Some More"

5. “I’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist.” - Sia, "Chandelier"

6. “Find me where the wild things are.” - Alessia Cara, "Wild Things"

7. “If I was you, I'd wanna be me too.” - Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"

8. “Sweet like candy to my soul, sweet you rock and sweet you roll.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Crash Into Me"

9. “I swear this life is like the sweetest thing I’ve ever known.” - Drake, "Over"

10. “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.” - Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance"

11. “But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing’s changed at all? - Bastille, "Pompeii"

12. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” - John Lennon, "Imagine"

13. “You can’t choose what stays and what fades away.” - Florence + The Machine, "No Light, No Light"

14. “She acts like summer and walks like rain.” - Train, "Drops of Jupiter

15. “She’s a good girl, loves her mama. Loves Jesus, and America too.” - Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, "Free Fallin’"

16. “Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones.” - Coldplay, "Fix You"

17. “Say you’ll remember me.” - Taylor Swift, "Wildest Dreams"

18. I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart.” - Sia, "Elastic Heart"

19. “Give me the beat boys and free my soul.” - Uncle Kracker, "Drift Away"

20. “One of these days the clocks will stop, and time won’t mean a thing.” - Foo Fighters, "These Days"

21. “Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.” - Brad Paisley, Perfect Storm

22. “You are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need.” Zedd feat. The Foxes, "Clarity"

23. “Her mind is Tiffany twisted, she’s got the Mercedes bends.” - The Eagles, "Hotel California"

24. “Life imitates art.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

25. “Nobody said it was easy, no one said it would be this hard.” - Coldplay, "The Scientist"

26. “You’re gonna keep my soul, it was yours to have long ago.” - State Radio, "Keepsake"

27. “Celebrate we will ‘cause life is short but sweet for certain.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Two Step"

28. “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” - Florence + The Machine, "Shake it Out"

29. “There are many things I’d like to say to you but I don’t know how.” - Oasis, "Wonderwall"

30. “You say you want a revolution, well you know we all wanna change the world.” - The Beatles, "Revolution"

31. “God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy.” Billy Currington, "People Are Crazy"

32. “Well my heart is gold, and my hands are cold.” - Halsey, "Gasoline"

33. “I don’t want to be heard, I want to be listened to.” - Twenty One Pilots, "Forest"

34. “Where you invest your love, you invest your life.” - Mumford and Sons, "Awake My Soul"

35. “I think I need a sunrise, I’m tired of the sunset.” - Augustana, "Boston"

36. “All of these lines across my face tell you the story of who I am.” - Brandi Carlile, "The Story"

37. ‘Ready or not, here I come. Where you at? The night is young.” - Bridgit Mendler, "Ready or Not"

38. “In the land of Gods and Monsters, I was an angel.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

39. “Turns out not where, but who you’re with that really matters.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Best Of What’s Around"

40. “Know yourself, know your worth.” - Drake, "0 to 100"

41. “I’m little but I’m coming for the crown.” - Lorde, "Still Sane"

42. “Didn’t they tell you I was a savage?” - Rihanna, "Needed Me"

43. “Hands in the air like we don’t care.” - Miley Cyrus, "We Can’t Stop"

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I'm 22 And I Still Don't Have My Driver's License, But It Doesn't Bother Me

Although sometimes it's inconvenient not to have one, it's not a major concern to me.


When you turn 16, the one thing you can't wait to do is get your license so you can finally have your first taste of freedom and no longer need your parents to drive you around anywhere.

When I was 16, I had no intentions of getting my license because I had no interest in driving.

I'm 22 now and I still don't have my license. Although sometimes it's inconvenient not to have one, it's not a major concern to me.

Before you ask yourself why I still don't have it, you should know that me not having my license is not entirely a personal decision.

It's part me not trusting myself and part having a disability.

I have cerebral palsy, and if you don't know what that is, it's a disorder of the cerebellum that affects things such as balance, coordination, muscle movements and reaction times.

Having a fast reaction time and strong leg muscles are something that you need in order to drive a car. You've always got to watch for that one crazy driver who blows through the red light and constantly press down on the pedal, because how else would the car move?

Don't get me wrong. I do have my permit. I got it shortly after my eighteenth birthday and taking the test four, yes, four, times. I've been behind the wheel a few times on residential streets in my town, so I know the basics of driving a car, but it's hard for me.

I use my left foot to control both the gas and the break because the cerebral palsy is in the right half of my body. This is unfortunate for me because you need your right foot to drive. I'm not sure how I learned, but I found that using my left foot is a lot easier for me.

But, I learned pretty quickly that you can't do that when taking the actual driving test.

I haven't been behind the wheel of a car in quite a while because, truthfully, I've been busy. When I'm not at work, I'm at school, when I'm not at school, I'm at work.

I'm at school sometimes more than 12 hours a day because of homework and my internship and I work on the weekends at the same place my dad works at, so we ride together.

My mom drops me off at school in the morning before she goes to work and picks me up in the evening and my friends drive to all the concerts we attend.

I don't make that much at work, and my internship is paid but I don't get a lot from there, and I have student loans, a credit card and medical bills and my credit isn't that great yet, so I don't really have any money to buy a car.

Why have a license if I don't have the funds to purchase a car at the moment?

Sure, if I absolutely need a ride somewhere and my parents aren't home, it's a little difficult finding one if all my friends are busy, but that's about the only trouble it gives me.

I'm pretty much a homebody and I only have a few close friends that I enjoy hanging out with, and during the school year, I'm hardly ever home during the day anyway.

It gets a little annoying when my friends, family, co-workers and sometimes professors ask me when I'm going to get my license, but I try to explain it in the nicest way possible.

Without using my disability as the primary excuse, I let them know that I'm just not ready to drive nor do I have any way to purchase a car.

Maybe in the future, when I'm out of school and I have my finances under control, I will work on getting a car AND THEN my license.

I am aware and fully understand that the day will come when my parents won't be here to give me a ride anymore, but everyone else needs to understand that driving is a personal decision and not everyone is ready to do so at the age of 16.

And that's perfectly okay.

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