For years — seriously, for years — I have been told to my face that I was dating my best friend. Or any guy that I formed a close relationship with. I've heard whispers about it. Trust me, it's not something you want to hear every time you catch up with a friend.
"Oh, that guy you've been hanging out with — are you guys...?"
"Are we what, friends?"
"... Well, also that, but like, I mean, are you also more than friends?"
"Really? Yooo, I could've sworn you guys were dating."
"Because he's a guy and I'm a girl and thus we can't be best friends without that assumption hopping around?"
That's what I wished I could say but every time, I would just laugh it off with a smile and shake my head to their disappointment. It's so annoying when people place you as a couple and mock you about it, creating ships and telling you guys to get married already.
Seriously — stop it. There's nothing cute about that. There's nothing cute about persistently making two people not just uncomfortable but also pissed to a certain level. If two people want to remain friends, you don't need to push your expectations of them onto everyone. If that's your fantasy, keep it in your head — not somewhere that can potentially create a serious feeling of uncomfortableness.
Yes, my best friend is a guy and I'm a girl.
We have similar interests in things that society deems as "masculine" or "tomboyish" but it doesn't matter because, at the end of the day, that's how we feel comfortable in our friendship — being two people with a love for similar things and a platonic love for each other. The most ironic thing is, even if I were twice as close with my female friends as with my male friends, I wouldn't get asked these questions because people tend to assume that it's just a female thing and that we're just naturally close. Unfortunately, it doesn't work the same for guy and girl friends, but hopefully, in the near future, that will change.
Rant over. Mic dropped.