'The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck' Is The Book That Changed My Life

'The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck' Is The Book That Changed My Life

I highly recommend you read this book, so you too can be enlightened on how to stop giving too many F's!

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach To Living A Good Life is the book that changed the way I view life and opened my mind to concepts I had never thought of before reading this work.

I am a huge fan of Audible, aka the best audiobook site ever. After finishing The Like Switch by Jack Schafer and Marvin Karlins, I was scrolling through Audible and came across this bright orange book with some profane language displayed on the cover. It grabbed my attention, to say the least, most books do not use the F-word in its title, so I had to check this one out and see what it was all about.

I used to be the person who stressed about literally everything. Big or small, did not matter. I freaked out over so many situations that it started negatively affecting my life. I even went on anxiety medication to help me cope, I felt I could not handle all the stress and anxiety on my own.

I wish I had this book back when my anxiety was at its peak. I do not think I would have needed medicine if I knew what I know now as a result of reading this life-changing self-help book.

The premise of the book is that we all care too much about everything. We focus our attention and cares on way too many things, even the unimportant things, which is not only a waste of time but creates unnecessary anxiety. We need to start reprioritizing what we focus on and give so much of our energy to.

Problems will always be present in our lives. A good life is not defined by having zero problems, a good life is a life with good problems. We have the authority to handpick what exactly is and is not our problem, so we need to choose wisely.

One of my favorite scenarios presented in the book that perfectly depicts the overarching theme is the old woman in the grocery store.

Every single person cares about something different. Something super important to one person may be at the absolute bottom of the list for another person. To the old woman, insisting the clerk use her bag full of coupons is at the top of her priority list. She is single, no longer works, and has bountiful amounts of free time.

The teenage clerk becomes frustrated and thinks this old woman is ridiculous and that these '30 cents off' and '10 cents off' coupons mean absolutely nothing, but to her they mean a whole lot.

Think about it. If you are a young teenager you have so much more on your plate than an elderly woman does. You worry about attending school seven hours a day, completing hours upon hours of homework assignments, play sports, and balance a relationship and social life on top of all of that.

If you are a 70-year-old woman, the bulk of your time is spent at home entertaining yourself and meeting up with a friend once a week for lunch. A trip to the grocery store is about as adventurous as it gets, so yes stressing about coupons is relevant to your life but not this teenage boy’s life.

This book delves into so many examples as to how we over-complicate our lives by caring too much about things, and it would be extremely beneficial for everyone to read! I highly recommend you do so, so you too can be enlightened on how to stop giving too many F's!

Cover Image Credit: Madison Morgan

Popular Right Now

To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

Cover Image Credit: Lauren Margliotti

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

I Don't Have To Wear Makeup To Be Beautiful

You don't have to, either.


For about as long as modern makeup/cosmetics/skincare brands have been around, the notion that women have to use any of these cosmetic products to be considered "beautiful" has also been around.

(If you've read my earlier article about red lipstick giving me my confidence back, you would know that I absolutely adore certain skincare/makeup products.)

However, I personally don't believe that I need to wear any kind of makeup to be considered "beautiful." And you don't, either.

I think that we, as a society, have seriously overvalued aesthetic beauty and undervalued the beauty that comes from being a decent, honest, genuine, and kind person. I believe that while makeup has an incredible and transformation-giving effect on women, (and men too, just for the record), that none of us honestly should depend on x, y, and z products to make us feel that we are beautiful, or that our self worth and sense of self should be tied up in how many likes a selfie of us in a full face of makeup get.

And quite frankly, there is so much to love about our makeup free, naturally glowing skin that so many of us hide, simply because society would love to tell us that we're not beautiful, or pretty, or worth very much at all if we don't use [insert new trendy skincare product here].

Well, excuse my French, but I'm calling bull.

It's not okay for any of us to think of ourselves as less than, simply because we're not following those crazy and crappy societal trends. In a culture where "Instagram perfect" pictures are the ideal that every woman, or man, is expected to look up to, I'd say it's pretty revolutionary to dare to bare a fresh-faced look.

No one has to ever feel the need to compulsively put on makeup to be considered "beautiful."

Because, in all reality, makeup can't measure the kind of person you are.

Makeup/skincare products can't measure your kindness, your generosity, your bravery in the face of adversity, or any other kickass quality that you might have. Makeup can't do that; only what's inside of you, if brought out for the world to see, can do that. And yes, I'm well aware of how cliché and "junior high preachy" that sounds.

So, I hope this article will possibly spark some introspective thoughts on what beauty means to you. I hope you start to think about the fact that who you are as a person is not defined by how "attractive" or "beautiful" someone else might tell you you are.

You define who you are as a person, nobody else has that power.

Related Content

Facebook Comments