The millennial dating culture has been getting a pretty bad name over the past few years. Between the hook-up culture and the ghosting trend it’s not really too difficult to see where that bad reputation is coming from.

If you ask me, hook up culture is one thing, because it’s a mutual decision between two consenting adults. If that’s your end game, then so be it. Ghosting is what it is. I guess we rather just cut someone off completely now-a-days instead of having to address that it’s just not going to workout.

An issue that I find becoming more common and more insulting is something that I, as a female, notice on a daily basis—using a women's features as a pickup line.

They aren't commenting on an attractive facial feature (like if someone complimented my smile), not my fashion sense, or anything else you could compliment before any communication between us has happened. Instead, it’s become increasingly popular for a guy to think his ‘in’ for conversation is by commenting on the features of my body, specifically my butt.

It's not just me, it's women everywhere. Between men confidently commenting on that size, shape or overall existence of one's breasts and butt, it's getting a little out of hand.

I get it, butts and boobs are there for you to see. Even while fully clothed you can still see that they exist, but since when is bringing up someone’s body an okay way to approach someone you have never met before? Since when did guys start feeling like sexualizing someone's body, even if you think her clothing some way insinuates she is looking for the attention, is perfectly acceptable?

It’s not.

Simple as that. In the case that you are oblivious to the obvious, you shouldn't be using a girl's butt or breast features as a conversational opener. Starting a conversation with a girl by pointing out parts of her body just isn't appropriate to bring up, especially when you don’t even know the person.

It’s uncomfortable, really makes someone question your motives, and basically shuts down any chance of a good conversation. So unless you want that to be the impression you give off to someone who's never met you again, I suggest re-evaluating your methods.