I'm Not Apologizing For My Fast Metabolism

I'm Not Apologizing For My Fast Metabolism

I have feelings and insecurities just like everyone else. Being "skinny" does not mean I don't struggle with my body image too.

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Throughout my life, I have noticed trends and outlooks that are none other than a thing of the past. Everyone has different body types and everyone develops at different paces. So why is it that we ridicule those with smaller figures or girls that are considered to be "skinny"?

Ever since I was little, I've always had a petite figure. My mom is small, my grandma is small, and just like them, I am small. Because of my petite figure, I have found that people would judge me frequently saying that "I don't eat" or "I'm unhealthy", etc. This just goes to show how differently people are looked at based off of their weight or physical appearance. Just because I have a smaller figure and considered "skinny" does not mean that I don't struggle with my body image issues or have all the self-confidence in the world. Although I've never been the one to go on diets or watch what I eat, I've always been self-conscious of my figure and how "small" I am.

I will never forget going to the mall last year with a couple of my new college friends. Looking through clothes and picking them out to try on, I was constantly worried that nothing would fit. While I would enter the fitting room with 10+ items, I would most likely exit with one or two pieces if any. When my friends and I reconvened, everyone questioned why I had no clothes in my hand. When I exclaimed they didn't fit, everyone said something along the lines of "What do you mean nothing fits, you're so small, you can fit into anything."

Although it can look like that on the outside, I always find myself struggling to fit into things because of my small and petite figure. What I dislike most is the idea that "skinny" girls have no care or insecurity in the world. Compared to all of my friends, I was always looked at as being "smaller" and I hated it. While I had insecurities like everyone else, no one would ever acknowledge how I felt because they thought being skinny was anything but a problem.

My friends and I still go to the gym when we have a chance, but I am not one for the daily workouts. I'll go to the gym if I feel like I need more activity a certain day or if I'm feeling "blah", but it has never been a priority for me. While my friends can drag me to the gym, I will constantly stay behind because I don't feel as if I need to that day, or just want to cut myself some slack. Different from my friends, I've never been the one to watch what I eat. Now getting older, I see friends going on diets, etc. to maintain a healthy lifestyle and I applaud them for that.

But no one should ever judge you when you don't want to go to the gym that day or criticize you because you have a faster metabolism than them. One day when I exclaimed that I didn't want to go to the gym my friend exclaimed, "You know, your metabolism is going to catch up with you someday". And although that is true, that I might not have this figure forever, no one should ever be ridiculed for there body image or being "skinny". I am looked at as though being skinny is a problem, people now associating being skinny with the social construct of modeling what is has done to the body image standard. It is as though because I am skinny, I have no body image problems and people can say whatever they want about my body.

Body image is a thing that everyone struggles with, whether it be a major or minor thing in their lives. I should not have to apologize for my fast metabolism, because that is how I was born. I have always eaten a lot, but it has never showed. So please don't tell me I need to eat more, or that I'm anorexic because it's not true. I may be small, but I am considered healthy for my size and honestly, it is no one else's business. Everyone has different body types. The new movement of every size is beautiful is amazing for the social construct of body images. Just realize that EVERY SIZE is beautiful, so stop criticizing girls who are "skinny", they have feelings and insecurities, just like everyone else.

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Just Because I'm Skinny Doesn't Mean It's OK To Body Shame Me

It's not okay for me to tell you to slow down on the Ho Hos but it's okay for you to tell me to go eat a burger?

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In today's society, body shaming seems to be common, which is unfortunate since it happens to everyone. Body shaming is known to occur to women or men we may consider "overweight." People may crack jokes or insults to overweight individuals.

As I am not considered "overweight," I am considered a "twig" to most — which has, of course, come with body shaming.

When you have a high and fast metabolism, it's pretty easy to just eat whatever you want and not gain the weight like other individuals might, but can I help that? No, I cannot, so stop telling me to go "eat a burger" because that doesn't make me feel any better about my thigh gap.

Skinny individuals might often hear negative comments from people that may pose to be "larger" or "thicker" but that doesn't make it okay.

If I can't tell you to "shed a few pounds" then you most certainly cannot tell me to "gain a couple pounds."

In my opinion and experience, it seems as though skinny individuals like myself get the backlash from "overweight" individuals. Is that because people that are bigger than me think I won't get offended because I'm small, or weigh less than them? Do people that body shame the skinny think that we're too comfortable in our own skin to get mad or angry? Or is it to make me feel bad about being too skinny to eat my way into a couple extra pounds?

Yes, in this world it is very hard to feel confident in your own skin with all the body shaming and negative feedback, but that shouldn't be a trigger to thinking it's okay to lash out on others.

I know for a fact that if I got on Twitter and found a "thick" person and called her "fat" that I wouldn't see the light in the next day because I'd be called cruel or get negative attention for body shaming. Now, If you were on Twitter and saw a bigger person call a skinny person a "twig" or "too skinny" there would be not near as much hate. That is completely outrageous because it all hurts the same.

The truth is, if you're a decent human being you won't care if there's a 400lb man on Twitter posting shirtless selfies or a 5'8"125-pound girl posting bikini pictures. A decent human being would be able to sit back and acknowledge that both pictures are the same. Because if both individuals in the picture are happy and confident then you should respect that and not body shame. What do you achieve from being a negative Nancy? 20k likes on a tweet? If that's the case, then you're just pathetic.

And don't think that just because I can wear a size 0 pant or an extra small top that I'm not self-conscious about my body. It's because of body shaming pricks like you that make me feel like I can't go out to the beach in my bikini because my ribs show when I raise my arms, or because my ass isn't peachy enough for you to look at.

The word on the street has always been, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it all — at least that's how my parents always raised me.

If you are overweight, who cares? If you have a thigh gap, who cares? And if you're considered an average weight, who cares? I know I don't, and I especially don't care enough to make an insult about it.

If you don't like when people tell you to go to the gym and lay off the junk food then do not come at me with a “go eat a burger" comment or a “do you even eat" side comment. because you won't gain anything out of that one — especially because I've heard that too many times. Be confident with yourself and keep your snide comments to yourself. I don't care if you're a size 14, so don't care that I'm a size 0.

And that's the tea, sis.

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Your Body Positivity May Be Someone Elses Body Negativity So Don't Define Your Worth With Your Curves

It's time for women to focus on being strong rather than promoting being over-weight.

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Nothing bothers me more than scrolling through my Instagram feed and coming across a photo that is hashtagged '#Fatkini' or '#TheBiggerTheBetter' or '#LoveMyCurves'.

Don't get me wrong, I love that people that lack the picture perfect body shape are comfortable with their bodies or are they?

Does it ever cross your mind that maybe these people are posting these photos because they aren't comfortable with their bodies and because they are looking for the approval they need? They are just waiting behind their screen for someone to comment, "I love this!" or "you go girl!" just so they can look in the mirror later and not feel quite as bad about what they see.

The truth is, underneath the makeup they are wearing and the clothes they are promoting, their face is broken out because they aren't healthy, their knees hurt from the extra weight, they haven't been to the gym in 2 years, they can't keep up with their kids, and their curves are screaming from the laced-up corset underneath their shirt. Maybe these people are comfortable with the skin they are in, and I hope for their sake that they are, but chances are they aren't.

Let's look at it from another point of view.

Imagine you are battling an eating disorder. You are struggling to eat, you can't gain weight, you're pale, your hair is falling out, and people are starting to notice. How would you feel if you constantly saw people promoting having the weight that you just can't seem to find? You don't see these people posting on Instagram with #SkinnyIsInny or #SkinnierIsPrettier and you shouldn't be posting about your curves either.

Don't get me wrong. I'm tall, athletic, thick thighed (thanks dad), and decently curvy buy you will never find me promoting my size or my weight and you will never ever see me bragging about my body type. Sure, I'll post a picture in a bikini or laying by the pool with friends but talking about my size is not something you will find in the caption.

It's time for women to focus on being strong rather than promoting being over-weight. Wouldn't you much rather have someone comment on your amazing quads and rounded glutes than congratulating you for snapping a picture of your cellulite?

There are plenty of ways to be comfortable with your body without talking about it in the public's eye. Wear your most flattering jeans to a restaurant, strut your stuff in your cheeky bathing suit bottoms at the pool, wear tight leggings to the gym, but never promote your size, simply because you don't know what battles the people that are seeing your #Fatkini photo are fighting.

So, remember ladies: Curvy is in, promoting it isn't. Cellulite is natural, posting pictures of it isn't. Stretch marks are proof that your body has grown and changed or maybe even supported another life but talking about them will not make the stretch marks fade. Just keep in mind that your cry for a confidence boost may be someone else's breaking point. Don't be the reason they break.

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