Have You Experienced The 'Bid Day Blues?'

Have You Experienced The 'Bid Day Blues?'

What you have to remember to tell yourselves is that there is so much to look forward to.

Welcome to sorority life. You’ve just opened your bid card and see your name written in the middle with the emblem and crest surrounding it. You start running home to your beautiful home filled with 150+ of your new sisters. You get there and now what? You realize you pretty much know absolutely no one. This weird feeling you have and the loneliness you might feel is none other than what are called “Bid Day Blues.”

By now, you either recognize this feeling I’m talking about, or you realize that it’s okay to admit this is normal. If you really think about it, how in the world is it normal to collaborate a new pledge class of 50+ women and make them love each other like sisters? Like many relationships, it takes time and multiple introductions to qualify a relationship as sisterly.

So now that you’ve met a bunch of girls in your new house, you go home and contemplate if sorority life is really for you. The answer is yes. It can be for everyone. You can’t let the awkwardness of a Bid Day define your entire sorority experience. Believe me, Bid Day is awkward for everyone, including current members. We don’t know you just as much as you don’t know us. We want to smother you with love and excitement but we don’t want to scare the daylight out of you. And we’re too scared to tell you how much we love and adore you and want to hug and squeeze you because we just welcomed you home about five minutes ago.

So, yes, this is all normal to feel this way. And if you question whether or not you joined the right house, that’s normal too. Everyone at one point or another has thought, “what if I was in this house instead?” We’ve all second guessed our selves, especially on this first day because everything is so awkward but new and kind of exciting in a terrifying, nervous way. What you have to remember to tell yourselves is that there is so much coming up to look forward to. Not only do you get to meet over 100 girls, but you get to grow closer to your pledge class filled with girls from all over the place. Girls with different stories, different backgrounds, and so many memories to be created with. After you grow close with the members in your house, you then have so many events to look forward to. You have football games to attend with your sisters, date dashes and exchanges with fraternities. Big-Little is right around the corner, and you have a Big waiting to claim you as their very own. And formal, the prom night of sororities that can turn into one of the best nights during your membership.

The next few months will take some getting used to and some settling in just like any other situation that requires an introduction. It will be awkward at first, but you will soon find your place. You will meet the people you will surround yourself with and make the most of your time as a member with. So don’t let the Bid Day Blues from one day define how your time as a member will be. Bid Day is the beginning of something new and exciting that can sometimes be not as happy as you expected it to be. And that’s okay. It’s what you make of it all in the days after Bid Day that counts the most.

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To The Senior Graduating High School In A Month

"What feels like the end, is often the beginning."

It wasn’t too long ago that I was in your shoes. Just a little over a year ago, I was the senior that had a month left. One month left in the hometown that I grew up in. One month left with the friends that I didn’t want to leave. One month left in the place that I had called “my school” for the past four years. You are probably thinking the same things I thought whenever it came down to only 30 days left. You’re probably scared, nervous, worried, or anxious. Maybe you’re like me and are dying to get out of high school, ready to start a new chapter. Or maybe you aren’t so ready yet. Maybe you’re wishing for a little more time.

As scary as it is, this month you have left will fly by. You’ll blink and you’ll be standing in your cap and gown, waiting for your name to be called to receive your diploma. You’ll look back on your last four years at your school and wonder why time went by so fast. It’ll be bittersweet. However, trust me when I say that you have so much to look forward to. You are about to begin taking the steps to build your future. You are going to grow and learn so much more than any high school class could teach you. You are going to meet amazing people and accomplish amazing things. So, as scared as you might be, I encourage you to take that first step out of your comfort zone and face this world head on. Chase your dreams and work towards your goals. You are smart. You are brave. You are capable of achieving amazing things. All your life, the lessons you have learned have prepared you for this point in your life. You are more than ready.

There are times when you will feel alone, scared, or confused. There are times when it won’t always be easy. But those are the times when you will shine the most because I know you will work through whatever problems you may face. Don’t think of the bad times as a terrible thing. Use them all as learning experiences. As author Joshua Marine once said, “Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”

You might think that this is the end. However, it’s not. This is only the beginning. Trust me when I say that the adventures and opportunities you are about to face are nothing compared to high school. Whether you are going to college, going to work, or something else, this is the beginning of your journey called life. It will be exciting, it will be terrifying, but it will all be worth it.

So, as you walk out of your high school for the very last time, I encourage you to take a deep breath. Relax. You’ll always have the memories to look back on from high school. But your time is now, it begins today. Embrace it.

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5 Things That Happen When It's Greek Week

It's like a sports pride week, except it's for sororities/frats.


The weather is warmer, people are happy, spring rush is over and most of the new members have been initiated into their respective frat or fraternity. Snow pants have been traded for jean shorts, winter coats have been traded for tee shirts and cardigans. Crowded libraries are now emptied out as people move outside to study. There are now kids napping in hammocks instead of the floor of the library. Instead of gloves, hands now hold iced coffee and tea. It's no longer dark at 5 pm and you can walk back from you're night class not in fear. In general, life is good and it keeps getting better.

The greeks like to capitalize n this to have the most fun and successful greek week possible ( I should know, I'm in a sorority). The outdoor games, the friendly competitions, and the smiles make the week much more fun.

1. Letters everywhere. 

Everywhere you you look someone is wearing their letters. Weather it be for point check in or just general pride, the amount of letters worn this week, increases exponentially.

2. Games

Games like corn-hole or flag football make a comeback for some friendly competition between different frats and sororities and are just fun in general, especially with warmer weather.

3. Music being played loud and outside

Now this usually happens when the warmer gets warmer no matter what but greek week just lends it self to large groups of young men and women gathering and playing music.

4. Your friends will ask you to help their sorority/ frat "win" 

"Please place coins in the coin buck for X sorority/frat!!"

"Don't forget to sign up for this and to put our sorority in the description"

With competition comes the need to mobilize all of our friends.

5. Social Media

Suddenly everyone's stories are just picture of their letters/ promoting the sorority. It seems strange but think of it like posing your team's mascot to your social media during a really big game

Greek Week: it's fun, it's loud, it's warm, it's spirited. Even if some of the activities are a little bit confusing, I promise you'll have alo more fun if you participate in the skits, races, corn hole tournaments than if you stand by and judge those who are. It's also a great way to break down stereotypes and get to know your greek community in a fun, non competitive way.

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