Have You Experienced The 'Bid Day Blues?'

Have You Experienced The 'Bid Day Blues?'

What you have to remember to tell yourselves is that there is so much to look forward to.

Welcome to sorority life. You’ve just opened your bid card and see your name written in the middle with the emblem and crest surrounding it. You start running home to your beautiful home filled with 150+ of your new sisters. You get there and now what? You realize you pretty much know absolutely no one. This weird feeling you have and the loneliness you might feel is none other than what are called “Bid Day Blues.”

By now, you either recognize this feeling I’m talking about, or you realize that it’s okay to admit this is normal. If you really think about it, how in the world is it normal to collaborate a new pledge class of 50+ women and make them love each other like sisters? Like many relationships, it takes time and multiple introductions to qualify a relationship as sisterly.

So now that you’ve met a bunch of girls in your new house, you go home and contemplate if sorority life is really for you. The answer is yes. It can be for everyone. You can’t let the awkwardness of a Bid Day define your entire sorority experience. Believe me, Bid Day is awkward for everyone, including current members. We don’t know you just as much as you don’t know us. We want to smother you with love and excitement but we don’t want to scare the daylight out of you. And we’re too scared to tell you how much we love and adore you and want to hug and squeeze you because we just welcomed you home about five minutes ago.

So, yes, this is all normal to feel this way. And if you question whether or not you joined the right house, that’s normal too. Everyone at one point or another has thought, “what if I was in this house instead?” We’ve all second guessed our selves, especially on this first day because everything is so awkward but new and kind of exciting in a terrifying, nervous way. What you have to remember to tell yourselves is that there is so much coming up to look forward to. Not only do you get to meet over 100 girls, but you get to grow closer to your pledge class filled with girls from all over the place. Girls with different stories, different backgrounds, and so many memories to be created with. After you grow close with the members in your house, you then have so many events to look forward to. You have football games to attend with your sisters, date dashes and exchanges with fraternities. Big-Little is right around the corner, and you have a Big waiting to claim you as their very own. And formal, the prom night of sororities that can turn into one of the best nights during your membership.

The next few months will take some getting used to and some settling in just like any other situation that requires an introduction. It will be awkward at first, but you will soon find your place. You will meet the people you will surround yourself with and make the most of your time as a member with. So don’t let the Bid Day Blues from one day define how your time as a member will be. Bid Day is the beginning of something new and exciting that can sometimes be not as happy as you expected it to be. And that’s okay. It’s what you make of it all in the days after Bid Day that counts the most.

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Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

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26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

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Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

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Joining A Sorority Was The Best Decision Of My Life

I have met my future bridesmaids, my best friends, and now my family.


When I was in high school, I always thought about how college would be once I graduated. I thought about what classes I would take, what the campus would look like, and what I would major in. The thing I was concerned about the most was how I as going to make friends. I was moving to a college a couple of hours away from my home and I was not going to know anyone. I was literally picking up my life and moving it without knowing what lies before me.

I was talking to my aunt right after I graduated and she asked me if I would be interested in sorority life. I had never thought about being in a sorority before. We talked it over and she told me about all the things she got to do when she was at college. She told me things such as what events she got to be in, the people she met, and the friends that she still keeps in touch with to this day. I decided right there that a sorority was a good choice for me.

The closer towards the end of summer, the more excited I got for college and possibly joining a sorority. I did my research before coming into college about what sorority I could see myself in. I was super nervous and doubted myself at times but I pushed forward and kept pursuing sorority life. I was invited to a summer social where you go and get to meet a handful of the actual girls in these sororities and ask them any questions you have.

When I got there, my mom and I were so excited. We got upstairs and everything looked so pretty. All the girls were so nice and welcoming and it really made me fall in love with my college even more. I got to talk to each sorority through a representative. I knew by the end of the day that sorority life was going to be a great adventure, but I had no idea just what I was getting into.

The recruitment weekend was super stressful. I had to get up early each morning and be in full glam mode which for me means hair done and makeup fully on. We had specific outfits to ear each day. I was very nervous that something would go wrong and I would not get picked or the girls would not like me. Each party that I went to was different but it showed me all kinds of different aspects of each sorority.

Each one had something great about them and I thought I knew which one fit me best, but I would soon be proven wrong. The last day of recruitment was Bid Day. This is the day you find out what sorority you will be joining if you accept the bid from that sorority. I opened my envelope and saw a name that I was not expecting and I was devastated. I felt unaccepted. I had received a bid from Delta Zeta. This is not the name I wanted to see on my paper, but it is what I got so I stuck it out and tried to look on the bright side.

I quickly realized that getting the bid from Delta Zeta was the best thing that ever happened to me. I have found that sorority that I dreamed of when I first thought about joining a sorority. I have made so many friends and met some many wonderful people. My sisters love me for me and it has made me the happiest girl in the world.

Not only are they your own personal therapist, but they help you with school too. They hold you to a higher standard and you are placed on a pedestal of honor when people see you in your letters. I have met my future bridesmaids, my best friends, and now my family. I am so thankful for Delta Zeta for picking me to be apart of this amazing organization. I will never be able to express my love for Delta Zeta because the words are endless.

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