Being Single Is What's Best For Me Right Now

I'm Single And That's OK For Me

Right now, I'm better off alone. And that's okay.


I talked to a few boys. I've flirted with a few. I thought I was going to date one of them. I ended up blocking one.

Some of my friends, on the other hand, are in relationships. One is in a long-distance one because he is in the Marines, another friend other lives with her boyfriend and another goes to college 3 hours away from hers.

At this moment, they are all very happy in their relationships. However, I've seen some people that I know end up in not-so-happy ones.

I've seen some of their significant others end up in jail, I've seen them break up and even get divorced.

After seeing all of these things and coming to terms with things that have happened in my own past "relationships," if you want to call them that, I think that I'm better off alone for right now.

Sure, I'm only 22. I've got my whole life ahead of me to worry about falling in love and having a kid or two, but right now, I'm not focusing on that.

People have told me that they ask their boyfriends if they can do certain things and that just blows my mind. Maybe it's because I'm not dating anyone and I don't quite understand, but answering to anyone other than your parents does not settle well with me.

I like doing my own thing. I like traveling for concerts. I like staying out late doing things with my friends. I like spending my hard-earned money on myself. Having to ask someone if I can do these things just seems weird.

I know it's a sign of respect, and I can understand that, but it's something I can't wrap my head around.

In addition to doing my own thing, I think I'm better off alone because of how busy I am.

Right now, it's summer, so the only thing I'm doing is (pretty much) working full-time and attending concerts, but during the school year, it gets crazy.

Sometimes, I'm at school for 12 to 14 hours a day, not to mention that I also have a job at school, so my attention is divided between assignments and job duties.

I usually don't get home until evening, and by that point, I'm too tired to do anything else, so all I do is eat dinner and climb in bed to prepare for my next 12 hour day.

This wouldn't be fair to my boyfriend if I had one. What's the point in dating someone if you're going to put them on the back burner and not be able to actually spend some time with them until the weekend, when even then your time is limited?

Being so young, I've got a good chunk of time ahead of me, which is frightening in itself to even begin thinking about.

I'll happily support all of my friends who are currently in relationships and I wish them all the best, but for now, I think I'm happiest doing my own thing, making money and building a successful career, and that's okay.

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7 Signals A Girl Will Try To Send You If She Likes You As More Than A Friend

Girls do subliminal things to show you her interest in you. Pay attention to these low key signs that she is shooting her shot.


It is never easy when a girl has to fully admit her feelings to a guy she likes, so instead, she sends slight signals in hopes that he picks up on her hints.

1. She can't stop smiling at you

She is happy to talk to you and to be in your presence, the smallest things that you do make her want to smile. She can't control the happiness inside and it comes out in a great big smile. In her head, she is just thinking about how much she enjoys spending time with you and how much she likes you.

2. She hugs you with both arms

Side hugs are common, easy, and very universal. She wants to give you full body hug because to show you she feels different about you than any other guy. With a full body hug she can rest her face on your chest and this just brings the two of you closer.

3. She makes direct eye contact

Direct eye contact is always a great sign. This means she is fully aware of everything you are saying and she is completely interested.

4. She scans your face and lips

Upon talking to you, she begins to scan your face. In this moment she is appreciating your attractiveness and completely zoned out. Forget you said anything to her because she probably was not listening. If she is looking at your lips then she definitely wants a kiss.

5. She says "Oh my god, stahhhp"

The 'I'm mad at you, but I'm flirting with you' slogan. She is trying to be cute and pick a fight with you so you can two can play around. She's hoping this will lead to cracking jokes

6. She adjusts her clothing

She is fidgety when your around because she has feelings for you and is nervous. She wants to look her best with you around, so she is subconsciously fixing herself so that nothing looks bad.

7. She sends you cute snap chats

Silly, crazy, and just straight up ugly snap chats are for friends. If her selfies are , done each time, then she cares a lot about how you see her and she wants you to see her at her best. She is not always looking for a compliment, but throw one her way and you will make her day.

Pay attention to the signs a girl is sending. Her body language and behavior around all come together for an important message, she likes you! A lot.

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.


I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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