She's My Soulmate, But Not In The Way You'd Think

She's My Soulmate, But Not In The Way You'd Think

Ironically, the miles between us keep us closer.


Some may believe that a best friend is someone who you spend every moment with, share every memory with, and talk to at every single moment. Additionally, others may think that a soulmate has to be that special person who you are romantic with. For me, neither of these arguments are the case. I believe my soulmate is my best friend, not because I'm in love with her, but because she brings out the best in me. She completely gets me even though our friendship is through long distance.

My best friend and "soulmate" is someone who I have not known for that long, only since this past summer of 2018. She is dedicated, caring, ambitious, strong, and incredibly sassy. She is the person who perfectly complements yet counteracts my passive vibe with her fierce attitude. My best friend is amazing, and her name is Reigan. I cannot begin to thank her enough for what she has taught me, even if she hasn't realized it.

I met Reigan at my job, which is at a seafood restaurant called Mr. Shrimp in Belmar, New Jersey. We were both hosts this summer and automatically got along well. Her ability to make me laugh cannot be measured. I went through numerous difficult times this summer, and Reigan was and continues to be my partner in crime. When we met, we hung out as much as we could because we were a new and exciting duo. Even today, our friendship is a fire that can't be ceased.

Since I'm a sophomore in college who goes to school in West Chester and Reigan is still a high-school senior in New Jersey, we never get to see each other. I do not live at the Jersey Shore anymore, and my new hometown is in Easton, Pennsylvania, so this makes it even harder to come up with plans. Even though our situation is difficult, it doesn't challenge us! We keep in contact almost every day, and she is one of the few people I can vent to with pure honesty. She is always there, and is constantly checking on me to make sure that I am okay and always throws positive words my way!

Our friendship is unique compared to others I have because in my heart it truly feels like a bond that can't be broken. Our personalities work so well together! Because I strongly believe in Zodiac horoscopes, maybe the stars aligned for us to meet. I am a Sagittarius and Reigan is a Taurus, so our principles are meant to agree because we can disagree about certain things! Either way, she is my sunshine and always puts me in a fabulous mood.

I feel very appreciative to have a friend like her by my side. She taught me what confidence is. There are times when I have felt really insecure, just like any other human being. Reigan teaches me strength, resilience, and diligence. She is one of the most hardworking and incredible people I know. Her bold nails and contagious smile will continue to resonate with me. I hope she knows that she is on my wavelength and I will always have her back. I'll never forget the valuable things she has implemented in me solely by being the person she is.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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18 Things You Know To Be True If You Are A Dancer



It's the night before my first dance competition of the season, so of course I'm going to write about dance. Without further ado here are 26 of the most common things you know if like me, you are a dancer.

1. You are constantly choreographing dances in your head.

It doesn't matter what song you are jamming out to, without fail, you find yourself choreographing dances, even at 2:00 AM.

2. You always find a way to practice your solos or dances for competition.

Even if you have a small space to work with, NOTHING, and I mean absolutely nothing will stop you from practicing.

3. You are constantly trying to better your technique.

All day, every day, it doesn't matter if you're working on turn combinations or bettering your tap technique, not a day goes by that you don't work on it.

4. You have a "dance drawer" in your dresser.

Leotards, tights, and booty shorts, oh my!

5. The studio is like your second home and your team is like your second family.

There's really no explanation needed.

6. You feel like you never get enough time in the studio.

Because there's no such thing as "too much dance"

7. Your weekends always consist of a dance private

Literally almost every weekend

8. You're not embarrassed about going out in public while wearing dance clothes.

And you don't care if people look at you funny for wearing your leotard and company jacket to a restaurant.

9. Your company jacket is your jacket of choice.

You've gotta represent your studio, plus it's sooo comfortable.

10. Forget the holidays, competition season is the most wonderful time of the year.

I love competition season so much!

11. You're always losing bobby pins.

Gotta love those sock buns that take you literally 15 minutes to do, and the ridiculous amount of bobby pins that you use just so your bun can stay in tact.

12. You have regular earrings and then you have dance competition earrings.

Those big sparkly earrings are always fun to wear.

13. Your Instagram explore page is full of videos of other dancers.

What can I say, I just love dance.

14. The phrase "I can't, I have dance" is one you say all the time

I apologize to all of my friends and family who I try to make plans with but can't follow through because of dance privates.

15. The same goes for "5, 6, 7, 8"

I am so guilty of this one.

16. People ask you if what you do is like what they watch on "Dance Moms"

And you reply with "Sort of, but not exactly"

17. Sometimes you just randomly strike a dance pose.

For me, it has always been , and always will be an arabesque.

18. Your mom is the best dance mom ever, and you dad is the best dance dad ever.

They honestly are, I couldn't do any of this without my wonderful parents and am so thankful that they continue to support me in doing something that I absolutely love.

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