She's My Soulmate, But Not In The Way You'd Think

She's My Soulmate, But Not In The Way You'd Think

Ironically, the miles between us keep us closer.


Some may believe that a best friend is someone who you spend every moment with, share every memory with, and talk to at every single moment. Additionally, others may think that a soulmate has to be that special person who you are romantic with. For me, neither of these arguments are the case. I believe my soulmate is my best friend, not because I'm in love with her, but because she brings out the best in me. She completely gets me even though our friendship is through long distance.

My best friend and "soulmate" is someone who I have not known for that long, only since this past summer of 2018. She is dedicated, caring, ambitious, strong, and incredibly sassy. She is the person who perfectly complements yet counteracts my passive vibe with her fierce attitude. My best friend is amazing, and her name is Reigan. I cannot begin to thank her enough for what she has taught me, even if she hasn't realized it.

I met Reigan at my job, which is at a seafood restaurant called Mr. Shrimp in Belmar, New Jersey. We were both hosts this summer and automatically got along well. Her ability to make me laugh cannot be measured. I went through numerous difficult times this summer, and Reigan was and continues to be my partner in crime. When we met, we hung out as much as we could because we were a new and exciting duo. Even today, our friendship is a fire that can't be ceased.

Since I'm a sophomore in college who goes to school in West Chester and Reigan is still a high-school senior in New Jersey, we never get to see each other. I do not live at the Jersey Shore anymore, and my new hometown is in Easton, Pennsylvania, so this makes it even harder to come up with plans. Even though our situation is difficult, it doesn't challenge us! We keep in contact almost every day, and she is one of the few people I can vent to with pure honesty. She is always there, and is constantly checking on me to make sure that I am okay and always throws positive words my way!

Our friendship is unique compared to others I have because in my heart it truly feels like a bond that can't be broken. Our personalities work so well together! Because I strongly believe in Zodiac horoscopes, maybe the stars aligned for us to meet. I am a Sagittarius and Reigan is a Taurus, so our principles are meant to agree because we can disagree about certain things! Either way, she is my sunshine and always puts me in a fabulous mood.

I feel very appreciative to have a friend like her by my side. She taught me what confidence is. There are times when I have felt really insecure, just like any other human being. Reigan teaches me strength, resilience, and diligence. She is one of the most hardworking and incredible people I know. Her bold nails and contagious smile will continue to resonate with me. I hope she knows that she is on my wavelength and I will always have her back. I'll never forget the valuable things she has implemented in me solely by being the person she is.

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21 Things You Say To Your Roommate If You Two Are Practically A Married Couple

Until I made this list, I didn't realize how absurdly close my roommate and I were. #sorrynotsorry

1. "Can you turn the light off?"

2. "We probably shouldn't go out for dinner again...right?"

*complains about not having money* *spends $8 on Chipotle three times a week*

3. "I always pick where we go"

This is a fight you have with your roommate almost every day when you're roommate is as indecisive as mine.

4. "Do you have my keys?"

5. "Can you pick me up?"

6. "Is it hot in here?"

7. "Does this outfit look stupid?"

The answer is usually yes. No offense.

8. "Can you throw this out for me?"

9. "Can we get ice cream?"

10. "I need coffee"

This text is usually sent when you know your roomie is out running errands... errands you know are near a Starbucks.

11. "Can you tell me what happened?"

12. "Are you asleep?"

There have been times where I couldn't tell if you were asleep or dead... and I had to say this out loud to check if you were alive.

13. "Check your dm's."

*cracks up in the middle of nowhere* *catches a weird stare from your roomie across the room*

14. "Can you plug this in for me?"

15. "Can you pick a movie?"

Another instance where "I always pick" happens.

16. "Look at this girl's Instagram."

*chucks phone across the room at roommate*

17. "Can you call me?"

18. "Can we meet up?"

Separation anxiety is a real thing, people.

19. "Can you help me find my phone?"

*Tries to leave the house to do something* *loses phone* every. time.

20. "What should we do tonight?"

*tries to get ready to do something fun* *ends up staying in for another girls night*

21. "Why isn't everyone as great as us?"

Cover Image Credit: Juliarose Genuardi

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3 Reasons To Cut That Bad Friend Off

We all have that one friend who is generally bad for us.


We all have that one friend who is generally bad for us. It is perfectly okay to think about yourself and do what is right for you. It can be very toxic and unhealthy to constantly be around a bad influence in any kind of way. People always say they want to be financially secure or feeling secure with their significant other, but friendships also need security. Here are three reasons why that may not be the case.

1. They aren't supportive.

We all have that friend who generally does not care about what you say or do. You gotta be careful with that. Some people will act like they do, but behind closed doors with their other friends they don't. There are so many things to talk about with friends especially problems and issues within each other's personal life. If that person isn't making any attempt to show any kind of sympathy for you, they aren't the friend for you.

True friends are always behind your back in whatever you may be going through. Yes sometimes it can be hard because everyone has their own problems, but if you are willing to give and take it makes a good balance. What I mean by that is, giving each other space to breathe and reflect on things that are happening, then come together and talk about it with one another.

2. Too clingy or needy.

Another part in having not so good friends is if the person is too close to where they don't give you any space to get yourself together. The person who is clingy may have personal things going on in their life to make them like that and that is okay. But it can become unhealthy if the problems start becoming your problems and it is taking over your life in a negative way. What I mean by that is if that person is acting a certain way towards you and you can't seem to enjoy life as much sometimes to where you actually feel miserable, that is unhealthy. For example, jealousy. There are some friends who are very clingy because they are nosy and very jealous.

They don't take your kind friendship seriously because they are too busy secretly comparing their life to yours. There are some things in life that you can't control or help others with because it has to be handled a certain way. At the same time, you are still going through your own things and it can be draining to try and "fix" someone else when you have a lot on your plate as it is. Sometimes it is best to cut them off if they generally will not leave you alone or they are manipulating you in any kind of way from it. Sometimes doing that gives people a wake-up call of how they take their anger or problems out on others.

3. They talk about you behind your back.

To make this clear, everyone talks about everyone. There is nothing wrong with that. But there is a difference between generally talking about someone to inform someone about what is going on, expressing frustration and trying to resolve something by asking for advice, compared to actually bad mouthing about someone in a very rude and mean way. If the person is actually saying mean things about you, they aren't the friend for you. If they insult you in any kind of way (race, gender, outer appearance, personality, family or other friends), it is best to stop being friends with them. If they talk about you behind your back and plan anything to try and harm you or someone else, it is best to cut them off and also inform some type of authority.

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