No matter how much sex you're having or how satisfied you are once you've finished, there are always ways to explore what pleases you and how to make it even better. That's right, the sky's the limit.
While exploring this on your own or with your partner(s) is always fun, not really knowing where to start or how to approach the topic can be tricky. So, regardless of what "sexual stage" you're in — from unsatisfied to satisfied, new-to-the-game to experienced, looking for more or looking to spice things up — you'll be pleased to follow these 11 sexologists on Instagram for O-so-hot tips to help you have the sex life you want (and deserve).
1. @mhsexpert
View this post on InstagramWhen was the last time you took a relationship inventory? It's important to be clear about your relationship baselines & standards. I hope this video provides guidance on how to take a relationship inventory as well as keep yourself accountable for how you show up in relationships... #ReciprocityIsReal #HappyHunting #UnapologeticSexologist
A post shared by Michelle Hope, M.A. (@mhsexpert) on Jan 14, 2020 at 8:48pm PST
2. @gigiengle
View this post on InstagramHello, beautiful unicorn babies! 🦄⠀ ⠀ ⠀ Big news!!! The ALL THE F*CKING MISTAKES eBook has been selected for a Macmillan-Exclusive Kindle Big Deal from 9/21 - 9/27! You can get my book for $2.99 across all e-retailers! Yay!⠀ ⠀ If you're interested in an empowering-a$s book about all thing female s€xuality - you'll probably love it. I know it wrote it, but it's really funny ... promise!⠀ ⠀ Link in bio (under the “All The F*cking Mistakes" button) to buy it! I love you! 🦄🦄🦄 (Photo by @_andrewrose)
A post shared by Gigi Engle (@gigiengle) on Sep 21, 2020 at 1:22pm PDT
3. @sexologybae
View this post on InstagramTaurean Joy. Happy birthday to me!
A post shared by alex🌞💫 (@sexologybae) on Apr 21, 2019 at 3:39pm PDT
4. @sexologypodcast
View this post on InstagramSexual communication feels very vulnerable, where we risk revealing something about ourselves we rarely share with others, yet without risk there is little reward (and few orgasms!). 🤔🤔😑⠀ ⠀ So what makes for good communication? If you're preparing to talk to your partner, it might help to take a moment and imagine how you would want your partner to talk to you, if the tables were reversed. How would you want to feel? How would you not want to feel? ⠀ ⠀ A good communicator does their best to be:⠀ ⚡️Authentic⠀ “I have something to tell you that's hard for me to share, and yet its very important that I let you know before we have sex... I was diagnosed with Herpes several years before we met."⠀ ⠀ ⚡️Kind and Gentle ⠀ “I want to talk about something that might be difficult for you to hear, because it's important that we be open with one another. I've been feeling some pain when we have sex, and I want to share with you what's going on so hopefully we can figure out a solution."⠀ ⠀ ⚡️Understanding⠀ “I can imagine hearing me share my sexy dream about our neighbor would be uncomfortable, and I want to assure you it was just a dream, I would never do anything to jeopardize our relationship." ⠀ ⠀ ⚡️Clear⠀ “I want to share a fantasy I've had lately, that I would love to try doing sometime if you're open⠀ ⠀ ⚡️Curious about their partner's response⠀ "How do you feel about what I just said?"⠀ ⠀ ⚡️Aims to initiate a mutual discussion⠀ “I'd really like to talk about the concept of open relationships, stepping outside of our own relationship for a moment. What do you think about non-monogamy in general?"⠀ ⠀ Tell me, based on your experience what makes for not-so-good communication?
A post shared by Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D (@sexologypodcast) on Sep 24, 2020 at 9:53am PDT
5. @cherylfagan
View this post on InstagramLast week I became a certified Sexologist ✿ What a journey. The application process took 2.5 years which I am so thankful for. I have had the most amazing supervisor, Dr Rose Hartzell. This has been a dream of mine for over 10 years and there were many many steps, it was a massive stretch personally, academically, and financially. Being certified keeps me accountable to a code of ethics and ensures continuing research and professional development on my end. As a certified Sex Educator, my goal is to take students on a journey of sexual-self-discovery that allows them to work through their sexual attitudes and beliefs, aligned with factual information - providing sexual literacy that empowers individuals in their sexual health and wellbeing by enabling them to make healthy choices and have the sex life they desire! I'll share my Sexuality Educator Philosophy on the website later this week. Thank you @theaasect
A post shared by Cheryl Fagan, Sexologist (@cherylfagan) on Aug 31, 2020 at 8:27pm PDT
6. @thetanyambass
View this post on InstagramHad a good discussion last night on healthy relationships! So much joy! #iteachsexed #SouthernSexologist™
A post shared by Tanya Bass,MS,MEd,CHES®,CSE (@thetanyambass) on Oct 13, 2020 at 5:19pm PDT
7. @drnikkig
View this post on InstagramThis is a selfie that warms my heart and this is why I'm sharing it. As much as the pandemic has caused chaos, it has also given me something I would have never gotten this year, more time with my parents. I have done two stints on the Gold Coast with them, one in lockdown and this selfie was taken on their bed.⠀ 💜⠀ I had to do some videos and was looking for somewhere quiet and my Mother suggested her room. I have so many memories of being in that room. As a kid, I was never allowed to sleep in their bed but if I was scared or there was a storm I was allowed to sleep on the floor next to them. As a teen and young adult, when I would try to come home without waking anyone up, my Mother would always be waiting and I would creep into her bedroom to say goodnight. As an adult, I love visiting my parents and going into their room in the morning to see if they are awake. Mostly I find them both asleep in bed as they are late night people, and it's like I'm watching my two kids sleeping.⠀ 💜⠀ So yes, when I saw this shot on my phone, all I could feel was happiness, love and joy and I feel as though that's also what I'm expressing on my face, most likely due to where I'm sitting and the associated feelings I would have had sitting there. #selfiesaturday
A post shared by Dr Nikki Goldstein (@drnikkig) on Oct 9, 2020 at 3:01pm PDT
8. @carlen.costa
View this post on InstagramSTAAAHHPP 🛑✋🏼 Listen.👂 💜Babe - you gotta talk to someone.💜 👏🏼I can't count how many times I've said that to people these past couple of weeks 🗓This year I've held space for some incredibly brave stories, heart breaking stories, inspiring stories, beautiful stories, and tough AF stories. 💜Everything from falling out of love with our partners, falling out of love with ourselves, multiple rape/sexual assault disclosures, suicide ideations, pain from penetrative intercourse, bouts with depression, fighting the faces of anxiety, loss of energy and motivation, the inability to orgasm, the inability to safely be in love, body image dysmorphia and disturbances, coming through divorces and separations, being cheated on, being a cheater (legit, no judgment), learning how to communicate, anger management and supporting humans to come back home to themselves.🏡 (just to name a few...) 🌟Healers like me, we're the second wave workers that don't get talked about, don't get signs made up, don't get wage increases, and don't get to jump ahead of lines. We're the ones who hold you when everything else is falling apart. We're the ones who reveal your path towards the light, when the darkness is all you can see. 🔥And- we're the ones you need to call now. I've been honoured to witness the power of #talktherapy #arttherapy #movementtherapy #plantmedicinetherapy and I've personally participated in all of them. You can't be a healer until you commit to facing your own shit. #illuminate 💥And yeah, that's why I'm strong, accountable and resilient AF. That's why I'm thriving; and, Thats where I want you to be. Right here. Feeling good. Feeling confident. Feeling loved. Feeling seen. Feeling capable in your knowing. ❤️So, lovely Goddess or Arthur, what you going to do about that heart of yours? Are you ready to talk? I'm ready to listen. Book a free Discovery Call with me #linkinbio and let's see if we're a good fit. ❤️Love You, #sohard #carlencosta #theeverydaygoddess #psychotherapy #psychotherapist #ldnont #canada #ontario #sexologist #sexology #therapists #therapyworks #mentalhealth #mentalhealthcanada #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #ineedhelp
A post shared by Sexologist & Psychotherapist (@carlen.costa) on Oct 13, 2020 at 9:11am PDT
9. @askgoody
View this post on InstagramJust a lil light werk from @simisexx_ Black women serving you w/ sex ed AND swag! I love this colorway, but sge has others. Check her out! #BLM #buyblack #blacksexed #sexologists #askgoody #SEXEDU
A post shared by Goody Howard (she|her) (@askgoody) on Aug 7, 2020 at 10:29pm PDT
10. @australiansexologist
View this post on InstagramWhy that's NOT the right question.
A post shared by Ｎａｏｍｉ Ｈｕｔｃｈｉｎｇｓ♀️(She/Her) (@australiansexologist) on Oct 18, 2020 at 4:34pm PDT
11. @sexologistshamyra
View this post on InstagramIn this video I give the #1 reason why people who have sex with each other might not talk about sex with each other.
A post shared by Shamyra (@sexologistshamyra) on Jul 14, 2020 at 9:57am PDT
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