An Open Letter To My Friends As We're Changing And Growing Apart

An Open Letter To My Friends As We're Changing And Growing Apart

I love you all more than you know!


I know things are changing and we are all starting to grow apart, but I want you all to take the time to actually read this article carefully! You guys have always been here for me since day one, I know I can always count on you all when I am down and need to be picked back up! I don't honestly know how to thank you all for everything you have done for me!

Throughout my life, I have had friends come and go, and they didn't support me as these guys do! They say you know when you find your people...I have defiantly found my people! You are the ones I call when I have good or bad news, the ones I call when I need advice! These four ladies are my rocks, the ones I call when I need to vent or just to even cry over the phone and they don't say anything, they just let me cry until I'm done then they speak! That right there is how I know I found my people!

It never used to be the five of us, until we opened up our little circle and let the 4th person in! Then as time went on, we added the 5th person in, I am so so so thankful that we did! I have always been one to make new friends, but I will NEVER replace my best friends ever! You know how they say "you are stuck with me forever, you know too much about me?" well yeah that is definitely true in this hang on tight ladies, you are in this for the long haul now!

I can honestly say, I did not meet all of you in the same place at all! I have been best friends with one of you since I was like 7 years old, we met because you use to live down the street from me! Another one was, when I finally moved schools you were a grade ahead of me and had been best friends with someone else and that made us become closer and now here we are 8 years later best friends!

My oh my next I have to admit, she is the girl that came into a circle of three and made it the four of us, she also the girl that lives three houses away from me we met because of how close she lives to me and we just instantly because best friends! Last but defiantly not least, the 5th and final person to enter this amazing group of people, she's the girl I met at the bowling alley through my cousin, I knew right then and there we were going to be best friends, I could just see it, we were practically the same person!

I can honestly say, these four ladies deserve way more than I can physically give them, they deserve the world! So I just want to say thank you for being the most amazing group ever! Thank you for being so supportive, for never giving up on me, and always listening when I need someone!

I love you so much, ladies!

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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5 Types Of Girls Every College Girl Wants To Be, But Most Of The Time Just Isn't

And that is OK.


On every college campus, there are a variety of different people, each one with a different lifestyle. However, for some reason, we all assume that their lives are just so much more put together than ours. That one girl probably works out every day, that one probably does all her work two weeks before it's due, and I know that one gets up at 7 a.m. every day. These are assumptions that every girl makes, but most of the time is wrong. No one is really that put together, but we are still always going to strive to be "that" girl.

Here are five types of girls that every college girl wants to be, but most of the time just isn't.

And that is OK.

The Early Riser


Every girl in college has made the resolution to start getting up before noon every day, but is that really a reasonable expectation? Being a girl is hard, we need our sleep! I mean, we could try going to bed at a reasonable hour... yeah nevermind.

The Planner


In every college classroom, the desks are covered by personalized Lily Pulitzer planners that seem to be filled with endless tasks, all perfectly color-coded by event and time. However, we all know that we just write tasks we have already done just to have something to cross out. You do it too, don't try to deny it.

The Fitness Guru


"I'm going to go to the gym every day this week!" "OK, maybe just two or three times." "Ehhh, maybe I'll start next week!" "Next month is my month for sure!"

The Preparer


Showing up to class having read every bit of reading assigned? Not waiting until the last minute to write that essay? Submitting assignments earlier than five minutes before the due date? Yeah, never heard of those things.

The Fashionista


We all know that one girl that always looks so cute, and we swear next week we will start being that girl. Or the next week. Or the next. You know, leggings and a hoodie are just too comfortable to give up.

We all what to be these "types of girls," but if getting up at noon and waiting until the last minute is your thing, then be that girl.

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