Watching your best friend fall in love can be a wonderfully  terrifying ordeal. You watch them become attached to this total intruder  and most of the time, at least for a little while, you fade into the  background. They choose this new person over you, and you feel betrayed.  But, not to worry! Your best friend still loves you just as much as  they did before! They just have to spend more time with this new and  exciting person for a while. You watch them stumble about in love,  making mistakes and learning things. It feels a bit like watching your  own baby take their very first steps; you don’t want to let go of their  hands for fear that they’ll hurt themselves, but you know that you have  to, or they’ll never learn their lesson.

Watching your best friend fall in love can be beautifully painful. It  is wonderful to see how your best friend glows when things go well, and  it is agonizing to watch this new person tear them down when things  change. It tears at the seams of your heart and soul to watch them  remain in love with someone who is causing them so much pain. You hear  their cries and want to pull them away to safety, yet they stay  willingly within the reach of the cause of their broken heart, in hopes  that something will change and the person that once held their fragile  heart together will stop ripping it to shreds, and everything will  suddenly be back to the way it was. It’s especially traumatizing to know  that you were the one holding their heart together, to know that, if  you were left with the pieces to pick up, you would do so much better.

Watching your best friend fall out of love can be crushing, yet  fulfilling. You will watch them slowly, and through hot tears, turn back  to you and realize that this person broke them. It will be time again  for your best friend to make the grand decision; should I really stay?  You let them know that you support them and that you love them, no  matter what they choose, but their partner says the same. Will your best  friend notice the difference? That you mean it, and their partner  probably doesn’t? Falling out of love is hard, everyone knows that, but  you promise to be there to keep your best friend from breaking their  back on the pavement, even if it crushes you on impact. Your best friend  will make this decision, and there is nothing you can do about it. But  when they choose, you will be there, cheering them on. If they choose to  leave this toxic relationship, you’ll heal them and hold them until  they’re all better, and ready to do it over again. If they choose to  stay, you’ll do your best to heal them until they’re ready to leave.  That’s what best friends are for.

Falling in love with your best friend is hard. Watching them fall in  love is harder. Watching your best friend live in a toxic relationship,  under what you can only assume is a love spell that their partner has  cast, is absolutely horrifying.

Having hope that, one day, your best friend will fall in love with  the right person, is what holds both of you together. Don’t forget that  that is what you both want. As soon as it happens, you'll be the first to know...you are their best friend, after all.