11 General Beliefs About Feminists That Aren't Quite Accurate

11 General Beliefs About Feminists That Aren't Quite Accurate

Equal rights are something that shouldn’t have to be earned. As human beings, we are all made equal.
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I know in today’s world anytime someone says they believe one way there is someone else willing to argue against, and as I have found they don't always disagree.

Some people just want to argue for the sake of argument. Often people are unwilling to listen to someone else’s view, and block out what they do not wish to hear. As I am still young I do my best to stay out of matters I don’t fully understand until I have more information.

However, as a feminist I feel the need to share some issues I have either when I say I am feminist or when discussing my view of something.

1. All feminists are radical.

This is one of the most important things to understand. Not all feminists are radical. It can be frustrating to say you are feminist and have people look at you like an abomination because all they can think about are what they see on TV with women walking around dressed as vaginas. T

here is also this common definition of a feminist as someone who believes women are superior.

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines feminism as “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.” There is not one place in that definition that says feminists are extreme and want to take over the world.

Now that isn’t to say some feminists aren’t extreme and don’t want to take over the world, but it’s not exactly fair to say that’s the goal of all feminists.

2. Feminists hate men.

I love this one. Why do people believe that because I am for women, it means I am against men? Sorry but that’s not how this works. Okay, I’m sure for some people that could stand true, but not for all. Feminists are for equality of the sexes, not women for everything and men for the junkyard.

I personally love the men in my life, and I have nothing against the men I don’t know. Now, of course, there are bad men in the world, but there are also bad women in the world

3. Feminists don't care how others see them.

There are some feminists who don’t shave and others who don’t dress up, but that is their choice. That is what all of this is about, a woman’s choice to be how she wants and not be chastised for it.

I for one dress for myself, I take care of myself however I want, and I do things for myself.

This is my choice. If I am wearing a dress it is not for other people; it is because it makes me feel good. I don’t care how others see me physically so long as that isn’t the only thing they see in me.

4. Feminists do everything for themselves.

As a feminist I do enjoy opening my own doors, paying for my meal, and I will fight to do those things sometimes. That isn’t to say I don’t also enjoy having doors opened for me. I also hold doors open for other people, even men.

This one is especially fun because they don’t like having a woman open their door, but what can I say.

Something else to consider is if I am struggling with something I would prefer to ask for help rather than someone help me because they think I can’t do it. Let me try first. Honestly, women just don’t like being told they can’t do something, much like men. Starting to see how this works?

5. The feminists' agenda is only for women.

This goes back to the definition of feminism. Equality of the sexes. Let’s take down the ads with half naked women. Well, we should probably take down the ads with half-naked men in them as well.

Granted there aren’t quite as many of those. As a feminist, if I believe something is not right for one sex then I don’t think it’s right for the other. If a man gets paid a certain amount then I believe a woman in the same position should get pain the same amount, and vise versa.

6. Feminists over exaggerate the lack of female rights.

Here it is. One of the worst arguments. Truth be told, everyone exaggerates. Now to find real information there are sources that will give it accurately, but there are fakes too. Do women have rights?

Yes, they do.

Do women have equal rights? Yes, they kind of do. There are equal rights in some situations and not others. It isn’t right to say women have equal rights when it isn’t generally accepted for a woman to do the same thing as a man. That is not equal rights.

7. Feminists bring too much attention to their cause.

To be truthful there are so many things in this world that are not fair.

There is abundant of issues to fix, but we have to start somewhere. There is honestly a large issue with inequality. Not just in the U.S., but around the world. We have a nice set up in the U.S. Granted it’s not perfect, but it’s better than it could be.

If I have the ability to discuss my issues with equality then should I not be allowed to voice that? I can’t even begin to imagine what it’s like to not be able to speak for myself or about my beliefs.

There are places like that in the world and if there is even the smallest chance to change something or bring more awareness to it, then that’s what we should do. I will be a feminist for those who don’t have the freedom to be one.



8. Feminists don't like hearing they have rights.

Actually, I love hearing I have rights. I do have rights, a lot of them in fact. The key phrase though is they aren’t equal rights. That is the goal. I know I have rights. I have rights to moon and back, but not all women do, and not all are equal. For example a female preacher.

This is often not heard of where I grew up. Why can’t a woman be a preacher? Go ahead and tell me what the bible says. That’s fine, but it also says a lot of things we don’t pay attention to because they are outdated, it was in reference to a specific group of people, or simply we don’t want to hear it.

A woman does not have the equal right as a man to be a preacher. Some places she might, but others not so much.

9. All feminists are women.

This one is good, but oh so very wrong. A man can be feminist. I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true. The only requirement is that a person has to support equality of the sexes. Simple as that. Now that you have this new information, are you a feminist?

10. Feminists are the result of strong female guidance.

My mom was a huge factor in me being feminist. Now we don’t always share the same beliefs, but she did teach me at a young age what a strong woman looked like. My grandmothers also were factors in this.

They taught me to be outspoken, and that I didn’t need a man to make me successful. Although they also showed me those supportive men, aka my grandfathers, are a good thing to have. My stepmom showed me that I can bark back if it’s necessary, and not to shy away.

My dad taught me that I by no means have to do anything a man tells me to. I and my dad don’t always agree, but that’s okay. I don’t have to agree with everyone. My stepdad showed me that men can believe in strong women, and help them when they need it. See, not just strong women make a feminist.



11. All feminists have the same views and beliefs...

But they don't. Not all feminists have the same belief? That’s crazy! ...It’s not though. Any other group of people can have whatever shared and different beliefs they want and it’s understood.

I have had it happen where I was debating one topic and my opponent turned around and told me because of my belief on that topic, I had a specific belief on a different topic.

To be clear my opponent was wrong. Just because I have one belief does not mean I have another. I can believe the sun isn’t real, but believe the moon is. That is my choice and my right.


I wholeheartedly believe we have the right to, as our constitution puts it, the pursuit of happiness. Let me say that again. The PURSUIT of happiness. Transferring this to feminism means that women should have equal opportunity.

I am by no means saying a woman should receive something she does not deserve because she is a woman and it is needed to give the appearance of equality. I am saying a woman should receive the same things a man, as her equal, would receive.

Equal rights are something that shouldn’t have to be earned.

As human beings, we are all made equal.

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An Open Letter To Democrats From A Millennial Republican

Why being a Republican doesn't mean I'm inhuman.
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Dear Democrats,

I have a few things to say to you — all of you.

You probably don't know me. But you think you do. Because I am a Republican.

Gasp. Shock. Horror. The usual. I know it all. I hear it every time I come out of the conservative closet here at my liberal arts university.

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“You're a Republican?" people ask, saying the word in the same tone that Draco Malfoy says “Mudblood."

I know that not all Democrats feel about Republicans this way. Honestly, I can't even say for certain that most of them do. But in my experience, saying you're a Republican on a liberal college campus has the same effect as telling someone you're a child molester.

You see, in this day and age, with leaders of the Republican Party standing up and spouting unfortunately ridiculous phrases like “build a wall," and standing next to Kim Davis in Kentucky after her release, we Republicans are given an extreme stereotype. If you're a Republican, you're a bigot. You don't believe in marriage equality. You don't believe in racial equality. You don't believe in a woman's right to choose. You're extremely religious and want to impose it on everyone else.

Unfortunately, stereotypes are rooted in truth. There are some people out there who really do think these things and feel this way. And it makes me mad. The far right is so far right that they make the rest of us look bad. They make sure we aren't heard. Plenty of us are fed up with their theatrics and extremism.

For those of us brave enough to wear the title “Republican" in this day and age, as millennials, it's different. Many of us don't agree with these brash ideas. I'd even go as far as to say that most of us don't feel this way.

For me personally, being a Republican doesn't even mean that I automatically vote red.

When people ask me to describe my political views, I usually put it pretty simply. “Conservative, but with liberal social views."

“Oh," they say, “so you're a libertarian."

“Sure," I say. But that's the thing. I'm not really a libertarian.

Here's what I believe:

I believe in marriage equality. I believe in feminism. I believe in racial equality. I don't want to defund Planned Parenthood. I believe in birth control. I believe in a woman's right to choose. I believe in welfare. I believe more funds should be allocated to the public school system.

Then what's the problem? Obviously, I'm a Democrat then, right?

Wrong. Because I have other beliefs too.

Yes, I believe in the right to choose — but I'd always hope that unless a pregnancy would result in the bodily harm of the woman, that she would choose life. I believe in welfare, but I also believe that our current system is broken — there are people who don't need it receiving it, and others who need it that cannot access it.

I believe in capitalism. I believe in the right to keep and bear arms, because I believe we have a people crisis on our hands, not a gun crisis. Contrary to popular opinion, I do believe in science. I don't believe in charter schools. I believe in privatizing as many things as possible. I don't believe in Obamacare.

Obviously, there are other topics on the table. But, generally speaking, these are the types of things we millennial Republicans get flack for. And while it is OK to disagree on political beliefs, and even healthy, it is NOT OK to make snap judgments about me as a person. Identifying as a Republican does not mean I am the same as Donald Trump.

Just because I am a Republican, does not mean you know everything about me. That does not give you the right to make assumptions about who I am as a person. It is not OK for you to group me with my stereotype or condemn me for what I feel and believe. And for a party that prides itself on being so open-minded, it shocks me that many of you would be so judgmental.

So I ask you to please, please, please reexamine how you view Republicans. Chances are, you're missing some extremely important details. If you only hang out with people who belong to your own party, chances are you're missing out on great people. Because, despite what everyone believes, we are not our stereotype.

Sincerely,

A millennial Republican

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Why The Idea Of 'No Politics At The Dinner Table' Takes Place And Why We Should Avoid It

When did having a dialogue become so rare?

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Why has the art of civilized debate and conversation become unheard of in daily life? Why is it considered impolite to talk politics with coworkers and friends? Expressing ideas and discussing different opinions should not be looked down upon.

I have a few ideas as to why this is our current societal norm.

1. Politics is personal.

Your politics can reveal a lot about who you are. Expressing these (sometimes controversial) opinions may put you in a vulnerable position. It is possible for people to draw unfair conclusions from one viewpoint you hold. This fosters a fear of judgment when it comes to our political beliefs.

Regardless of where you lie on the spectrum of political belief, there is a world of assumption that goes along with any opinion. People have a growing concern that others won't hear them out based on one belief.

As if a single opinion could tell you all that you should know about someone. Do your political opinions reflect who you are as a person? Does it reflect your hobbies? Your past?

The question becomes "are your politics indicative enough of who you are as a person to warrant a complete judgment?"

Personally, I do not think you would even scratch the surface of who I am just from knowing my political identification.

2. People are impolite.

The politics themselves are not impolite. But many people who wield passionate, political opinion act impolite and rude when it comes to those who disagree.

The avoidance of this topic among friends, family, acquaintances and just in general, is out of a desire to 'keep the peace'. Many people have friends who disagree with them and even family who disagree with them. We justify our silence out of a desire to avoid unpleasant situations.

I will offer this: It might even be better to argue with the ones you love and care about, because they already know who you are aside from your politics, and they love you unconditionally (or at least I would hope).

We should be having these unpleasant conversations. And you know what? They don't even need to be unpleasant! Shouldn't we be capable of debating in a civilized manner? Can't we find common ground?

I attribute the loss of political conversation in daily life to these factors. 'Keeping the peace' isn't an excuse. We should be discussing our opinions constantly and we should be discussing them with those who think differently.

Instead of discouraging political conversation, we should be encouraging kindness and understanding. That's how we will avoid the unpleasantness that these conversations sometimes bring.

By avoiding them altogether, we are doing our youth a disservice because they are not being exposed to government, law, and politics, and they are not learning to deal with people and ideas that they don't agree with.

Next Thanksgiving, talk politics at the table.

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