My Definition Of Success Is Nothing Like Yours

My Definition Of Success Is Nothing Like Yours

Societal standards unjustly set "equal" expectations for everybody, and that can lead to damaging consequences.


My definition of success is different because it should be. No two individuals should share the exact same standards of personal success.

The general meaning of success, an accomplishment of a goal or purpose, can generally be agreed upon. What those accomplishments entail, though, is unique for each individual. The issue is that sometimes this can be easy to forget.

Societal standards unjustly set "equal" expectations for everybody, and that can lead to damaging consequences. Everyone forges their own path in life, yet society has constructed the idea that some are better than others. Let's start with an example that everyone has had to encounter at one point or another: education. Grades are not the most important aspect of school, yet they are often used as the sole factor in determining educational success. After high school, many push the idea that college is the next step needed to have a successful career. Society even judges students based on the colleges they attend.

It is so important to remember that everyone has their own background and future. We are not on a level playing field, either. The societal judgment constantly occurring can make it difficult to remember that your own goals and standards are important and valued. They are not lesser than those of others. On the same note, they are not greater, either.

If you accomplish your goal of getting a B+ on a test, you are not necessarily less successful than someone who received an A. If attending a community college is the right fit for you, you are not less successful than someone at an Ivy league. It is YOU who determines what success means. Comparison to others is not the answer.

The existing problems with standards for success extend far beyond the realm of education. They can dictate the way people feel expected to live their lives.

The next time you feel lesser than someone else about your accomplishments or ambitions, push those thoughts away. You can admire their success, but remember to admire yours, too.

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An Open Pat On The Back To Full-Time Students Who Also Work

You really deserve an award, but this article will have to do.

It's pretty freaking hard.

“I can work nights and weekends, I'm a student," you told the manager during your interview.

So, what does he do? He schedules you most nights and weekends. This is OK. This is, after all, what you asked for. So you start working.

Class, class, work. Class, work. Class, no work tonight, you sleep and it feels like the first time in years. Class, homework, homework, homework. Class, class, work.

Before you know it, it's the weekend. There's a party. Your friend wants to see you. Your mom is calling you to see how you are.

But you are working all weekend.

You call your mom on your half hour break. She tells you are doing too much. She tells you that you should work less. Ask for less hours. Sleep more. Eat more. You will get sick.

You get out of work Friday night around 11 p.m. There is still so much night left!! You try to hit up that party. Sure, you will show up a little late, but at least you will make an appearance. At least you will get to see some of your friends. At least you will be able to relax and enjoy yourself. At least you will be able to have some fun. By the time you get ready and get there, people begin leaving. You begin to wonder why you came out in the first place.

“I'm sorry, I've been at work" becomes an all-too-familiar phrase.

But, but, but.

You really deserve a pat on the back, so here it is.

You've given up a lot. And you work crazy hard. Those long nights and hours are hard. A lot of kids your age don't work and rely solely on your parents. But you, you have taken it upon yourself to earn some money for yourself. You are a full-time student, and most of your free time goes toward working and supporting yourself.

You truly do not get the appreciation that you deserve.

But when you do get some time to go out, when you request a weekend off, you have some money to spend. You are never the guy who can't go out because they don't have enough money.

And of course, you will start saving. This is huge. You're going to graduate in debt (probably), and because you busted your butt during school and saved up, putting a crack in that debt will be a little easier for you.

You are a forward thinker, whether you realize it or not.

You are building responsibility, money management, and self-reliance skills, whether you realize it or not.

You are quite mature for your age, whether you realize it or not.

AND YOU deserve a pat on the back. So here it is.

You're incredible. You're amazing. Go get 'em.

Seriously, take a second to congratulate yourself for all your hard work.

And whatever you do, get some sleep, kid. And remember, don't work yourself too hard. Just hard enough so that you feel good, and rewarded, and happy.

You're the man. Keep killin' it, dude. Keep killin' it.

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24 Tips To Help You Survive At FSU's 24th Dance Marathon

20 long hours are ahead of us.


On March 1, 2019, 1,000+ college students will enter the Donald L. Tucker Civic Center. These 1,000+ students will stand, dance, play games, and eat for 20 hours all for the kid. In order to make it through the 20 hours, you will need a few things.

1. Snacks!

My personal favorites are peanut butter crackers and goldfish!

2. Tennis balls.

You are going to be standing for 20 hours, bring tennis balls to roll out your feet when they start getting sore!

3. Fanny pack.

Because when your breaking it down on the dance floor, you do not have time to go searching for your bags for your previously mentioned snack.

4. Portable charger(s).

When it is 7:00 a.m. and you want your friends to bring you chicken minis, you want your phone to be charged so you can make those dreams a reality.

5. Socks.

I am not going to sugar coat it. Your feet are going to get sweaty. New pairs of socks will literally change your life. Change them every couple of hours!

6. Extra money.

Merchandise, sit time, and food trucks, oh my!

7. Makeup wipes and toner.

Trust me, about 30 minutes after opening ceremonies you will want to take your makeup off. The toner is to refresh your face later! Throw in a fancy sheet mask if you want to!

8. Duffle bag.

You will pack/buy A LOT of stuff. A duffle bag is definitely the way to go!

9. Water bottle.

There will be loads of coolers with water. Bring your own bottle to keep track of what is yours!

10. Costumes.

There are usually theme hours during Dance Marathon. Bring costumes so you can participate in them!

11. Chapstick.

I mean, just throw it in the fanny pack.

12. Headband.

To keep your hair out of the way when you are jamming to the tunes.

13. Headphones/earbuds.

Sometimes you need a break from all the hype, bring earbuds so you can listen to your own music/watch Netflix.

14. Get all of your assignments done before Dance Marathon.

Trust me you do not want to be studying/finishing your homework during Dance Marathon.

15. Download shows on Netflix.

"Friends" is now available for download!

16.  Deodorant.

I am not saying you will stink, but you may just need a little refreshing.

17.  Hair brush.

Your hair will get tangled.

18.  Hand towel.

You NEED this because every hours, on the hour, you will kneel for a miracle story, and your knees will get sore.

19. Change of clothes.

I suggest two shirts, two bottoms (I like leggings and Nike shorts), a sweatshirt, pair of tennis shoes and comfy shoes (slippers, Birkenstocks, etc.).

20.  Friends.

Stay with your friends the whole time and make memories.

21. Advil.

There is no telling how you will feel during the marathon. Take some Advil with you in case of an emergency.

22.  Mints/throw away toothbrush.

We are talking 20 HOURS people!

23. Hand sanitizer.

There are going to be sick kids there, be polite and make sure you are sanitizing your hands/washing your hands as often as you can!

24.  A Good Attitude.

Remember who you are standing for.

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