My Definition Of Success Is Nothing Like Yours

My Definition Of Success Is Nothing Like Yours

Societal standards unjustly set "equal" expectations for everybody, and that can lead to damaging consequences.


My definition of success is different because it should be. No two individuals should share the exact same standards of personal success.

The general meaning of success, an accomplishment of a goal or purpose, can generally be agreed upon. What those accomplishments entail, though, is unique for each individual. The issue is that sometimes this can be easy to forget.

Societal standards unjustly set "equal" expectations for everybody, and that can lead to damaging consequences. Everyone forges their own path in life, yet society has constructed the idea that some are better than others. Let's start with an example that everyone has had to encounter at one point or another: education. Grades are not the most important aspect of school, yet they are often used as the sole factor in determining educational success. After high school, many push the idea that college is the next step needed to have a successful career. Society even judges students based on the colleges they attend.

It is so important to remember that everyone has their own background and future. We are not on a level playing field, either. The societal judgment constantly occurring can make it difficult to remember that your own goals and standards are important and valued. They are not lesser than those of others. On the same note, they are not greater, either.

If you accomplish your goal of getting a B+ on a test, you are not necessarily less successful than someone who received an A. If attending a community college is the right fit for you, you are not less successful than someone at an Ivy league. It is YOU who determines what success means. Comparison to others is not the answer.

The existing problems with standards for success extend far beyond the realm of education. They can dictate the way people feel expected to live their lives.

The next time you feel lesser than someone else about your accomplishments or ambitions, push those thoughts away. You can admire their success, but remember to admire yours, too.

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17 Things UA Students Take For Granted But Are Honestly #Blessed To Have

Take advantage of everything college has to offer because after graduation, life will never be the same.


College is one of the best times of your life. You get to do so many things you might not go anywhere else. You get to experience freedom unlike any you have had before. College is literally the one time in your life you get to decide what you want to do when you want to do it, and how you want to do it. Take advantage of every single one of the things college has to offer because after graduation life will never be the same.

1. The Amount of Free Stuff

Free food, free clothes, free concerts, endless amounts of free stuff. Rarely in the real world will you ever get the amount of free stuff you do in college.

2. Sports Tickets at a Discount 


If you go to a big university where tickets can cost hundreds of dollars, as a college student you get them at an amazing rate and sometimes even for free.

3. Free Parties 

Almost all parties in college are free and if you are lucky there will be free alcohol too. Good luck finding all that in the real world.

4. Making Your Own Schedule 

You have complete control over absolutely everything in your life, where you want to go and when you want to go. After graduation, you will have someone else telling you where to go and when so enjoy the control while you still have it.

5. Nap Time

The infamous nap time, we hated it when we were younger, but now we live for it and after just 4 short years we will be giving it up once again.

6. Going Out Whenever You Want

Want to go to cookout at 2 a.m. because you don't have class until 1 p.m.? Go for it, there is no one can stop you except for you.

7. Being Around Your Friends 24/7

You are constantly surrounded by people in college and continuously making new friends but one day you will all go your separate ways and the real world will get real lonely real quick.

8. Getting to Live With Your Best Friends 

Now yes you can still live with your best friends after you graduate but when you're in college you will have similar schedules after graduation things will change and you won't get to be around them as much.

9. Connections to Industry Professionals 

If you get involved in your college and take advantage of all the opportunities they provide you can get connected to people who have already made it big in your career and get advice straight from professionals.

10. Opportunities for Internships 

A lot of colleges offer internships within the school or with outside companies while still in school. So even if you fail or hate your internships you still have time to change your major and figure out what you want to do with your life.

11. The Endless Amount of New Experiences and Opportunities 

If you look or even just get involved College can offer you an endless amount of opportunities to help you to grow and make the most of your collegiate career and it is a time to try new things you wouldn't before and do it all for free!!

12. Being Allowed to Make Mistakes Without it Ruining Your Life

You still have time to find your footing and figure out what you want to do with your life, without it ruining everything. College is getting us ready to be successful and to survive the adult world and now is the time to trip up and make mistakes to some extent, nothing too wild now.

13. Life Long Memories 

You will make some of your best memories in college because there are so many opportunities to do what you want to and the opportunity to go on wild adventures.

14. New Friends 

You will make more friends in college then you will in your entire life. It is ridiculous but it is because everyone is looking for friends.

15. Wearing Whatever You Want

Want to wear yoga pants and an over sized t-shirt with two different socks sandals and a messy bun? Go for it, no one cares, you do you boo.

16. Eating Whatever You Want

There is no on telling you what you can and can't eat or how much? Dinning halls are buffets, take advantage of it.

17. Freedom but Without All the Adult Responsibilities 

You get all the freedom you want with no adult responsibility. You get to do whatever you want and live your best life and not have to worry about anything when you go home.

Enjoy these years while you can because before you know it you will be in the real world!

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To The College Freshman Who Doesn't Know What Career They Want To Pursue Yet

It's completely ok to not quite have it figured out yet.


Coming into college I thought I had a pretty good idea of what I wanted to pursue as a career but I wasn't exactly 100% sure. My parents amongst others in my life recommended I go in as "undeclared" to give myself a year to see if any other career or major sparked my interest; however, being as I thought I knew what I wanted, I went with the major I thought was for me. Sure enough, by the time my freshman year came to an end, I ended up finding interest elsewhere and switching my major.

What happened to me is common, a lot of people switch their major, some even later than after their freshman year, and that's okay! This isn't me telling you to go into college as an "undeclared" major if you're unsure of what you want to pursue, while it is a good option to consider. This is me telling you that it's completely okay to go into college uncertain of the path you're going to take. And it's also okay to follow a similar path I did and change your major, don't worry you'll still most likely be able to graduate on time. Something you definitely don't want to do is stay in a major that you're no longer interested in. As I'm sure you've heard before, you want to love your job and love what you do, so don't settle.

College is full of twists and turns and you shouldn't ever feel like you're doing something wrong or something is wrong with you if you don't know what you want to do with your life. I'm now a senior in college and after three full years of being in college, I can finally say that I'm confident in the career I want to pursue after I graduate, and that took over three years for me to figure out. I know coming into college can feel intimidating, but trust me when I say you will figure it all out, eventually.

Take a deep breath & know you'll be okay and figure it out, that's what college is for. I know you'll do great things with the career you eventually choose.

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