It seems that as our society moves forward, we all become a little more Regina George than Janis Ian or Damian. Before I go on, I will admit that I myself have some Regina George qualities that I'm not exactly proud of, but I'm making steps to change and you should too.
We might ask ourselves why do we judge others? The simple answer to that question is because it makes us feel better about ourselves. It makes us feel superior. This is only a short-term solution, because at the end of the day no matter how judgmental you were, you're still the same person, and nothing about you has changed. Judging people actually makes us unhappy.
Asking someone to stop paying attention to people who talk too much, breathe too loudly, blow their nose excessively, and so much more that pushes all your buttons is an extremely difficult task. But if everyone just makes baby steps and realizes that there is much more people can offer than what they present sometimes, we could all be happier people.
Have you ever wondered about a person's life other than what you see? If you're anything like I am, sometimes you seem to assume that you know what's best and that you're incredible at reading people. I am here to tell you that, it's not that cut, clean, and dry. You don't know what's happening to that person behind their closed doors, and maybe they put on that "tough guy" attitude because of the things that have happened or are happening to them. You have to let people do things that make them happy, even if you don't understand it.
We take so much time just to judge that we don't take the time to be more open minded and this can cause us to miss out on some great relationships. I myself have gotten a lot better when it comes to putting myself into someone else's shoes. I try and get to know people better and judge them based on how they act towards me and other people before I begin to make judgments. I have learned to give people the benefit of the doubt, and yes it has backfired sometimes, but it made me realize that everyone deserves a chance to be seen for who they are.
My advice for anyone that feels the need to judge someone right away, is to take a step back and think, "What if I was in their situation right now?" and "How would I feel if someone was judging me the way I'm about to judge them?" It's so much easier to simply judge someone before actually putting yourself in their situation. You want to be happy? Don't forget that other people just want the same thing, so let them be happy too.
