Growing up there is always a stigma seen through role models and celebrities that a relationship is what most people strive for in life. This is not necessarily the case for everyone. Some want to focus on school and their careers, while others want to travel the world. At the end of the day, most people want someone to come home to, whether it be your dog, best friend, or spouse.

What little girl didn't want Prince Charming to come and sweep her off her feet, right? But, as times have changed, so has society as well as our views. For any relationship to work, there must be your own sense of identity. This creates an anchor for your relationship to build off of, otherwise you can get stomped on and lose yourself.

Without yourself how are you able to open up and be your own person? You can grow into yourself with another human being and see how you shape them and they will shape you. You learn new beliefs that you didn't know existed, and you could never go backwards. If you end up not agreeing on something, that's fine too, because you have learned something about them. It opens up your heart so that someone can see who you really are, instead of hiding behind a locked door.

In the end, arguments are meant to make you stronger, and if it can't be handled that's when it should end. There should never come a time when someone is not allowed to express themselves or speak their feelings, relationships are all based on trust and communication.

I too love sappy love movies on any Friday night, but the point is that life is not all fairy tales. We can all predict them and that sadly isn't the case for your average relationship. I always knew as a young girl, that I had to work hard to get where ever I wanted to go, I couldn't stay home and let my husband do everything. Now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this if its what your heart wants. That is what you should always look for in life, what your heart wants. Even though you can be independent, you have to love others as well. The focus can not always be on you, there is a time and place for everything, but a balance is necessary.

The fairy tales will play themselves out so try not to get ahead of yourself. Until your time comes, just build yourself and become the best you that you can be. Don't depend on someone else's words to support your confidence.

Don't forget to make every relationship count. You have to divide time for everyone in your life. You can't spend enormous amounts of time with a significant other and never with friends and family. All of these will contribute to who you will become someday.