You Shouldn't Be Ashamed Be The "Immature" Friend

You Shouldn't Be Ashamed Be The "Immature" Friend

“Immaturity is a word boring people use to describe fun people.”
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What is immaturity?

Immaturity is defined as the state of being immature or not fully grown.

But I want to ask: are we ever really fully grown?

We are always learning how to become a better person, or how to do new things. We are always growing, so do we ever reach a state of being “mature” or grow out of being “immature.”

We all lead different lives, and what seems normal to some of us, might be a little wild for others. Some of us grew up in an environment that we must take more responsibilities before others. Since everyone is raised so differently it affects the way we perceive others. When we see others, we assume they were raised the same as us and should act the way we do.

Don’t call me “immature” because I don't fit how you think people should act.

We need to speak to each other and learn to communicate before we jump to conclusions. We all act differently because of hidden barriers or thoughts that translate into our actions and expression.

Maybe my parents raised me differently than yours, and that’s okay. We must learn to accept everyone, and sometimes the “immature” people are the people we need most in life.

Growing up, I came from a fun and sometimes wild family. My parents encouraged me to stay young while I could. They never forced me to do things that “adults” do before I was ready. They have always encouraged me to be who I want to be and do what I wanna do. My parents do a lot for me and I love that.

They allowed me to be “immature”, but they never called it that. They called it growing up and then it just grew into my personality. Being the fun one is who I have become because of the amazing environment I grew up in. We all need to look at the way we were raised and see how it really helped shape us into the most wonderful people! That’s the marvelously think about this crazy world, we all end up so differently.

I have always been the “immature” one, but I own it. I love being the one to make everyone laugh and smile. I am always willing to do the wild things for entertainment. I’ll crack a joke in silence. I’ll make funny faces, or ask random questions. I’ll dance those crazy dances to the most annoying songs. I thinking living “immature” is the best! I can do what I wanna do and not care what others think. I really live my life to the beat of my own drum! I am an easy person to make friends with and a very loyal person, but if you’d stop on the shell of my “immaturity” you’d never know. They say never judge a book by its cover, and people are the same way!

Don't get me wrong, I do know how to act “mature,” but there’s a time and place for that. Being “mature” doesn’t have to be a thing that is “always on”. You can be mature at appropriate times and also be immature at other times. Just make sure to know when it’s appropriate to be whichever one.

When living life to create our “image” we tend to lose things that can be good for us. We lose friends and potential relationships because they might hurt our “image”. We tend to shut people out because their actions aren’t what we would do.

If you live life to create an “image” for yourself rethink next time before you shut an “immature” person out. These “immature” people can help you view the world in a whole new light, and even allow you to loosen up and gain new experiences. We all hold something different in the way we view life, and sometimes people that are different than us help us view the world in a new light. Take a chance! Branch out, it could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

If you are the “immature” one, embrace it! Don’t let others change you. People will love you for who you are, and if they don’t move on! Remember sometimes we need the “mature” ones to help us see the world a little bit more serious. Be who you are and embrace the “immaturity”. In the end you will be glad to have held onto the wild side!!

“You are only young once, but you can stay immature indefinitely.”

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Making a Decision: an Indecisive Guide

To all the indecisive people out there: you are not alone

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I am the queen of indecision. For me, making a choice will have me frantically calling both of my parents, asking all of my friends' advice and postponing all studying until the decision is made. Of course, this is because I do not want to make a choice that I regret – such as the time I decided that starting my job at 6:30 am would be a good idea, or the time when I scared my friends with how hyper I was after drinking both coffee and Boba tea. Yet when I take this caution of making the wrong choice too far, the decision-making process itself ends up being regrettable. So much so that I called my mom approximately seven times this weekend to ask her advice on a decision. So much so that my brother used an example of me not being able to choose what kind of shoe I should wear in his article.

This weekend, I was presented with two amazing opportunities to make a difference in the world this summer and I entered a stage of decision paralysis that I did not know was possible. No matter which angle I looked at each situation from, they both would provide me with a phenomenal experience, and would both require sacrifices. Despite not (as of yet) reaching a concrete decision, I learned a lot about the decision-making process and what to do in the next time I am faced with a difficult choice. So, in the spirit of finding summer jobs, gearing up to register for classes and deciding what on earth we want to do with our futures, here are the tips and tricks that I would follow to make the best decision that you can.

Don't overthink it.

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Really, this goes without thinking! Or, unlike most of us, it goes with a LOT of thinking! Seriously though, if you overthink things, they will turn into a pudding mush in your brain until you don't know what you don't know anymore. There is a very fine line between thinking through all your options and overthinking them – and judging by the number of times I called my mom this weekend, definitely crossed it.

Always use the pro-con list

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Ah, the Gilmore Girls. Not only did you inspire me to read every single book under the sun or have a witty conversation full of cultural references no one else understands, but you also taught me the beauty of the pro-con list. Choosing what you want can be messy and difficult to find because of the fears you might have. distinguish from the fears. Writing it all down on paper can often illuminate the right decision and show you which path is ultimately better.

Decide on your make-or-break factor

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Sometimes even the best pro-and-con lists will not be enough and will leave you in a frantic analysis ("should I go for the decision with 3 cons or 3.5 cons?") When even the Gilmore method fails, fear not! Consider which factors you truly do not want to compromise on and go from there. This can mean that even the worse decision may be the right one for you.

Trust your gut

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As much as it is difficult to dig through your feelings to find your true motives behind a decision, your gut can sometimes tell you what you are most passionate about and therefore what decision is best for you to take. As my Emory Reads friends tell me, passion trumps everything. Choosing which decision aligns with your values will often lead you to make the best and most-satisfying decision.

But trust your head as well

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But your gut can't always be trusted. It can lie to you, and when you overthink too much, it can change its mind. Your gut feeling may be one that is furthermore borne out of fear of the other option. In that way, I have made many a good decision based on the pure basis of rationality. Using only our heart to make important decisions allows fear to be one of the factors, whereas looking at the decision rationally can help you see the ultimate path.

Ask around

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When I am puzzled about making a risky decision, I often consult the people in my life who are on my side and want the best for me. These people can help you gauge what your heart truly desires, bring up factors that you haven't considered and even act as a support network for you while making this decision. When your mind kicks into over-analysis, sometimes a fresh perspective is all you need to truly make a confident choice. Decisions are hard, people. Don't make them on your own.=

Don't ask everyone

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There is such a thing as consulting others to make an important decision, and there is such a thing as relying on them to make your decision. If you ask too many people from too wide a pool, you'll end up having opinions for and against what you are proposing, which means that someone will always be disappointed in your decision. The bottom line is, asking too many people for their opinions is frustrating, no matter what – whether they have contradicting opinions, or they just nod their heads and go "hmmm, tough choice" (thanks, I guess?). In order to avoid frustration, consult the people in your life who know you the best and are dearest to you, rather than the stranger in front of you in line for fries at the DUC.

"Would my dad be proud?"

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Or your granddad, or your mom, or your professor, or even a TV character. Whoever you know whose morals you can measure your decision up to will often provide reason and illumination. If the decision you are making is not too wild and you feel that you will have their approval, then it is likely not detrimental.

Stick with your decision!

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Resolutely make up your mind and refuse to turn back. Exercise your right as a free individual to make a choice for yourself, and then do not second-guess it. Please don't do what I did and email a company two days later saying you've changed your mind. Please.

There is not always a right decision

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Sometimes both decisions you are presented with have different but equally good opportunities. In that case, lucky you! You have two amazing opportunities and therefore cannot mess up. Rather than stressing that you are picking the wrong choice, know that you cannot go wrong in either.

Realize you will grow no matter what

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Decision-making should be viewed as a challenge and a privilege rather than a burden. Make big, bold and beautiful decisions. Making up your mind can lead to a phenomenal experience that you will adore or a difficult experience that will only fashion you into a better person. Positive consequences can come out of any decision, even if we land in an upsetting position. Each choice we make can positively contribute to our character, fashioning us into the person we are becoming, day by day.


By the time this article is published, I will know my decision. And hopefully, by the end of this article, you will know yours. Let's continue to make decisions courageously, following both our heads and our hearts. Let's be determined to grow through our decisions, realizing that we have made the best choice we could, and never looking back.

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