You Shouldn't Be Ashamed Be The "Immature" Friend

You Shouldn't Be Ashamed Be The "Immature" Friend

“Immaturity is a word boring people use to describe fun people.”

What is immaturity?

Immaturity is defined as the state of being immature or not fully grown.

But I want to ask: are we ever really fully grown?

We are always learning how to become a better person, or how to do new things. We are always growing, so do we ever reach a state of being “mature” or grow out of being “immature.”

We all lead different lives, and what seems normal to some of us, might be a little wild for others. Some of us grew up in an environment that we must take more responsibilities before others. Since everyone is raised so differently it affects the way we perceive others. When we see others, we assume they were raised the same as us and should act the way we do.

Don’t call me “immature” because I don't fit how you think people should act.

We need to speak to each other and learn to communicate before we jump to conclusions. We all act differently because of hidden barriers or thoughts that translate into our actions and expression.

Maybe my parents raised me differently than yours, and that’s okay. We must learn to accept everyone, and sometimes the “immature” people are the people we need most in life.

Growing up, I came from a fun and sometimes wild family. My parents encouraged me to stay young while I could. They never forced me to do things that “adults” do before I was ready. They have always encouraged me to be who I want to be and do what I wanna do. My parents do a lot for me and I love that.

They allowed me to be “immature”, but they never called it that. They called it growing up and then it just grew into my personality. Being the fun one is who I have become because of the amazing environment I grew up in. We all need to look at the way we were raised and see how it really helped shape us into the most wonderful people! That’s the marvelously think about this crazy world, we all end up so differently.

I have always been the “immature” one, but I own it. I love being the one to make everyone laugh and smile. I am always willing to do the wild things for entertainment. I’ll crack a joke in silence. I’ll make funny faces, or ask random questions. I’ll dance those crazy dances to the most annoying songs. I thinking living “immature” is the best! I can do what I wanna do and not care what others think. I really live my life to the beat of my own drum! I am an easy person to make friends with and a very loyal person, but if you’d stop on the shell of my “immaturity” you’d never know. They say never judge a book by its cover, and people are the same way!

Don't get me wrong, I do know how to act “mature,” but there’s a time and place for that. Being “mature” doesn’t have to be a thing that is “always on”. You can be mature at appropriate times and also be immature at other times. Just make sure to know when it’s appropriate to be whichever one.

When living life to create our “image” we tend to lose things that can be good for us. We lose friends and potential relationships because they might hurt our “image”. We tend to shut people out because their actions aren’t what we would do.

If you live life to create an “image” for yourself rethink next time before you shut an “immature” person out. These “immature” people can help you view the world in a whole new light, and even allow you to loosen up and gain new experiences. We all hold something different in the way we view life, and sometimes people that are different than us help us view the world in a new light. Take a chance! Branch out, it could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

If you are the “immature” one, embrace it! Don’t let others change you. People will love you for who you are, and if they don’t move on! Remember sometimes we need the “mature” ones to help us see the world a little bit more serious. Be who you are and embrace the “immaturity”. In the end you will be glad to have held onto the wild side!!

“You are only young once, but you can stay immature indefinitely.”

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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When You Decide You Don't Love Me Anymore

I'll forgive you.


I never thought I would write this, but I feel like I have to: there will come a day where you won't love me anymore. This won't be a sad day, but instead a day I have waited for all along. You see, they all leave and that is perfectly okay. People may not be meant to be in my life for all of it, not in any of our lives but this is normal and although initially saddening it is a part of our lives and inevitably part of our journey.

When this time comes I want you to know that we did our best, that we were in fact in love once and that we had hoped it would blossom into a lifetime commitment but it didn't and I accept that and will respect you always. I know you did not wake up one day out of the blue and stop loving me, I know this feeling grew over time in your heart and that it was not something you planned on. I respect this.

You were the only person I trusted and the one I loved the most, but nothing lasts forever and I hope you can understand there is no animosity here and certainly, no stone left unturned. We just are not those kinds of people, we would have tried everything to keep our love burning bright and tried for quite a while to understand where the cracks began so that could fix them, it just isn't that simple. Love is a long complicated process, you know that and falling in love with me couldn't have been easy, I am misunderstood and stubborn as all hell and I am FULLY aware of that but that does not mean I didn't try to ease up on you, I promise I did my best.

I have always done my best to understand you, to make you happy, to keep the flame alive, but it has been extinguished. Love does that sometimes, it is there one day burning bright and then it slowly starts to dim with every fight, every unrequited "I love you" and every day passing by in which we spoke less and less about the things that mattered and more and more about worthless things.

This is all okay, it is a season of life, a part of our lives in which we do suffer but one we must grin and bear. I want you to know that I will always love and care for you, although it is now in a much different way, now we no longer look at each other with doting eyes and open hearts but instead with the freedom to let go and move on.

It is time for us to go on with our lives and find a new adventure, one that will light our hearts on fire instead of continuing to snuff our joint flame. You will always be in my memory and a huge part of my life that I once had but I accept that it's over and that time sometimes wears on things as it has worn on us.

You are the love of my life and that is truly the reason I must forgive you.

Goodbye, my love.

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