One of the most difficult things about singleness is seeing everyone else in a relationship.

So often, I hear it said, "All the good ones are taken." Most often I hear girls say this, and I know I'm guilty of saying it.

Then, from this excuse we fall into the comparison trap.

Why is he with her? What does she have that I don't?

Ladies, can we try to put an end to this, together? Let's rejoice with our sisters in Christ. Let's cheer them on. Let's pray for their relationship. Pray for their purity and pray that the Lord be glorified through their relationship.

Guys, this applies to you too. Don't covet what your brother has, though it may be what you truly desire. Build up your brothers and encourage them in their walk. Hold them accountable to stay pure and join them in praying for the relationship that it might be God honoring.

In the book Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, Ben Stuart discusses the idea that "all the good ones are taken." He shuts this argument down just as quickly as he brings it up.

Stuart says, "Trust that the God who saved you can provide a mate for you."

There's no arguing with that.

"Trust that the God who saved you can provide a mate for you."

I once read and was recently reminded by a friend that just because there's a godly man (or woman for guys) placed in your path, doesn't necessarily mean he's your godly man.

So, instead of jumping in head first, take a step back. Take some time to evaluate and prayerfully consider who this person is and what role they are meant to play in your life--as a friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, or just passing through.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your path straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6).

All too often we rely on emotion to guide us. However, the heart is deceitful. It desires that of the flesh, and does not always aline with the will of the Lord. That is why it is so essential to seek the Lord when considering a potential dating relationship.

The Lord knows the desires of our heart better than anyone, so why are we so hesitant to turn to Him when it comes to our love life?

When we try to manage our own relationships, many times it leads to heart break.

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The Lord knows the desires of your heart better than anyone. Trust Him.

Lately, the Lord has been surrounding me with people who are in similar stages in life, and this has made all the difference.

Don't try to walk through singleness alone. Surround yourself with people that may be at similar stages in life, and that can encourage you. This is essential.

So, it is possible to be content in singleness. You just might have to look at it from a different perspective than before.