Being Confident In A Generation Of Judgment

Being Confident In A Generation Of Judgment

The Long Road To Self Confidence

Confidence is harder than it looks and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. If I had a dollar for every time someone told me to "just have confidence in yourself," I'd be rich. One thing no one really ever tells you is, how? How do you obtain self-confidence in a generation where everyone is judging you? Here's some advice that will hopefully help you get through those moments of fear when presenting an idea or trying something new.

Being a college student I'm always comparing myself to others. Here's some advice that could take you a long way. Do not, and I mean DO NOT compare yourself to others. As much as you don't want to admit it, there is always someone that is going to be better at something than you. Everyone is on their own path, so confidence must come from creating your own motives without making it into a competition.

One thing that took me a long time to realize is that it's okay to be wrong. It's also perfectly okay to fail. Confidence stems from being able to accept your failures and grow from them. I've learned that the more you fail, the more empowered and motivated you become.

This may sound extremely corny...let me rephrase that, this will sound extremely corny, but it is important to find your value. Find it by doing something you love, and applying that to something that you may be self-conscious about.

In my case, I am extremely self-conscious about public speaking. I'm that girl who will try absolutely anything and everything to get out of a presentation. The lack of confidence always comes from the thought that people might be judging me. I've learned throughout my time at college so far to completely block out the negativity. Overcome self-doubt by not letting others determine how you view yourself as a person.

The last piece of advice I could give would be to step out of your comfort zone. Try new things and allow those experiences to shape you. I've learned that someone isn't going to be standing by our side to push us out of our comfort zones. It is something that has to be done by you and only you.

Self-confidence is hard. Trust me, I still struggle with it every day, but you just have to live and learn through it.

Feeling good about yourself is so easy to put in the hands of others. Focus on you.

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You, the girl with a heart full of love and no place big enough to store it all.


Our generation is so caught up in this notion that it's "cool" not to care about anything or anyone. I know you've tried to do just that.

I'm sure there was a brief moment where you genuinely believed you were capable of not caring, especially since you convinced everyone around you that you didn't. But that just isn't true, is it? Don't be ashamed of this, don't let anyone ridicule you for having emotions.

After everything life has put you through, you have still remained soft.

This is what makes you, you. This is what makes you beautiful. You care so deeply and love so boldly and it is incredible, never let the world take this from you.

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You are the girl who will give and give and give until you have absolutely nothing left. Some may see this as a weakness, an inconvenience, the perfect excuse to walk all over you. I know you try to make sense of it all, why someone you cared so much about would treat you the way they did.

You'll make excuses for them, rationalize it and turn it all around on yourself.

You'll tell yourself that maybe just maybe they will change even though you know deep down they won't. You gave them everything you had and it still feels as if they took it all and ran. When this happens, remind yourself that you are not a reflection of those who cannot love you. The way that people treat you does not define who you are. Tell yourself this every day, over and over until it sticks. Remind yourself that you are gold, darling, and sometimes they will prefer silver and that is OK.

I know you feel guilty when you have to say no to something, I know you feel like you are letting everyone you love down when you do. Listen to me, it is not your responsibility to tend to everyone else's feelings all the time. By all means, treat their feelings with care, but remember it is not the end of the world when you cannot help them right away.

Remember that it is OK to say no.

You don't have to take care of everyone else all the time. Sometimes it's OK to say no to lunch with your friends and just stay home in bed to watch Netflix when you need a minute for yourself. I know sometimes this is much easier said than done because you are worried about letting other people down, but please give it a try.

With all of this, please remember that you matter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love and patience and kindness and everything that you have given everyone else. It is OK to think about and put yourself first. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You are so incredibly loved even when it doesn't feel like it, please always remember that. You cannot fill others up when your own cup is empty. Take care of yourself.

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