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The Secret Behind Being Able To Be Alone Is Your Mindset

Being able to enjoy your time alone and be alone is all about one thing, and one thing only. Your mindset.

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The Secret Behind Being Able To Be Alone Is Your Mindset
Emily Gigliotti

In today's society, we idolize relationships. We constantly talk about dating, marriage, breakups, and so many other things. Not to mention, these "relationship goals" are posted all over social media, which makes it hard for anyone to think that it's completely okay to not be in a relationship. I think we talk about it so much that most people think they need a relationship of some sort in order to fit into society. This scares me.

I was brought up in the generation of relationships. My younger self didn't know it was okay to be alone and not in a relationship. It took me a while to figure that out. Today's dating culture has become even more extreme than when I was younger, which makes me worry for the generation of kids growing up in it. The idolization of dating has become more distinguished now than ever, and we need to figure out a way to show that it is completely okay to be alone.

But how does one go about being alone when all people talk about is being in a relationship?

Your mindset.

I was always taught that you are what you preach. If you believe it, you will become it. I say I can, so I will. Confidence is the key to success in life. All of these mottos are true, but what do they have to do with being alone?

If you tell yourself that being alone is okay, then it is okay.

You don't need anyone to tell you that being in a relationship is what you need to do to be successful. Yes, this is all easier said than done, but if you tell yourself that being alone is okay, you'll eventually believe it.

Remember that you are what you preach. Think positive, act positive. Think confident, be confident. Think that being alone is okay, and being alone will be okay.

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