A Bad Mom's Take On "Bad Moms"

A Bad Mom's Take On "Bad Moms"

How a hilarious movie annoys me.

Mila Kunis, Jada Pinkett Smith and Kristen Bell are only a few of the famous women celebrities staring in the new film "Bad Moms." The general idea of the movie is a small group of moms standing up for their children and standing up for what a mom actually is. While the movie is great and a definite must see, I am a bit annoyed by it. Not the movie itself, but the idea of it. A movie had to be made to prove a point about what a mom is. Wait, what?

Why must there be a movie made to shut down mom shamers when all we really are trying to do is raise our children? That’s the ultimate goal, right? It's not how creative you can get with Pinterest lunches, how nicely dressed your children are or how many after school activities your child is involved in. Your awesome parenting is not determined by how smart your child is, how organized your home is or what your child does for their science fair project. The only thing any parents should be judged for is whether or not they actually raise their children.

Another thing that really annoys me about the movie is that the movie makes it looks like there are only four types of moms: the one who has it all together, the working mom with too much on her plate, the single mom who wants to sleep with everyone and the stay at home mom who is going crazy. There were various other types of moms briefly mentioned in the film, but only four were focused on. Is that what moms have been boiled down to? Are those really the only options? Maybe it was just the types that were focused on simply to make a movie, but it still feels as if moms are very limited.

Lastly, it really annoys me that there are women out there like Gwendolen who think that you always have to pretend like everything is okay. The truth is, being a mom is hard. It is very unlikely that there is a mom out there who has their whole life together. It’s great if you do, kudos to you. Let us know your secrets! However, don’t make other moms who struggle feel alone. You will never know their struggles if you don’t ask if you can help.

Overall, the movie was great and will be one that I will purchase as soon as it hits shelves. It did make me appreciate my life and all the people in it that help me with my kids. The biggest thing I got out of the movie is that no mom is in this alone. If your life is a mess and it seems like it is a constant battle to make it through the day in one piece, breathe; tomorrow is a new day. If you are the mom who is just overwhelmed by life, raising kids, work and all the things in between, it’s okay to step back or ask for help. If you are the mom who stays at home and you are going crazy, grab yourself a drink and watch this movie with your girlfriends. And if you are the mom with a Rolodex of men to sleep with, please keep your sexual endeavors secret from your children. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

Cover Image Credit: Reuben Saidman (1906-1967)

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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved

To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

Cover Image Credit: Danielle Balint

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