So you fell in love. Your single lady days are over because alas, the love of your life did put a ring on it.

Or, for the men, you finally found the one woman who has made you the man you’re proud to be and you never want to let her go. You want to protect her and love her for the rest of the days of your life.

Your engagement party, bridal shower, etc. were the experiences you always dreamed they’d be, and honestly so much more. That’s because little old you found someone who accepts you and loves you for all your flaws and your unique personality. They love you like no one else could ever love you.

Your significant other has made it clear to you that you are the one person in this world they can’t bear to imagine life without. They adore you and love you with every part of their being because they chose you. Out of more than seven billion people on Earth, they never want to go a day without YOU ever again.

Now, it’s about that time for your bachelor or bachelorette party.

Let the following statement resonate deep within your heart and soul and may you remember this, in the name of love, when the time comes: you have no right to treat your bachelor/bachelorette party as your “last night of being single” because, you are in fact, NOT SINGLE.

Actually, you haven’t been single since you first laid eyes on your future husband/wife. You haven’t been, as you like to say, “free” since you started this particular romantic relationship.

The train for partying like it’s your last night of being a “free man/woman” has long, LONG left the station, which shouldn’t bother you in the slightest. This is because, as you may remember, you are currently engaged to someone. You have already committed fully to them with your heart and mind.

Sorry, not sorry, but respecting the person you are about to be eternally and lawfully wed to means the items on the following list should not be present or performed at your party:

1. Strippers

Would you have a sexy session with a stripper as a married man/woman? Nah? Then leave them out.

2. Grinding on strangers or, God forbid, on friends.

3. Private area anything

You got it. Leave the penis balloons at Trashy R Us.

4. Getting drunk to the point you’re making bad decisions.

5. Party bus

If you are all going to get SO drunk that NONE of you will be able to drive, just stay home. You won’t remember the night anyway.

6. Peer pressuring anyone to do something they’re not comfortable with.

7. Drugs

Just, why?

8. Doing ANYTHING that could hurt your future spouse

No one is stopping anyone from calling off the wedding, just keep that in mind.

9. Women popping out of cakes (Just to have all my bases covered.)

In addition, saying that you had no choice because your best man or maid of honor planned the party for you, is not an acceptable excuse. You had the freedom to choose whether or not to partake in any activity.

When it comes to genuine love and respect, you don’t get a freebie to be unfaithful, distasteful, or to betray your lover’s trust.

There are so many other options for bachelor/bachelorette parties these days. Girls beach weekend, classy night on the town, Moscow mules and movie marathon, or anything your heart desires.

Hopefully, your heart desires what your future spouse desires: respect.

You get to decide how you want to celebrate your bachelor or bachelorette. You have the freedom to do whatever is acceptable between you and the one you love. However, just bear in mind, no matter how many which ways you twist and try to mold it, your bachelor/bachelorette party still doesn’t mean you’re single and doesn’t erase the fact you’re about to make lifelong vows to your partner.