For Anyone Asking Themselves In Despair, 'Why Me?'

For Anyone Asking Themselves In Despair, 'Why Me?'

For better or for worse, everything happens for a reason.


Have you ever just sat in bed at night and wondered "why me?"

Specifically, why don't things go your way sometimes? Why does it seem that every single person other than you gets exactly what they want? I know I feel that way. I look at my friends and they're the ones that get the boy that you wanted, the job that you were praying for, the part in a show while you get to sit in the audience. When by some miracle something does go your way, it doesn't last or it wasn't exactly what you anticipated to be.

The number of conversations where I would try to barter with God is astronomical. It feels completely one way and that I'm just crying to radio silence. Why can't I be the pretty one? Why am I not smart enough to be on the Dean's list? Why isn't the guy I like interested in me? Why can't I ever get picked first for pickup basketball? Why can't I seem to lose the weight I've been striving to do for YEARS?

Just... why me?

I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks this. I'm willing to bet that everyone has had that thought at some point in their lives but when you have it, you feel like you are at your lowest point and it hurts like heck. You feel like your entire existence is a joke because nothing is working out for you.

Maybe not now they won't, but they will eventually.

There will come a day when you will be perfectly content with yourself. You will embrace your looks and your personality. That jerk that you were on and off with for years will finally be erased from your life and you will find the person that reflects your soul. You won't feel lonely at night anymore. You will finally have a job that will make you feel like the most successful person in the world and for once in your life, you won't be asking "why me?" but instead you will be saying, "I did it and I'm happy with myself."

Now it may seem that you will never be content with anything in your life but for better or for worse, everything happens for a reason. Whenever you feel like the world is against you, remember that there are still people who are rooting for you and your success and that you're not the only one asking why me? It just takes time. Time, patience, persistence, and knowing when you need to rest. Some battles aren't meant to be won by you but there a million more battles that are waiting for your victory.

So go ahead, cry about it for a bit but then pick yourself up and keep going. You won't be asking "why me" forever.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Turning 'I'm Sorry' Into 'Thank You'

A process of self-awareness I think everyone should consider.


My entire life I've been apologetic.

I use apologies far too often in my daily life. Whether it be to someone holding the door for me even though I'm still ten feet from the door or my interrupting the custodian cleaning my hall's bathroom. From stepping on my friend's toes to bumping into someone in line at Starbucks.

I think as children, we are taught that apologizing for our actions wipes away the consequences from those actions. In past relationships, I have relied on apologies to make myself feel better about how I've made others feel instead of actually using them to improve my actions.

For me, it has just become something ingrained in my personality. I've noticed that it has become a reflex rather than a conscious response. What I've realized recently is that this is something I can change.

Apologies are helpful when mending hurtful or accidental situations, especially when you find yourself in the wrong, but not everything deserves an, "I'm sorry," and using that phrase for every accidental encounter or mistake, in my eyes, lessens its impact.

If we all use, "I'm sorry," for every minor inconvenience we cause, the words become less meaningful.

I have read about this online a lot lately, and it is suggested that instead of apologizing, we should give thanks.

If I'm late for a date with my friends, the old me would've said, "I'm SO sorry, guys!" But the new me will say, "Thank you for waiting for me."

Instead of apologizing to our (wonderful) custodians, I'll say, "Thank you so much for the work you do here every day."

If someone is kind enough to hold the door for me, even though I'm nowhere near it, I won't apologize for inconveniencing them. Instead, I will take the time to appreciate the fact that they were kind enough to do so, despite my distance from the door.

I think that this is a process everyone can benefit from, so long as they are willing to be conscious of their thoughts and the words they speak. By replacing, "I'm sorry," with an expression of gratitude, we can develop a more positive mindset and reserve apologies for situations that deserve them.

We can also use those rare apologies to remind us to improve our actions; if we hurt someone, we don't get to decide that we didn't or invalidate their feelings. We can then meaningfully apologize and allow it to inherently change our behavior.

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