I Asked 5 People What Their Quarter Life Crisis Was Like And They Gave Me The Whole Truth

I Asked 5 People What Their Quarter Life Crisis Was Like And They Gave Me The Whole Truth

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They say that when you turn 25, you experience a quarter-life crisis. I don't think I'm going through one yet, or maybe I've been experiencing once since I got into my 20s, I'm not exactly sure. I decided to ask someone fellow 25 year-olds and former 25 year-olds and see how they have gone through it, what they have experienced, and how they felt.

Whether it be a crisis financially, socially, job-related, etc. the answers were very diverse in some ways and very similar in other ways. This is what they had to say:

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"My quarter-life crisis is a feeling that I'm way far behind where I should be in life in terms of financial independence and stability, having a career, my education, living on my own, and relationships. Essentially, a feeling that I'm playing catch up in every facet of my life." - Anonymous

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"I was in a long distance relationship throughout college and once we graduated we decided to move in together. In a Catholic household, that was not possible without getting married. So I married my boyfriend of seven years to find out within a couple months of living together that after four years away in college, we were no longer the same people. It was very difficult to love and live with someone that was very different than what you had imagined.

"There were a lot of disagreements, which lead to unhappiness. We were each others' first everything so we decided that maybe we just needed to meet other people and maybe that would open our eyes. Well, in doing so, I ended up meeting an amazing girl whom I fell in love with instantly. The connection I had was not forced like with my husband — everything just flowed so nicely. I ended up leaving my husband and coming out as gay to my family and friends, which was very very difficult in a Catholic household. My father, till today, resents me and we barely talk because of it, my mom doesn’t really touch the subject at all.

"It is still very difficult being that my family loved my ex-husband, but it took a lot for me to realize it was my life and I had to do what I had to do so that I could be happy. Yay, quarter life crisis!" —Nayara

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"I feel like nothing can go right honestly. I am unhappy at my job but I can't find another one. I've been looking for a new job for months, I've done so many applications and am not getting a single response. Being an adult is hard. Paying bills and having to budget is just overwhelming at times. I literally go to work, go home, eat dinner, shower and go to bed every day. I maybe get one day off a week and am just physically and emotionally drained.

"If I was able to I'd quit my job and focus on me and my mental health but that's impossible. I need time away from work to focus on myself but I can't take time off of work because I can't afford to. My life is just a cycle of going to work and home and I just want to get in a different cycle. I see all my friends going out, having a good time, going on vacations, spending time with family and I'm at work. Literally, can't tell you the last time I got a day to just focus on myself and do something as simple ( but satisfying) as getting a mani/pedi." — Samantha

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"25 is the year when I died inside but my career did great." — Audrey

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"It started hitting me at 24. When I was younger, I thought at 25 I would be getting married and having kids at 27, but that wasn't happening for me. I had a job and I felt frustrated at my company. I wasn't growing there and I was ready to go back to grad school but I was overwhelmed with taking the GRE and getting prepared. I watching everyone around me get married.

"When I turned 25, I decided to do everything I wanted to do to combat the crisis. I chopped my hair off, I went skydiving, I got scuba certified even though I had a deep fear of the ocean, and I traveled by myself to Japan. On that trip, I learned a lot about myself. I realized grad school was it and applied to school in Barcelona and now here I am and now I'm in Africa." — Stephanie

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

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You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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My Eating Disorder Was A Secret, Even From Me

No one ever talks about it, and if they had my life might be different.

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I remember ninth grade health class very well, specifically one day in particular. The day we talked about eating disorders, I was ready to hear about anorexia and bulimia. I was not ready to walk out of that classroom with confirmation that I had an eating disorder, but that is exactly what I did that day.

After speaking on anorexia and bulimia, my teacher told us about Binge Eating Disorder.

My 14-year-old ears perked up. I had never heard of this disease, but I was immediately interested. I knew anorexia and bulimia well, they were the diseases that, at the time, I wish I had the determination to try, but I was too scared to hurt my body.

Binge Eating Disorder was new to me. My teacher described it as continuing to eat after you were full and eating for hours at a time. As the signs and symptoms continued to be read, I realized... that the last three years of my life had been plagued by binges. There was a lot I couldn't control in my life, but eating was one thing that I always had control over. It was the one thing that always brought me comfort.

Most binges would start after I came home from a hard day at school, or maybe after I got in a fight with a family member. Maybe I felt insecure about the growing number on the scale, but I ate.

It always started with half a bag of chips, then maybe a cookie or other sweet treat, and then I would finish with something else I could find in the pantry. My mother would come home and begin making dinner.

Ashamed, I would hide the food anywhere so my family could not tell I had been eating and then I would go eat dinner.

This was a common occurrence for me, but I had no idea that my habits were wrong or should point to an eating disorder. The only thing that I knew was wrong with me, was that I was gaining weight.

For the longest time, I thought an eating disorder was something that helped you lose weight unhealthily, not gain weight. It wasn't until I sat in a health class that I realized that there was anything wrong with me.

Education is so important in overcoming eating disorders. We are making such great strides about informing people about the dangers of eating disorders and positive body image.

It is so important that we start making Binge Eating Disorder a topic that is as known as anorexia and bulimia. No one ever discusses Binge Eating Disorder, not even the dangers of it, maybe if they had my life might have been different.

Maybe I would have found out about it earlier and could have gotten help before it got out of hand.

I wish I could say that I left that health class that day and never had a binge again. The truth is I binged several times after that, and still to this day I have an episode, although they are very rare.

It would be unrealistic to tell you that I overcame my eating disorder that day because it is a journey I am still completing. Every day presents a new challenge, and sometimes I fail, but I will succeed, and succeeding is worth a few failures.

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