Ashley and Jared's Modern Love Story

Ashley Iaconetti and Jared's Love Story Is All Too Relatable For Our Generation

No more sad tears for Ashely I. Only happy tears thanks to Jared finally figuring his feelings out.


The evolution of Ashley I. and Jared's relationship is a public example of how relationships can actually evolve:

Girl likes guy, guy is not that into her, they become friends– but then it becomes complicated, girl still likes guy, but guy pursues different girl, girl moves on AND THEN guy realizes what he lost and has to fight to win her back.

I've broken down the different phases of the Ashley and Jared relationship and summarized how each one is relatable to relationships within our generation.

The Sparks:

Ashley and her tears captured the hearts of Bachelor Nation fans while she was competing on fellow Iowan Chris Soule's season of The Bachelor.

Jared captured the eyes of Bachelor Nation and Ashley while he was competing on Katilyn Bristowe's season of The Bachelorette that same year.

Ashley and Jared finally met while on Bachelor in Paradise 2– and for Ashley, she was quoted as saying she had "a weird feeling" after first seeing him at the bar, which she now claims was love at first sight.

Basically, Ashley continued to pursue Jared up until the fantasy suite. At this time, Ashley was still a virgin, and the two decided to not have sex, and leave paradise as just friends.

How this phase of the relationship is relatable: Anytime you meet or are introduced to someone that you immediately get sparks with it is easy to be blinded by reality. You can get caught up in getting to know someone and the bliss that comes along with it. No matter how things can be going, the real world can still cause the sparks to die out.

Just Friends:

Ashley and Jared left paradise just friends and, given their popularity amongst Bachelor Nation, the two were included in much of the press and publicity recent Bachelor alums can receive. The two spent time together and went to charity events, red carpets, parties, and hangouts together.

If you followed the two on social media during this phase, it was evident they didn't let their history stop them from developing a genuine friendship.

How this phase is relatable: One word– Friendzone. Friend-zoning happens all the time. Sometimes someone you are interested in is just meant to be a friend and nothing more– even if it's just temporary.

It's Complicated:

Ashley and Jared battled the gray area of being together and just friends during this time. In "The Story Of Us" video of the two explaining their love story, they claimed this was a time where feelings were again beginning to develop between the two and attraction was heating up again.

Just like in BIP 2, before things could get too serious, Jared put an end to things.

His excuse? He was confused about his feelings.

How this phase is relatable: "Confused" is basically another C-word to use instead of "commitment" to get yourself out of a blooming relationship. I know that I've said I was confused when I basically just didn't want to commit or wasn't as serious about whoever I was seeing at that time.

One-sided feelings:

The two returned to paradise for Season 3.

Given the romantic history between the two, it was inevitable that the two would try to hit things off again.

The Ashley and Jared romance was back on again until Cayla showed up and had sights on reeling in Jared's heart.

This is when it gets sad for Ashley, who had hopes her and Jared would be together.

Jared and Caila heated things up in paradise, which left Ashley brokenhearted over the loss of her interest and friend.

How this phase is relatable: When you are getting to know someone in a romantic way, I think the fear and curiosity of how interested they are in just you is haunting. No matter how serious you are with a person, you never want to hear them say the words "someone else". Not only is it the biggest slap in the face, it also can leave you feeling a million emotions at once– which is all apparent with Ashley if you watched season 3 of BIP. Whether it's commitment issues, they just aren't as into you as you are into them or they are a fuckboy– the feeling sucks. I praise Ashley for going through it on national television.

After BIP 3, the two went through the "just friends" phase once again.

Things ended with Caila and Jared. Ashley and Jared still remained close friends.

Ashley moves on:

Ashley went on Winter Games, which is when she met Kevin from Canada.

Ashley and Kevin's relationship lasted through Winter Games (which the couple won) and the two continued to date after filming ended.

During this time, Jared went to Australia to be apart of their Bachelor in Paradise.

This is when Jared began to realize he had feelings for Ashley.

While Ashley and Kevin were still together, Jared, Ashley, and a few other Bachelor alum went on an annual vacation they had gone on previously.

This is when Jared made his move after some persuasion.

Jared kissed Ashley in the airport.

But, Ashley still chose to be with Kevin.

How this is relatable: This is typical guy realizes what he has after it is gone situation.

Jared has to prove to Ashley that he is worth it:

Kevin and Ashley ended up breaking up for their own respected reasons –– none having to do with Jared.

This is when Jared decided to step it up and prove to Ashley that he could be everything she thought he could be and would want.

Basically, whatever grand gestures he did worked because the two are engaged.

It took three years of heartbreak, developing a friendship, tons of Ashley tears and experiencing different relationships in order to realize they wanted to be together forever.

How their complete relationship is relatable: Within our generation, we have people that are either ready to dive right into serious relationships, and people that need a little more time to figure themselves and life out before doing so. Ashley and Jared tried their relationship three times before realizing they were ready to be serious. Their relationship represents that sometimes you have to be patient with timing and trust that things will end up the way they are supposed to.

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9 Reasons Crocs Are The Only Shoes You Need

Crocs have holes so your swag can breathe.

Do you have fond childhood objects that make you nostalgic just thinking about your favorite Barbie or sequenced purse? Well for me, its my navy Crocs. Those shoes put me through elementary school. I eventually wore them out so much that I had to say goodbye. I tried Airwalks and sandals, but nothing compared. Then on my senior trip in New York City, a four story Crocs store gleamed at me from across the street and I bought another pair of Navy Blue Crocs. The rest is history. I wear them every morning to the lake for practice and then throughout the day to help air out my soaking feet. I love my Crocs so much, that I was in shock when it became apparent to me that people don't feel the same. Here are nine reasons why you should just throw out all of your other shoes and settle on Crocs.

1. They are waterproof.

These bad boys can take on the wettest of water. Nobody is sure what they are made of, though. The debate is still out there on foam vs. rubber. You can wear these bad boys any place water may or may not be: to the lake for practice or to the club where all the thirsty boys are. But honestly who cares because they're buoyant and water proof. Raise the roof.

2. Your most reliable support system

There is a reason nurses and swimming instructors alike swear by Crocs. Comfort. Croc's clogs will make you feel like your are walking on a cloud of Laffy Taffy. They are wide enough that your toes are not squished, and the rubbery material forms perfectly around your foot. Added bonus: The holes let in a nice breeze while riding around on your Razor Scooter.

3. Insane durability

Have you ever been so angry you could throw a Croc 'cause same? Have you ever had a Croc bitten while wrestling a great white shark? Me too. Have you ever had your entire foot rolled like a fruit roll up but had your Crocs still intact? Also me. All I know is that Seal Team 6 may or may not have worn these shoes to find and kill Osama Bin Laden. Just sayin'.

4. Bling, bling, bling

Jibbitz, am I right?! These are basically they're own money in the industry of comfortable footwear. From Spongebob to Christmas to your favorite fossil, Jibbitz has it all. There's nothing more swag-tastic than pimped out crocs. Lady. Killer.

5. So many options

From the classic clog to fashionable sneakers, Crocs offer so many options that are just too good to pass up on. They have fur lined boots, wedges, sandals, loafers, Maryjane's, glow in the dark, Minion themed, and best of all, CAMO! Where did your feet go?!

6. Affordable

Crocs: $30

Feeling like a boss: Priceless

7. Two words: Adventure Straps

Because you know that when you move the strap from casual mode chillin' in the front to behind the heal, it's like using a shell on Mario Cart.

8. Crocs cares

Okay, but for real, Crocs is a great company because they have donated over 3 million pairs of crocs to people in need around the world. Move over Toms, the Croc is in the house.

9. Stylish AF

The boys will be coming for you like Steve Irwin.

Who cares what the haters say, right? Wear with pride, and go forth in style.

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From One Nerd To Another

My contemplation of the complexities between different forms of art.


Aside from reading Guy Harrison's guide to eliminating scientific ignorance called, "At Least Know This: Essential Science to Enhance Your Life" and, "The Breakthrough: Immunotherapy and the Race to Cure Cancer" by Charles Graeber, an informative and emotional historical account explaining the potential use of our own immune systems to cure cancer, I read articles and worked on my own writing in order to keep learning while enjoying my winter break back in December. I also took a trip to the Guggenheim Museum.

I wish I was artistic. Generally, I walk through museums in awe of what artists can do. The colors and dainty details simultaneously inspire me and remind me of what little talent I posses holding a paintbrush. Walking through the Guggenheim was no exception. Most of the pieces are done by Hilma af Klint, a 20th-century Swedish artist expressing her beliefs and curiosity about the universe through her abstract painting. I was mostly at the exhibit to appease my mom (a K - 8th-grade art teacher), but as we continued to look at each piece and read their descriptions, I slowly began to appreciate them and their underlying meanings.

I like writing that integrates symbols, double meanings, and metaphors into its message because I think that the best works of art are the ones that have to be sought after. If the writer simply tells you exactly what they were thinking and how their words should be interpreted, there's no room for imagination. An unpopular opinion in high school was that reading "The Scarlet Letter" by Nathaniel Hawthorne was fun. Well, I thought it was. At the beginning of the book, there's a scene where Hawthorne describes a wild rosebush that sits just outside of the community prison. As you read, you are free to decide whether it's an image of morality, the last taste of freedom and natural beauty for criminals walking toward their doom, or a symbol of the relationship between the Puritans with their prison-like expectations and Hester, the main character, who blossoms into herself throughout the novel. Whichever one you think it is doesn't matter, the point is that the rosebush can symbolize whatever you want it to. It's the same with paintings - they can be interpreted however you want them to be.

As we walked through the building, its spiral design leading us further and further upwards, we were able to catch glimpses of af Klint's life through the strokes of her brush. My favorite of her collections was one titled, "Evolution." As a science nerd myself, the idea that the story of our existence was being incorporated into art intrigued me. One piece represented the eras of geological time through her use of spirals and snails colored abstractly. She clued you into the story she was telling by using different colors and tones to represent different periods. It felt like reading "The Scarlet Letter" and my biology textbook at the same time. Maybe that sounds like the worst thing ever, but to me it was heaven. Art isn't just art and science isn't just science. Aspects of different studies coexist and join together to form something amazing that will speak to even the most untalented patron walking through the museum halls.

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