I Am Tired of Seeing Anti-Feminist Women

I Am Tired of Seeing Anti-Feminist Women

Why fight against yourself when you can fight for yourself?
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Feminism has gotten a horrible reputation as a crazed, femi-Nazi movement.

However, as a PROUD feminist, each time I hear the cause mislabeled and completely slandered, a little spark is lit inside me to change their minds. I'm here to set the record straight and open your eyes to the new wave of feminism. Get on board or get left behind.

Feminism, simply defined, is EQUALITY of the genders (or non-conforming), NOT supremacy of females, as we often get criticized for by the patriarchy.

Yeah, I said it.

While you could argue that women have the same legal rights as men, the standards for women are so obviously different and the societal expectations are extremely limiting. Major business women being seen as shrill or controlling for simply acting in a "masculine" manner, or worse, having these behaviors blamed on "that time of the month" is incredibly demeaning and destroys confidence and motivation in young girls across the globe.

There are countless women in the spotlight today, however, that are helping to change the mold, taking back women's bodies and creating bosses from their bones. Amber Rose. Maybe she's not your mom's favorite role model for you, but the female empowerment of her annual Slut Walk is undeniable.

The main goal of this protest is to take back the female body and put down those who blame sexual assault victims and what they choose to wear. It goes all the way to high school dress codes; shoulders are part of the human form, not an invitation for advances from men.

Slut shaming is a thing of the past and Rose was a big part of this. And she's making hella bank so props to her.

Now, for the even more controversial role model: Hillary Clinton. She probably suffered one of the worst attacks from the media in history, often just for what she wore or how she did her hair. DON'T TALK TO ME ABOUT THE EMAILS THIS IS NOT ABOUT POLITICS.

You have to admit that she is one bad*ss woman. I mean, the first female nominee for President of the U.S.? Who wouldn't look up to her? It's further evidence of woman expanding their power into primarily male-dominated fields. Don't forget that she went from First Lady to serve as our secretary of state. I'd call that a major promotion.

I need guys to read this. I need them to realize that it's not embarrassing to stand up for girls. It's not embarrassing to be a feminist. Shout out to Chris if you made it this far, or any man really, it's impressive. It's 2017 people, it's time we realized what equality really means.

Also, shout out to women who side with the patriarchy and fall for the falsehoods pushed onto you about the feminist movement; you are only hurting yourself. It's really sad to see the oblivion of some populations in our country but I'm glad we have millions of strong women and men on our side.

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Your Wait time At Theme Parks Is Not Unfair, You're Just Impatient

Your perceived wait time is always going to be longer than your actual wait time if you can't take a minute to focus on something other than yourself.

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Toy Story Land at Disney's Hollywood Studios "unboxed" on June 30, 2018. My friend and I decided to brave the crowds on opening day. We got to the park around 7 AM only to find out that the park opened around 6 AM. Upon some more scrolling through multiple Disney Annual Passholder Facebook groups, we discovered that people were waiting outside the park as early as 1 AM.

We knew we'd be waiting in line for the bulk of the Toy Story Land unboxing day. There were four main lines in the new land: the line to enter the land; the line for Slinky Dog Dash, the new roller coaster; the line for Alien Spinning Saucers, the easier of the new rides in the land; Toy Story Mania, the (now old news) arcade-type ride; and the new quick-service restaurant, Woody's Lunchbox (complete with grilled cheese and "grown-up drinks").

Because we were so early, we did not have to wait in line to get into the land. We decided to ride Alien Spinning Saucers first. The posted wait time was 150 minutes, but my friend timed the line and we only waited for 50 minutes. Next, we tried to find the line for Slinky Dog Dash. After receiving conflicting answers, the runaround, and even an, "I don't know, good luck," from multiple Cast Members, we exited the land to find the beginning of the Slinky line. We were then told that there was only one line to enter the park that eventually broke off into the Slinky line. We were not about to wait to get back into the area we just left, so we got a Fastpass for Toy Story Mania that we didn't plan on using in order to be let into the land sooner. We still had to wait for our time, so we decided to get the exclusive Little Green Man alien popcorn bin—this took an entire hour. We then used our Fastpass to enter the land, found the Slinky line, and proceeded to wait for two and a half hours only for the ride to shut down due to rain. But we've come this far and rain was not about to stop us. We waited an hour, still in line and under a covered area, for the rain to stop. Then, we waited another hour and a half to get on the ride from there once it reopened (mainly because they prioritized people who missed their Fastpass time due to the rain). After that, we used the mobile order feature on the My Disney Experience app to skip part of the line at Woody's Lunchbox.

Did you know that there is actually a psychological science to waiting? In the hospitality industry, this science is the difference between "perceived wait" and "actual wait." A perceived wait is how long you feel like you are waiting, while the actual wait is, of course, the real and factual time you wait. There are eight things that affect the perceived wait time: unoccupied time feels longer than occupied time, pre-process waits feel longer than in-process waits, anxiety makes waits feel longer, uncertain waits are longer than certain waits, unexplained waits are longer than explained waits, unfair waits are longer than equitable waits, people will wait longer for more valuable service and solo waiting feels longer than group waiting.

Our perceived wait time for Alien Spinning Saucers was short because we expected it to be longer. Our wait for the popcorn seemed longer because it was unoccupied and unexplained. Our wait for the rain to stop so the ride could reopen seemed shorter because it was explained. Our wait between the ride reopening and getting on the coaster seemed longer because it felt unfair for Disney to let so many Fastpass holders through while more people waited through the rain. Our entire wait for Slinky Dog Dash seemed longer because we were not told the wait time in the beginning. Our wait for our food after placing a mobile order seemed shorter because it was an in-process wait. We also didn't mind wait long wait times for any of these experiences because they were new and we placed more value on them than other rides or restaurants at Disney. The people who arrived at 1 AM just added five hours to their perceived wait

Some non-theme park examples of this science of waiting in the hospitality industry would be waiting at a restaurant, movie theater, hotel, performance or even grocery store. When I went to see "Jurassic World: Fallen Kingdom," the power went out in the theater right as we arrived. Not only did we have to wait for it to come back and for them to reset the projectors, I had to wait in a bit of anxiety because the power outage spooked me. It was only a 30-minute wait but felt so much longer. At the quick-service restaurant where I work, we track the time from when the guest places their order to the time they receive their food. Guests in the drive-thru will complain about 10 or more minute waits, when our screens tell us they have only been waiting four or five minutes. Their actual wait was the four or five minutes that we track because this is when they first request our service, but their perceived wait begins the moment they pull into the parking lot and join the line because this is when they begin interacting with our business. While in line, they are experiencing pre-process wait times; after placing the order, they experience in-process wait times.

Establishments in the hospitality industry do what they can to cut down on guests' wait times. For example, theme parks offer services like Disney's Fastpass or Universal's Express pass in order to cut down the time waiting in lines so guests have more time to buy food and merchandise. Stores like Target or Wal-Mart offer self-checkout to give guests that in-process wait time. Movie theaters allow you to check in and get tickets on a mobile app and some quick-service restaurants let you place mobile or online orders. So why do people still get so bent out of shape about being forced to wait?

On Toy Story Land unboxing day, I witnessed a woman make a small scene about being forced to wait to exit the new land. Cast Members were regulating the flow of traffic in and out of the land due to the large crowd and the line that was in place to enter the land. Those exiting the land needed to wait while those entering moved forward from the line. Looking from the outside of the situation as I was, this all makes sense. However, the woman I saw may have felt that her wait was unfair or unexplained. She switched between her hands on her hips and her arms crossed, communicated with her body language that she was not happy. Her face was in a nasty scowl at those entering the land and the Cast Members in the area. She kept shaking her head at those in her group and when allowed to proceed out of the land, I could tell she was making snide comments about the wait.

At work, we sometimes run a double drive-thru in which team members with iPads will take orders outside and a sequencer will direct cars so that they stay in the correct order moving toward the window. In my experience as the sequencer, I will inform the drivers which car to follow, they will acknowledge me and then still proceed to dart in front of other cars just so they make it to the window maybe a whole minute sooner. Not only is this rude, but it puts this car and the cars around them at risk of receiving the wrong food because they are now out of order. We catch these instances more often than not, but it still adds stress and makes the other guests upset. Perhaps these guests feel like their wait is also unfair or unexplained, but if they look at the situation from the outside or from the restaurant's perspective, they would understand why they need to follow the blue Toyota.

The truth of the matter is that your perceived wait time is always going to be longer than your actual wait time if you can't take a minute to focus on something other than yourself. We all want instant gratification, I get it. But in reality, we have to wait for some things. It takes time to prepare a meal. It takes time to experience a ride at a theme park that everyone else wants to go on. It takes time to ring up groceries. It takes patience to live in this world.

So next time you find yourself waiting, take a minute to remember the difference between perceived and actual wait times. Think about the eight aspects of waiting that affect your perceived wait. Do what you can to realize why you are waiting or keep yourself occupied in this wait. Don't be impatient. That's no way to live your life.

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7 Tips On How To Manage Your Money As A Poor Or Rich person

Poor or rich, if you don't know how to manage your money well, you're going to run into financial problems.

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Whether you are faced with a large amount of money in your bank account or a small amount, both require careful planning and proper management in order to be financially stable in any income you have. Here are seven of the most helpful tips for managing your money to get the most out of your financial situation.

1. Only buy what you need.

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In order to be able to manage your money properly, you need to have healthy spending habits. Only buy the things you need. Don't go buy that tasty Subway sub for $10 when you have food at home to cook. You can't be spending money on useless stuff like that, and always remind yourself that if you don't really need it you shouldn't buy it.

2. Create a fun account.

Now, just because you don't need the new Apple air pods doesn't mean you can't get it. What I mean by this is you should have a separate budget for items or events you want that are just cool or fun. Save a certain amount of money a week and create a budget to be able to treat yourself every once and a while. Don't go crazy though - your "fun" budget shouldn't use the most money over time.

3. Budget.

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No matter the amount of money you are making, you need a budget to know how much you can reasonably spend. Take a few minutes and look at your monthly income and write down a few categories most of your spending goes into. For example, a bills category. Have a chart of the categories and make sure you know the boundaries of what you can spend money on a what takes up most of your money.

4. Save cash.

Stay away from credit and debit cards. When you use cash, you physically see how much you are spending and feel don't tempted to buy something when you know you will have to give up your physical cash. Debit cards don't help foster wise spending habits because you just swipe and you're done. A number on your phone decreasing is a lot less painful than handing over a crisp 20. Also using cash helps you not overspend. Taking out a weekly budget in cash will not only keep you from overspending, but it also teaches you how to manage your money in a way where you don't spend all the cash since that has to last you a week.

5. Buy used when possible.

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Don't buy something new when you can get the same item for way cheaper that has only been used a few times before you. Craigslist and various other websites sell used things for a fraction of the price you would find them for in an actual store. Take the time to shop around on the web and find the used version because saving $100 is worth 15 more minutes of browsing and a few more fingerprints than the new counterpart.

6. Remember the 3-day rule.

Whenever you are faced with the option to buy something, wait three days before you decide if you actually want it and pay for it. Sure that TV looks really nice right now, but in a week you'll regret wasting the money on it when you have a perfectly good one at home. The 3-day rule is perfect for impulse buyers because it forces you to go home and wait to get it. Most of the time, you'll forget you wanted it by the next day let alone day three.

7. Invest.

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Invest your money. Not only in stocks, but also in yourself. Buy that computer programming course online so you can get the promotion at the job you desire. It's better to buy something that will benefit you in some way than spend money on something you'll get rid of in a week. Invest your money in ways that will improve yourself because, whatever that may be for you, it is the best purchase you can make and the wisest financial decision you'll have.

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