The Ancient Art of Girl Drama

The Ancient Art of Girl Drama

Rumors, whispers, lies, oh my!

In a society full of side-eyes, eye rolls, and plain judgment for anything you say, do, wear, post, there's a little trick that many of us need to learn. It's a great thing called not having a damn care in the world what others think of you and I am the biggest proponent of this new tactic. It leads to a happier, carefree life and that's something we all could use. Here's a few ways to gain the careless attitude.

1.Go ahead and post that witty Insta.

Stop caring what some random girl on your floor, in your class, or in your grade may say about your witty or slightly provocative Instagram caption that only your close friends will understand. Post it without a care in the world. If they judge you, that's a reflection of them needing to criticize another person for enjoying their life and that doesn't say much about their character if you ask me.

2. Wear whatever you want to the gym, class, or when you're out with your girls.

This is YOU time! Not time for the girl next to you on the treadmill to eye you up and down because you decided to wear spandex or a revealing compression shirt. Not for people to be giving you a side eye when they're in a downward dog because you decided to only wear a sports bra and yoga leggings. It's not your fault you sweat and it certainly isn't their business.

Wear those heeled booties to your 8 am if it makes you feel more fab and motivates you to be more productive. Throw on your winged eyeliner and new matte lipstick you just spent your paycheck on. Ignore the dirty glances you get from the girls in the buns, glasses, and sweats. Odds are they were too lazy to fuss with their appearance that morning and most days you are, too. But don't regret taking one day to make yourself look good and feel even better.

Show off the ladies in that new suede, lace-up bodysuit you got and take more than enough pics to show it off in a cute Instagram the next morning and feel no shame. Wear the new thigh high boots you got to the dirty frat house (if you dare) just because you like the way they make your legs look. Tonight's your night make sure you feel the best you can.

3. Post that snap story!

Who cares if you and your girls look like sloths hanging onto each other for dear life screaming at the top of your lungs to a rap song you don't know the words to. These are memories we will look back on for the rest of our boring career-women lives so enjoy it know. We're young and we can be dumb and I'm sorry but I find that 100% okay.

These are the mistakes we learn from, the stories we'll tell our kids one day, and the friends we'll value for a lifetime. So post the embarrassing singing, your friend tripping over that bench, the pre-game, the post-game, and all the in-betweens because we only have one life and one college experience.

4. Boys, boys, boys....are not worth the tears

It is not worth throwing away a friendship over Johnny-no-name from Chem class just because you both thought he was cute and he was being a typical guy and made a move on you both at a party. There is such a thing as girl code that every true friend abides by. And never blame a girl for a mistake blatantly made by a guy! No guy is worth losing a true friend over, that is a life lesson. Hoes before bros. Fries before guys.

My biggest piece of advice to all girls out there: stop being a judgmental bish. We all know how hard it is to be a woman so why further perpetuate this by criticizing one another when we already face enough criticism from the rest of society? I'm tired of living in a generation where half the time girls spend their days criticizing one another to make themselves feel superior or more special. If that's how you spend your day I feel genuinely sorry for you. If somehow is spending their time doing something that makes them happy and to better themselves then you should support them. If you worry more about the people who don't like you, you're going to miss out on making memories with the ones who love you for your crazy, loud, no-filter self.

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To High School Seniors In Their Last Semester

Senior year moves pretty fast; if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Dammit, you made it. The final semester of your senior year. You’re at the top of the food chain of high school, and it feels so good. You’re probably praying this last semester flies by, that you get out of town as soon as possible.

At this point, you’re calling teachers by their first names, the entire staff knows you by name, and you’re walking around school standing tall, owning those hallways. You’re convinced you’re ready to leave and move on to the next chapter in your life.

You’ve already experienced your last football game, standing in the cold in the front row of the student section all season long, decked out in your school colors and cheering loud and proud. That is, until they lost, and you realized you will never have that experience again. Never again.

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You already had your last winter break. Preparing and celebrating the holidays with your family, ice skating and sledding with your best friends. Those quiet nights alone in your room watching Netflix, taking for granted your loved ones just a few rooms away. Never again.

If you’re an athlete, you may have already played in your last game or ran your last race. The crowd cheering, proudly wearing your school’s name across your chest, giving it your all. For some, it may be the end of your athletic career. Before you knew it, you were standing in an empty gym, staring up at the banners and thinking about the mark you left on your school, wondering where on earth the time went. Never again.

I’m telling you right now, you’re going to miss it all. Everything you’ve ever known. Those early mornings when you debate going to first hour because you really need those McDonald’s hash browns. The late nights driving home from practice, stopping for ice cream of course, ready for a late night of homework. Getting food on a whim with your friends. Endless fights with your siblings. Your favorite chips in the pantry. A fridge full of food. Coming home to and getting tackled by your dog. Driving around your hometown, passing the same sights you’ve seen every day for as long as you can remember. Hugs from your mom after a long day. Laughs with your dad. And that best friend of yours? You’re going to miss them more than anything. I’m telling you right now, nothing will ever be the same. Never again.

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Before you start packing your bags, slow down, take a deep breath, and look around. You’ve got it pretty good here. The end of your senior year can be the time of your life; it’s truly amazing. So go to the winter dance, go to Prom, spend Senior Skip Day with your classmates, go to every sporting event you can, while you still can. College is pretty great, but it’s the little things you’re gonna miss the most. Don’t take it for granted because soon, you’ll be standing in a packed gym in your cap and gown, wondering where the heck the time went. You’ve got a long, beautiful life ahead of you, full of joy but also full of challenges. You’re going to meet so many wonderful people, people who will treat you right and people who won’t.

So, take it all in. Be excited for the future and look forward to it, but be mindful of the present. You’ve got this.
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Competition Isn’t Real, So Stop Worrying About What You Think Is Your 'Competition'

When you stop worrying about being better than "your competition," you will succeed.


"What are your plans for after College?" is the one question every college student wishes they could never hear again. After hearing those seven short words, the body of the college student is flooded with waves of irritation, paranoia, and worry.

When you set all your triggered thoughts and anxieties aside and manage to hurl out an answer, you're probably told "That's nice, but how are you going to get a job? That field is so competitive." At this point, you are probably ready to excuse yourself from the conversation for a timely breakdown.

Throughout high school, conversations at family gatherings and holiday parties typically went through this vicious cycle.

A naive junior in high school who was quick to say his major was going to be Musical Theater in college was always infuriated by the response "You'll never find work. That field is so competitive."

After a while, I started to believe it and decided to look elsewhere for a career path. I considered nursing, to where I was told how competitive college nursing programs are, and how little students they accept. I figured I wouldn't stand a chance, so I kept looking.

I circled back to the theater and was reminded by everybody how rigorous the Musical Theater college audition process was, and how they only accept a handful of kids. Surely there were other students more capable than me, and I wasn't going to let the ridiculously annoying boastful comments of theater kids ruin my search for my path in life.

My Dad always reminds me how much money I could make pursuing business, but working a 9-5 desk job dealing with hot-headed businessmen being choked by the tightness of their neckties never appealed me.

I felt fatigued like I was being told that I need to pursue what other people want me to, instead of following my dreams.

At this time I was a senior in High School, and my CommonApp was filled with prospective schools that I might attend, but the "intended major" section part of each application wasn't filled.

The loud "you can't" and "you'll NEVER get work" boomed in my ear until I was convinced I couldn't follow my dreams of becoming an actor, so I caved and intended to pursue journalism. I was told by all my teachers I was a gifted writer, so I figured it would be worth a shot.

"You can always do theater on the side," is what I heard. Now in college pursuing journalism, a field I was told: "will be one I can actually get a job in," some professors tell me after graduation, I will be doing journalism "on the side" because of how "competitive" the field is.

All occupational fields are competitive, whether that be communications, business, nursing, etc. Here is one thing that I learned through this experience and many others…

You have no competition.

In the eyes of someone who is hiring for a job, they are going to pick whoever's work they feel best fits the position. This isn't the product of a cutthroat field, it's solely the product of your work fitting the part.

You can't mash two puzzle pieces together because you THINK it's what fits, whatever is meant for you will come to you. Your puzzle pieces will fit together naturally.

In the end, it will come together to form a beautiful picture.

As for me, I decided to tune out the comments about competitive fields. What used to consume me cannot phase me anymore.

I still intend to pursue my dreams of becoming a performer, and at every audition I will remind myself that it is not the field that is competitive, there is no competition. The performer sitting next to me at an open call is not my competition, but my inspiration to work hard to find the job that will best fit me.

In the words of Cinderella, "there is one thing, they can't order me to stop dreaming."

The reporter who grabs every single story shouldn't turn me into someone who viciously grabs every story they can to build their portfolio, it should make me look for stories I WANT to tell that will progress me as a writer. After all, I am still learning.

I learned that I shouldn't belittle other people that are deemed "my competition" to disorient them, giving me a better chance at getting a job. Kindness will be more rewarding than contributing to the vicious dog-eat-dog world.

"I'm not in competition with anyone except who I used to be, and everything I do now is just an evolved version of something I've done before" -Kali Uchis

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