The Ancient Art of Girl Drama

The Ancient Art of Girl Drama

Rumors, whispers, lies, oh my!

In a society full of side-eyes, eye rolls, and plain judgment for anything you say, do, wear, post, there's a little trick that many of us need to learn. It's a great thing called not having a damn care in the world what others think of you and I am the biggest proponent of this new tactic. It leads to a happier, carefree life and that's something we all could use. Here's a few ways to gain the careless attitude.

1.Go ahead and post that witty Insta.

Stop caring what some random girl on your floor, in your class, or in your grade may say about your witty or slightly provocative Instagram caption that only your close friends will understand. Post it without a care in the world. If they judge you, that's a reflection of them needing to criticize another person for enjoying their life and that doesn't say much about their character if you ask me.

2. Wear whatever you want to the gym, class, or when you're out with your girls.

This is YOU time! Not time for the girl next to you on the treadmill to eye you up and down because you decided to wear spandex or a revealing compression shirt. Not for people to be giving you a side eye when they're in a downward dog because you decided to only wear a sports bra and yoga leggings. It's not your fault you sweat and it certainly isn't their business.

Wear those heeled booties to your 8 am if it makes you feel more fab and motivates you to be more productive. Throw on your winged eyeliner and new matte lipstick you just spent your paycheck on. Ignore the dirty glances you get from the girls in the buns, glasses, and sweats. Odds are they were too lazy to fuss with their appearance that morning and most days you are, too. But don't regret taking one day to make yourself look good and feel even better.

Show off the ladies in that new suede, lace-up bodysuit you got and take more than enough pics to show it off in a cute Instagram the next morning and feel no shame. Wear the new thigh high boots you got to the dirty frat house (if you dare) just because you like the way they make your legs look. Tonight's your night make sure you feel the best you can.

3. Post that snap story!

Who cares if you and your girls look like sloths hanging onto each other for dear life screaming at the top of your lungs to a rap song you don't know the words to. These are memories we will look back on for the rest of our boring career-women lives so enjoy it know. We're young and we can be dumb and I'm sorry but I find that 100% okay.

These are the mistakes we learn from, the stories we'll tell our kids one day, and the friends we'll value for a lifetime. So post the embarrassing singing, your friend tripping over that bench, the pre-game, the post-game, and all the in-betweens because we only have one life and one college experience.

4. Boys, boys, boys....are not worth the tears

It is not worth throwing away a friendship over Johnny-no-name from Chem class just because you both thought he was cute and he was being a typical guy and made a move on you both at a party. There is such a thing as girl code that every true friend abides by. And never blame a girl for a mistake blatantly made by a guy! No guy is worth losing a true friend over, that is a life lesson. Hoes before bros. Fries before guys.

My biggest piece of advice to all girls out there: stop being a judgmental bish. We all know how hard it is to be a woman so why further perpetuate this by criticizing one another when we already face enough criticism from the rest of society? I'm tired of living in a generation where half the time girls spend their days criticizing one another to make themselves feel superior or more special. If that's how you spend your day I feel genuinely sorry for you. If somehow is spending their time doing something that makes them happy and to better themselves then you should support them. If you worry more about the people who don't like you, you're going to miss out on making memories with the ones who love you for your crazy, loud, no-filter self.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Cancel Culture Is Toxic And Ugly

Stop deciding for me who I can and cannot like.


I was really hoping that canceled culture died in 2018, but unfortunately here we are in 2019 still "canceling" whoever we personally deem "problematic." Whether it's tweeting from six years ago or falsely made allegations, waves of people will grab on to anything they can to bring down whatever celebrity or influencer seems to be doing well at the moment.

Of course, it is important to bring light to horrible things such as racism, misogyny, domestic abuse, etc., but remember these horrible things are still happening TODAY. We need to focus our energy on combating the horrible things people are currently doing and saying; it is truly such a waste of time to bring up the problematic words and actions that someone in the limelight did almost a decade ago.

Let me be clear, there is no one person I am trying to defend here. I honestly don't care much to personally defend anyone who is being canceled by angry twitter-users who found something just bad enough to hold against them for eternity. I truly just find the idea of it annoying and ugly.

The idea that any person is a completely static, flat character is so inconceivable and unlikely that I truly have a hard time understanding why we cannot accept an apology from a matured person.

If we have no evidence that a person has made any recent damaging remarks, then how can we prove they haven't changed since they tweeted something wrong in 2013?

Of course, there are people who have recently or continuously proven they are indecent people who are not deserving of any sort of public exposure, but if they are truly so horrible, people will drop them without you having to tell them to do so. You don't have to condemn those who still remain loyal; they are probably not the kind of people you need to waste your time on anyway.

If the people canceling others were constantly watched like the people they have damned, I am absolutely sure there is something we could find from their past to cancel them as well.

Sometimes it is hard to remember that famous people are still human beings just like us. Anyone is prone to make mistakes, and those mistakes can absolutely be rectified over time.

Nowadays, people love jumping on the bandwagon of finding a new person to hate and don't even stop to think about the damage it could do to that person's life and reputation.

Give people a chance to prove that they are decent human beings before deciding whether "we" as a whole should love or hate them based on such a small amount of evidence.

I am not saying you have to love every celebrity. If you don't like what someone has said or done you absolutely do not have to give them your attention or devotion, but you should not tell me whether I can like them or not.

In 2019 we should put an end to canceled culture, and, instead, learn to take people at their word and accept their apologies for their past wrongdoings.

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