An Open Letter To The Young Feminists

An Open Letter To The Young Feminists

We don't hate men, we just want equality.

Dear feminists, I promise you aren’t crazy.

Feminism is widely known but commonly misunderstood. I'm sure you’ve heard boys say things like "crazy" or "man-haters" to describe women who are passionate feminists, which you and I both know are wrong. Being a feminist is nothing any woman, or man for that matter, should be ashamed of. Feminism means believing that men and women should have equal social, economic, and political rights - which I wouldn’t describe as crazy.

If you’re upset about somebody slut shaming your friend, and someone tells you you’re irrational because “it's true” don’t listen to them; you don’t need that negativity in your life. It’s a known double standard that men are praised for being highly sexually active while the opposite is shown for girls. If it's cool for guys to go around sleeping with women, how come the same social standard isn’t there for girls as well? I found myself running into these questions, especially in college where I hear boys slut shaming girls that they don’t even know. This made me extremely infuriated, and people have called me or others “crazy” for speaking out on it, which is really aggravating because I shouldn’t be labeled as crazy for making a valid point just because it's uncommon that people actually speak out on it.

What I don’t understand the most is how other women could be against feminism. Yup, it’s a thing that some women are against feminism. Do you who are “against feminism” realize that without feminism you basically would have zero rights? Without the feminist activists, you wouldn’t be able to vote or even work the same type of job as a man. If you honestly believe that feminism should’ve never existed, then I suggest you forget about college and just be a housewife because that’s basically the message that’s sent when you say things like that.

Another thing to address that many aren’t aware of is feminism is not all about females! Woah! We want men to have equality too, surprising right? As feminists, we believe that men should be able to act sensitive, and submissive and not be labeled as less of a man, as well as the fact that a man can have a great sense of style without being labeled as “gay” or “queer” for that reason alone. We don’t hate men, we don’t only care about females, but we do care about equality for all.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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Poetry On Odyssey: Light A Candle

It's what is in bold that matters. In love, in life, in everything.


Light a candle when you make love; one that smells like lavender or sugar cookie, something relaxing or something sweet.

Buy her flowers and chocolates from Dove; pink roses and dark chocolate will do.

Plan a date; Chinese takeout and star gazing on the hood of your car.

Plan a trip; to anywhere.

Pick the movie; comedy, action, romance or whatever you please.

Bite her lip; softly.

Hold her hand; fingers intertwined.

Let her cry; on your shoulder for as long as she needs.

Be the overly nice, loving, sweet guy; never stop being that guy.

Tell her your secrets; all of them.

Tell her she is beautiful; as often as you can.

Tell her you love her over and over until she knows that it's true; she undoubtedly loves you that much too.

Make her dinner; Italian is nice.

Make her gifts; something from the heart, with an inside joke and some soul.

Make your life together pure bliss; smiles, laughter and love. So much love.

Remember her favorite color; it's red.

And ask her to meet your mother; that's terrifying.

Give her your undivided attention; text her good morning, good afternoon and goodnight and please don't ignore her when she just wants to fight.

And never forget to mention all the things you love most about her; her curly hair, her crooked smile and her dorky laugh.

The way she sarcastically says "yes sir" when you demand that you kiss her; it's adorable, rather juvenile.

Take her mini golfing, bowling and shopping; she hates all of that but with you it's not so bad.

Laugh and laugh like you forgot how to stop it; she will probably snort she's laughing so hard.

Sing to her; her favorite songs.

Get a dog with her; she's allergic though so be picky.

Buy a house; she wants to do that on her own, but it would be better with you.

Get down on one knee; surrounded by the autumn leaves.

Do everything with her; instead of with me.

Be her best friend; that's all that she wants.

Be all that you can; for her, for you.

Be the very best man.

But don't you ever forget

In the mix of this love

I was the one that told you

To light a candle and buy her chocolates from Dove.

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