An Open Letter To The Mom I Took For Granted

An Open Letter To The Mom I Took For Granted

You were, and still are, the most important and best part of my life and I am sorry for everything I put you through.

Moving away to college has made me come to many realizations. The most recent one is how much I miss my mom and how much I took for granted when it came to her. So, Mom here is a letter that I know won't make up for all the times I underappreciated you while I was home, but I hope it will make you feel good and know that I love you and I am missing you terribly.

Dear Mom (or Sher Bear if you like),

You have been a constant rock in my life. You have been everything a mother should be and more. I cannot even begin to tell you everything you have done for me because that would take years.

Now that I have not seen you in nearly three months, I have realized all the things I took for granted and all the things I miss. Not just things I miss about home and being with family, but things you did for me and the feeling your presence brought to me.

I remember just when I started to take you for granted and think I could do everything on my own. It was that time in my life when everyone said it would happen. From 8th grade and all through high school I thought I had it figured out.

I was moody, I was determined to be independent, I thought I knew everything about life and what to expect. I tested you and pushed your buttons. I treated you horribly more days than not. I gave you attitude about every little thing, and when all you wanted to do was talk, I would have my headphones in trying to block out the world.

Looking back, I am disgusted with how I treated you. It seemed that every little thing you did annoyed me and I was constantly snapping at you. I never asked your advice on things. And, I know we joke about this one, but I wouldn't even hug you properly.

I feel so bad for everything I have ever done to make you feel unhappy.

Despite all the things I put you threw, you loved me just like a mother should love their child: unconditionally. You forgave me instantly and still loved me despite my attitudes and moods and snappy comments at you.

Now that I am three states and miles and miles away from you and everything else familiar to me, I am able to realize just how horrible I was to you. I am wishing you were here with me and I always had you by my side.

I wish I could come home to you and have you ask me how my day was. This time I wouldn't get annoyed at you for asking, I would tell you anything you wanted to know. You listen and you actually care and some days that is all I need.

I wish I could go to you after a hard or stressful day (which is multiple times a week) and give you a proper hug and let you comfort me and give me advice. I miss having the ability to do that even though I took that for granted before.

Your random texts with a picture and a quote about how much you love me mean so much to me. I know you tell me you try not to text or call a lot, but don't hold back! I love it when I get a text or a call from you and I could talk for hours now. I miss you so much.

I wish I could go on a spontaneous errand to the grocery store, or sneak out and go shopping without telling Dad, or stop somewhere to eat (also without telling Dad) with you.

I took for granted everything you provided me as a mom. You were someone that was always and will always be there for me. When everyone else in my life leaves or doesn't care, I know I will have you to lean on.

You are an amazing woman.

You could have the worst day of your life and you would still come home with a smile, try to make a good dinner for all of us, and ask everyone how their day was. You would put your family above yourself.

You have taught me so much about life: staying true to who you are, being kind to others, always having a strong relationship with God. Your life lessons have definitely prepared me for some crazy situations here at college.

So, Mom, thank you for being you. Thank you for being so amazing and caring. Thank you for being so selfless. Thank you for loving me (and my brothers) so much and making sure we have the best life.

I am sorry for all those years of bickering and snappy comments and the attitudes. I can't promise that it won't ever happen again, but please know that I do love you so much. As cliche as it sounds, I really didn't know what I had until it was gone.

You are one of the biggest role models in my life Momma. You are so inspiring and beautiful and wonderful. I am so glad God gave me you as a mother. I wouldn't know what to do without you.

I love you so much, Mom.



P.S. I can't wait to see you for your birthday so we can shop some more without telling Dad.

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Dear Mom, Now That I'm Older

A letter to the woman who made me the woman I am today.

Dear Mom,

Now that I'm older, I definitely appreciate you a lot more than I did as a kid. I appreciate the little things, from the random text messages to constantly tagging me on Facebook in your "funny" photos and sending me pins of stuff I like on Pinterest. Now that I'm older, I can look back and realize that everything I am is all because of you. You've made me strong but realize it's okay to cry. You've shown me how a mother gives everything to her children to give them a better life than she had, even when she's left with nothing. And, most importantly you've taught me to never give up and without this, I would not be where I am today.

Mom, now that I'm older, I realize that you're the best friend I'm ever going to have. You cheer me on when I try new things and support me in deciding to be whatever person I want to be. Thank you for never telling me I can't do something and helping me figure out ways to be the best woman I can be. Your love for me is unconditional. They say true, unconditional love can only come from God, but mom, I think you're a pretty close second.

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Now that I'm older, I don't get to see you as much. But not seeing you as much just makes the times I do get to see you the absolute best, and I look forward to it every time. Now that I'm older, I'm not going to live at home. But, I promise to always come back because I know the door is always open. Your house is always going to be my home, and no other place is going to be the same.

Now that I'm older, I realize how much I miss you taking care of me. I miss you making me dinner, making sure I was doing well in school, and taking me to endless appointments. I miss you waking me up for school and then waking me up again because I didn't listen the first time.

But, Mom, now that I'm older, I can see all that you've done for me. I can look back and see how big of a brat I was but you still loved me (and let me live) anyways. I can understand why you did certain things and frankly, you're one bada** of a woman.

To have you as my mom and my best friend has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. So, Mom, now that I'm older, thank you, for everything.


Your Daughter

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To The Mom I Appreciated Back Then, But Appreciate So Much More NOW

I hope you're proud.


I started writing this articles about three to four months ago when I told my Mom how excited I was for this new opportunity before "I am proud of you" was said she screamed, "when do I get an article??"

Well, Mom, I told you never so you would get off my back, but here I am - writing you the article you deserve.


I wrote about this in my letter to you and dad about your divorce but it reigns true, going to college showed me so much. I found people cursing their mother on the phone, never wanting to go home to see their mom and hating their mother with everything they had. I sat there in disbelief. How can you hate someone who did everything they could to give you the life you live? Who got you to where you are now.

I appreciated you before, but college made me realize how incredible you are.

Mom, thank you for raising me as a single parent - I know that Dad was always a big part of my life too but you did so much for me. Thank you for understanding me and what I needed even when I was not vocal about it. I never told you what I was feeling but you always seemed to know when something was off. Thank you for giving the best hugs, every time something is going wrong or I am missing home all I can picture an image is coming home to hug you.

That warm embrace that through everything was always there. Thank you for encouraging me, pushing me and never letting me give up. Thank you for showing me a strong woman, one that refuses to accept the glass ceiling, one who refused to let anyone get in the way of her and her goals. Thank you for loving me, supporting me and believing in me when I refused to do so for myself.

I know there have been times when we get rocky and our relationship was not perfect, it is a mother-daughter thing for sure, but thank you for showing me every time that your love, care, and devotion to who I am is unwavering.

Your taco chicken will forever be my least favorite meal and your singing will always be the last thing I want to hear. Yet I would not trade those for the world, I would not trade your crazy outlook and insistent ways for anything else.

I will never be able to repay you for what you did for me, but I will forever be so thankful and appreciative of it, I hope I make you proud.

Love you most,

Your Daughter

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