An Open Letter To The Girl Who's Given Up

An Open Letter To The Girl Who's Given Up

Chivalry is alive and well.

Dear Hopeless,

You're on your last string. You feel like you should just give up on boys and dating, or even love altogether. Becoming a cat lady doesn't seem like that bad of an idea at this point. This "love" thing seems more like a myth like Big Foot or the Loch Ness Monster every day. Nobody seems to be working out for you. You see all of these happy people that surround you and you envy them. How can anyone be that happy with someone else? You look around and it seems like all of your friends are in these fantastic relationships and here you are. You're strong. You're independent, but somehow you still feel like you're missing something. Ladies, you should never let the love of a man define who you are. But, some days, you know how good it would feel to have it.

We say that we need a man, but often in the same breath say "all the good men are married". Well, there's some truth behind that. All good men are married because they've made it. They're on the other side of this terrible hookup culture that we have created in 2016. I can promise you something, though, they were flawed when they first began, too. Nobody is perfect, and nobody can be perfect together without trying. We also tend to say that men today lack the basic manners and gentleman-like characteristics that thrived in our parents' and grandparents' generations. This isn't true, either. Chivalry is alive and well, you just need to let yourself be open to it.

When you finally find "him", you need to make him into the "good" man he can be for you. Everyone has their own definition of good. People aren't made as puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly. It takes time, patience, and effort for anything to be successful, so I question why we give up so easily on relationships. Maybe instead of putting down the man who's trying to build himself up, you can provide him with the tools he needs and work together. While you're helping him, you may realize that you aren't as perfect for him as you first seemed, so you get to work on yourself then, too. Then, you'll finally have this "good" relationship because you'll be spending your time as a team, working for each other, instead of against one another. Remember, it's always easier to build from the broken pieces, than it is to tear down a tower.

Apparently love is this magical journey that comes to you when you least expect it. Sometimes it's with the least expected person, too. I'm a firm believer that there's someone out there for everyone. Sometimes these people are strangers you meet. Sometimes they're your best friends. Sometimes they're someone who you never imagined yourself falling for. Every Lois Lane has her Superman. Every Minnie has her Mickey. Every Bella has her Edward. The best advice that I could give to you is to never give up and work on yourself until your dream drops down from the sky and always remember, if the chance is there; take it.


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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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12 You Should Know About Your Significant Other After You've Been Dating 12 Months Or More

You have multiple food orders memorized.


Dating someone for a year+ means that you are bound to know things you might not have known in the early months of the relationship. You also might act differently than you did at the beginning of the relationship.

Here are 12 things you know when you've been dating for over a year.

1. Clothing size, shoe size

This one you can probably be able to figure out early in the relationship. But, you start to keep in the back of your mind and think of that person when you see clothes or a pair of shoes they might like.

2. You can guess what they are going to text back

Especially if it is just a casual conversation about nothing in particular. You know their go-to responses.

3. You have multiple food orders memorized

Their food orders, of course.

4. You have that one TV show you can put on and neither of you will complain

And that is "The Office."

5. You don't get jealous

How could you have lasted in a relationship for over a year and not have any trust?

6. You know likes and dislikes

And can assume if they are going to like or dislike something.

7. You got a LONG Snapstreak

474 day streak over here.

8. Their successes make you just as happy as it makes them

Seeing your significant other do well and accomplish something great is just as rewarding as if you had done the same.

9. Your friends are his friends and his friends are your friends

And you can all hang out together.

10. You have your favorite restaurants

That we always end up going to.

11. You've met everyone in the family and extended family

And you feel like part of the family.

12. You know extremely personal things about each other

That you would not necessarily share with the public.

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